Some fans said: "I worked hard to get the WeChat of the girl I liked, but I didn't know how to start?"
I finally mustered up the courage and chatted with the other party a few times, but the other party always likes to send 'en', 'oh', and 'heh'. Don't know how to answer at all?
Let's think about it from another perspective, if you are a girl, the other party will ask you as soon as they come up: What are your parents doing? How much Q do you make a month? What do you do? Do you also feel annoyed?
In the early stage of understanding, the choice of topic is very important, today the root of the tree will talk about the chat skills at different stages in the process of getting along with girls, so that you can learn and use them. Quickly get familiar with girls, this is truth or dare, don't say much, come directly to the skills.
When you just add WeChat with a girl, don't be in a hurry to talk about some over-the-top topics, such as asking people when you come up - how old are you this year? How many boyfriends have you talked to? It's easy for girls to think of you as a sea king who casts a net and think you're frivolous.
You can start by understanding the other person's basic information, such as:
Love to cook?
Is there a lot of pressure at work?
What movies do you like to watch?
What do you like to do? etc. to find topics.
For example, if you open her circle of friends and find that she likes to eat hot pot very much, you can say: "I guess you must be from Sichuan".
Then the girl will wonder why you say that, and your conversation will start in a pleasant atmosphere.
Through such humorous expressions, girls are immediately attracted to you.
The girl will definitely ask you why you know, and then you will say that you have looked at her circle of friends and found out that she has a group of foodies. Thus the topic of both sides began to unfold.
The primary topic is to talk about some small things in daily life first, to eliminate the defensive psychology of girls and accumulate trust points!
If you really can't find any topic, you can start by talking to yourself and then ask her by the way, which is easy to create a relaxed atmosphere, rather than checking the household registration.
For example, when talking about daily life, you can start by saying:
Have you watched the recently released xxx movie" Share the status, ask the girl about the status,
I haven't eaten either, do you have any recommendations? From her state to continue the topic.
In short, in the process of chatting, you must not be too anxious, such as asking questions to girls in a row, so that you seem to have a strong purpose and it is easy to expose your sense of need.
This stage is characterized by the improvement of the relationship with the girl, and the initial understanding of each other, but the girl's heart value for you is not enough.
So chatThe purpose of the day is to increase the heart rate and make the relationship heat up quickly.
At this stage, there is usually no awkward conversation, and you can talk about more in-depth topics, such as your childhood and past. "I have scored 0 in mathematics, participated in the national physics competition, served as the president of the student union, organized the Youth Volunteer Association, etc., and told some experiences that can show your strengths, characteristics, and attractiveness to girls."
Or talk about your short-term goals, "certification, grading, traveling abroad, promotion and salary increase, becoming a CEO, marrying Bai Fumei" can ......Make her more aware of your recent state and realize that you are a self-motivated boy.
Another example is to show that you can protect the girl and give her a sense of security. It can be said:
When I was a child, the boys in the next class always bullied the girls in our class, and once, when I saw it, I fought with them directly, and they never dared again.
Remember, no matter what you talk about, the most important thing is to make her discover your strengths and thus attract her.
But be careful not to be too deliberate when showing, and in the end it will be counterproductive, and the key is to use a way that she can accept.
Third, the ambiguous stage
The characteristics of this stage are that there are more than friends and less than lovers.
So the purpose of the chat is to take that step and promote to an ambiguous relationship.
At this stage, the most important thing you need to do is to deepen her feelings for you and learn more about her view of love. You might as well ask her, what qualities do you value most in boys? What does ideal love look like?
At the same time, let her trust you, see certainty in you, and you can talk to her about some plans for the future.
For example; I hope that I can earn a monthly salary of more than 10,000 yuan as much as possible within a year, and I can save a down payment within five years, so that my future girlfriend will not have to worry about the house. Let her feel that you are serious about her, and she can choose you without worries and with confidence.
And, by planning this, you can make the girl feel that you are an organized person.
AbsolutelyHow to say it specifically, it should be formulated according to your actual situation, and you should avoid saying big things and causing disgust among girls.
The best way to get closer to each other through chat is to talk about what topics at what stage, and never talk about topics that don't match this stage.