The fate of love is always unpredictable, it is violent at first, but it ends up being a breakup.
However, the injured party always takes risks and believes that the relationship will not break down.
Actually, there is no need to guess or fantasize. Whether it is a husband and wife or a lover, if the following two points are missing, it is doomed, and there is no need to maintain it.
01: Lack of dedication.
It has been said that giving is the nourishment of emotional relationships, the nourishment and growth of the tree of love.
In the relationship between a man and a woman, giving refers not only to material donations, but also to spiritual devotion and consideration.
The cruelest thing about love is that it reaches its peak from the beginning, and every step that follows, no matter how hard both parties try, no matter how fast or slow, will only go downhill.
When two people start dating, both partners spend a lot of time and energy with each other, leaning on each other and trying to meet all of each other's needs.
This is because of a love that cannot be controlled by oneself and the desire to give everything for the other person.
But as time goes on, when the flame of love is extinguished, you can't wait to quickly draw a line and are no longer willing to give for your partner.
So when you love, you don't care who gives more, but when you don't, you worry about who sacrifices too much.
Just like Chen Yu and Zhong Xiaoqing in "Thirty Years Old", Cheng Yu is tired of Zhong Xiaoqing and says that marriage is just a safe haven for one person. He pushed his wife out and curled up in the harbor to avoid the wind. Warm.
He lined up the fish in the tank in front of his wife. When his wife became pregnant, he subconsciously thought about how to cope with this early death. When my wife is not good at housework, I scold her, and even my mother. My father-in-law came to help me.
Chen Yu himself did not contribute anything to the family.
In the end, Zhong Xiaoqin couldn't bear it anymore and chose to leave.
Of course, at the end of the story, Chen Yu regained his wife Zhong Xiaoqin through hard work. It was his continuous efforts and dedication that changed his ex-wife's mind.
02: Lack of tolerance.
Tolerance means knowing how to put yourself in the shoes of others, trusting without hesitation, and being honest with others.
It is like a lubricant in a relationship, making two people more harmonious and beautiful in the process of getting along.
Tolerance means accepting each other's strengths and weaknesses, understanding each other's thoughts and feelings, and respecting each other's choices and decisions.
They are human beings, but they are also individuals.
When love is at its strongest, everything about each other is beautiful, funny, and vivid. However, when the passion wears off, people inadvertently see each other's shortcomings and constantly make bad judgments about each other.
When disagreements and conflicts arise between two people, the lack of tolerance can lead to mutual accusations and attacks, which can lead to a broken relationship.
It's not just a matter of disrupting harmony;People in romantic relationships are hit harder than other emotional relationships, and their feelings and self-esteem are damaged.
What distinguishes love from other emotions is that there should be trust and preference instead of advice and guidance anyway.
If we can tolerate each other's shortcomings and even mistakes, and face problems with understanding and respect, we can overcome difficulties and feel each other's love and warmth. This feeling will never cool down, let alone go away.
Whether it's a couple or a relationship, if you don't have the two elements of giving and inclusion, your relationship will end.
Only those who have experienced it will understand that these two are much more important than the passion of the moment. These are two-person telescopes for long-term observation.
Without devotion and tolerance, our eyes become like a dark curtain and cannot see the same distance.
So even when looking for a partner, you should be careful to look for someone who fits these two points. Only then will you know what true happiness is, and you can both save a lot of money if you want to. Power allows you to relax naturally, harmonize with each other, and receive ongoing blessings.