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In more than 5 years, more than 500 pairs of boyfriends and girlfriends have been promoted, and more than 200 couples have been married.
Xiong Da (pseudonym) is a post-85 generation, at the beginning, in order to find a partner, he launched a dating community in social **, this community is mostly young single men and women. Later, as the community gradually expanded, he found that more and more people became acquainted with each other because of his community, and finally fell in love and entered the marriage hall, and his community became an online "blind date platform".
However, he resolutely distinguishes himself from matchmakers and the blind date industry. "This has always been my side hustle, I just want to be pure, build a platform for everyone to make friends, and we don't have ** fees, introduction fees, etc. He said.
[1] An online "singles club" opened for the purpose of getting rid of singles
In 2018, Xiong Da broke up with his girlfriend who had been in love for more than 2 years, and with the idea of finding a partner and passing his spare time at the same time, he spontaneously organized a single dating community.
At that time, a social platform supported the traffic of the community function, and the aggregation of online and offline allowed the organization to develop rapidly. In addition to organizing online social chats, he will also organize some offline activities, where group friends make dinner appointments and play script killing.
He said that up to now, the total number of people who have joined his community has reached more than 15,000, and the number of dating groups divided by different characteristics such as occupation, region, and hobbies has also reached more than 100.
Xiong Dawei organizes offline activities for group friends.
There is a certain age limit for entering the dating community of Xiong University, and the participants are limited to single men and women aged 25-35. Xiong Da said that there was a young girl born after 95 before, and the purpose of getting off the single was just because she had never been in love before, and she wanted to prove that she was loved, so she found the most aggressive one from the suitors, and broke up at the speed of light after 3 months.
Before joining the group, Xiong will chat with each applicant for a few minutes to understand their age, occupation and other basic information, so as to recommend the applicant to join a more suitable community.
But he said he never asked about the applicant's income and family background, which is what he believes is the most essential difference between his community and the blind date agency. He hopes that the people who come here will start as friends, as pure as when they were students or in free love, and attract each other because of their hobbies, personalities, conversations, and eye contacts, "rather than matching their worth like doing business." "The economic base is important, but it is by no means the only one. He said.
Xiong Da said that in the community, everyone can chat with each other, all over the world, but there is one point, the purpose of the best people cannot be pure, and everyone will spontaneously maintain a good atmosphere in the community. There are some people who are confused with "impure purposes", and they will also be quickly reported and kicked out of the group chat.
[2] If you want to get off the list quickly, you must have self-awareness
Xiong Da said that in the more than five years since the establishment of the community, more than 500 couples of boyfriends and girlfriends have been promoted, and more than 200 couples have been married.
He said that there was a couple that impressed him deeply, the boy graduated from a well-known university in China and was one of the top ten singers on campus, and the girl was a teacher who liked **. The two met in the community and fell in love very closely, and the two successfully came together after several offline activities, and later when they got married, the two also sent him candy.
They now have children and live happily. The beauty of that kind of love makes people feel very natural and natural, just like love in film and television dramas, but this does happen around us. ”
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However, Xiong Da said that there are also those who have been looking for a long time but have not met a suitable one. He knows a girl who has participated in quite a few similar single community activities since 2016, but has never been successful.
In his opinion, if you want to get off the list quickly, the most important thing is to have self-awareness and clear positioning. It's also important to step out of your comfort zone and get in touch with different people.
He said that not everyone can do the above, "many people generally lack the education of love", and that there is too little experience and opportunity to deal with heterosexual relationships during the growth process, and the further shrinking of the social aspect after work will exacerbate this dilemma. He has also seen many people put their positioning too high, and as a result, they can't find a suitable partner for a long time, and finally give some bad agencies an opportunity to take advantage of and be deceived.
He said that most of the people who join his community have similar problems, their circle is relatively small, the contact is relatively fixed, and it is difficult to find a suitable partner among them, and some of them have never been in a relationship before.
To this end, he also specially invited a psychological counseling teacher to hold an open class on intimate relationships to answer questions for the group members who participated in the activity. "But the most important thing is to dare to contact more people, don't be afraid of failure, know more people, you will definitely meet the right one. ”
Nine News.
Reporter: Wang Longxiang.
Editor: Chen Wei.
Source: Courtesy of the interviewee.