When the wife closes the door to communication, how should we open the door?
First of all, we have to admit that communication is actually an art and a science.
However, if your communication attempts keep failing, it may be because you haven't mastered the right "way to open".
Like, no matter how much you love it, if you don't know how to adjust the buttons of the keyboard, you may always press the "noise" instead of the "melody".
Understand her silence because she doesn't feel the need to say it, or because she doesn't know how to say it?
Sometimes, her reluctance to communicate may not be due to resistance to the topic itself, but due to some unspeakable pressure or worry.
At this time, the best way is to show your patience and understanding, rather than being irritated and pushing.
Try to put yourself in her shoes, and maybe you'll find something different.
Sometimes, the failure of communication is not due to the reluctance of both parties to communicate, but the "formal" communication environment that makes people feel nervous and oppressive.
Try a casual chat while walking together, or exchanging feelings on the way to the supermarket, this informal communication setup may miraculously open her heart.
Humor is the golden key to open people's hearts.
Of course, we're not talking about the kind of jokes or self-deprecation, but the kind of humor that makes people feel comfortable and understood.
Interspersing light-hearted jokes in the conversation can ease the tension of the conversation, but remember not to overdo it so that the other person doesn't think you're not serious enough.
Many times, we think that communication is all about saying our thoughts and opinions, but in fact, it is more important to listen.
Real communication needs to be a two-way street, try to make yourself a good listener, and you will find that many times, the wife just needs someone who can listen to her.
If you've tried the above methods and still don't get results, it may be time to seek help from a professional.
Marriage counselling or counselling is not something to be ashamed of, on the contrary, it can help you understand each other better and find effective ways to communicate.
On the issue of "my wife is reluctant to communicate with me", sometimes what we need may not be an immediate solution, but a little patience, a little try, and a little bit of humor.
It's like fumbling for a key without a label, and it takes trial and error again and again to finally open the door to the heart.
Let's use patience, understanding and humor to unlock this "level" and make communication a bridge between you and me.
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