As parents, we always want our children to find a good partner and live a happy life.
Parents, especially those with daughters, will be particularly concerned about their children's marriages. When a daughter marries into another family, it means that she has chosen a different life. If you're not careful, you could be marginalized and fall into the abyss.
In modern society, cars and houses have become the standard for marriage. As parents, we always want our children to marry into a good family and live an easier and less stressful life.
However, choosing a good in-law is more important than external conditions such as a car and a house.
If you meet such an in-law, no matter how good the conditions are, don't get married.
A very disturbing phenomenon is taking place in the marriage and relationship market. When choosing a partner, it is necessary to have not only a basic evaluation of the other person, but also a basic understanding of the other person's parents.
Your health is your top priority.
If the parents are not in good health, it will drag down the child and seriously affect the quality of life of the child.
There are examples of this around me. My cousin and in-laws are not in good health and both have cancer.
Over the years, my in-laws' treatment has depleted my family's savings. Originally, my brother-in-law and I earned a lot of money, and it was easy to buy a car and a house. However, because of all the medical expenses, most of the people around me have bought houses and still live in rental homes.
Health is the capital of the revolution. With health, you can create your own world. If you don't feel well and continue to get sick, the foundation of everything will fall apart.
If a stepparent is in poor health, this can be a huge challenge for the child and have serious consequences for their lives.
If you meet such a stepparent, you need to be mentally prepared. Careful choice is needed, and blind optimism cannot be made.
Marriage is not only about choosing a lover, but also about choosing a family.
When choosing a family, the first thing to consider is personality. No matter how rich you are, don't choose a family with bad character.
It is difficult for a person with a bad personality and a bad character to be a reliable person.
Such people are often selfish in life, only concerned about their own interests, and neglect the harmony and happiness of the family.
Within the family, there may be a strong sense of control and oppression, completely ignoring the feelings of the daughter-in-law, and when the daughter is married, she is only violently exploited without any consideration.
Moreover, if the in-laws have a bad personality, it is easy to bring bad family style and corrupt the feng shui of the whole family.
If you have been with such a person for a long time, you may become unable to distinguish right from wrong, or be influenced by selfishness and take detours.
Stay away from people with bad personalities. If you don't, they will end up plotting against you and harming your quality of life.
In-laws without boundaries are terrible. They treat their children as their property, lack a minimum of respect for them, and trample on their self-esteem at will.
They don't understand etiquette, they don't know the boundaries, they do their own thing, they don't allow their children to have any rebuttals, and they point fingers at them.
They like to be in control of their children's lives. They judge every word and every action. If children don't obey, they kidnap them from a moral point of view and force them to obey.
Everyone needs a certain amount of personal space and freedom in their marriage. However, stepparents without boundaries often interfere too much in the lives of their sons and daughters-in-law, making them feel suffocated. Such stepparents often disregard their own feelings and impose their ideas on their sons and daughters-in-law. Such a marriage is destined to be unhappy.
Generally speaking, children raised by parents who are so controlling are weak and obedient, and are more obedient to their parents. They will not betray you. They become a target for stepparents, and they only sting. Their daughters-in-law went crazy and their marriage became catastrophic.
Marriage is not just a matter for two people, but also a union of two families. In this marriage, the role of in-laws is very important.
Be sure to tell your daughter not to take the RV thing too seriously. It is also important to choose your partner's parents carefully.
At the same time, as parents, we also have to take good care of our daughters, choose a good family, and let them live a happy life.