I once saw a husband's plea for help online:
I am already very tired from work during the day, and my wife gets up at night to breastfeed the child and calls me to get up to accompany me, what kind of mentality is this? ”
He was full of grievances: "She woke me up several times and asked me to get up to accompany me, and the child frequented night milk at night, and I was really upset." ”
It can be seen that he doesn't seem to have even basic empathy.
If you wake up a few times and are upset, then how should a woman who is frequently woken up and coaxed by her children every night and is annoyed by her husband?
He is counting on his other half of the mother's boundless love, relying on love to generate electricity, and can also beautify the baby as a kind of "rest".
Kim Ji-young, who was born in 82", has a high degree and has his own ideals. After getting married, Kim Ji-young had to become a full-time wife due to the opposition of her mother-in-law and the need to take care of the baby.
Kim Ji-young was tired, but her husband turned a blind eye and only said, "It's okay, let's rest for a while." ”
With a baby, housework, is it really rest?
A father, after the birth of his child, slept in a separate room with his wife in order to ensure that he had enough sleep. As a result, when the child was one year old and three months old, the mother who took care of the baby 24 hours a day had a sudden cerebral infarction, and was pulled out of the ghost gate after a whole night of rescue.
It was only then that the father came to his senses: "They are 'cows', they are nannies, whether they are gods or not, they will be tired." "The chef is an employer, an employee, a maintenance worker, a financial planner, ......But they are human after all
It's hard enough to bring a baby, but what about housework?
In a documentary, Royce and Brianna have been married for two years, but their daily communication is nothing but quarrels. What are you arguing about?
Brianna is a stay-at-home wife who not only takes care of her two children, but also takes care of all the household chores. Royce was full of grumbling:
She stays at home, is very relaxed, and plays happily with the children, but I have to go out to work every day, and I just think she should take on more housework. ”
He counted his wife's use of cereal instead of hot rice: "Isn't it just taking care of the children and doing housework at home?" Why can't I get home from a tiring day at work and still have a hot meal? ”
He disliked his wife for giving most of his energy to his children, and his figure began to be out of shape. He couldn't hold back his complaints and disgust, and confidently decided to show his wife how simple it is to do housework and take care of the baby.
So, the night of "* slap in the face" began. Halfway through the meal, two "little beasts" take turns to appear: the little one cries as soon as he puts it down, and the older one jumps around in the kitchen. Before the meal was finished, he was already tired and had a sore back, tossed for several hours to no avail, and finally reluctantly ordered takeout.
The time for a meal made him want to go back to work for a few days to "relax". How many husbands have been quiet in their years, and it is his wife who is moving forward with a load?
According to the Blue Book of Social Mentality released by the Social Psychology Research Center of the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences, Chinese men are generally more satisfied with marriage than women.
Some netizens said: "After getting married, someone will serve, do laundry and cook, give birth to a baby and take care of a baby, take care of the family, and go out to work to make money to subsidize the family, in other words, I am also satisfied." ”
Absolutely! When a man gets married, he is an uncle! Women go to work with their children as nannies. "It's probably true that most men do less to their families than women. ”
The economic level is high, and women can be independent, but they still have to bear the housework from the other half at home, of course, the satisfaction is low. "I'm happy to find a paid babysitter. ”
You see, the essence of "nanny marriage" is actually this: in this era, most women go out to work, but men do not return to the family.