"One hundred thousand! Each of our families can save my father's life by paying 100,000 yuan. ”
The youngest son was crying and pleading with his brothers, but in exchange, they were all silent:It's gone, let's keep it.
In the end, the eldest brother spoke, and everyone chose to acquiesce, and all of them decided the life and death of the father who had raised them for decades.
At that time, the 69-year-old man was lying on the hospital bed, his whole body was filled with various instruments, listening to his children talk about himself as if they were discussing goods, his life and parenting grace were not worth 300,000, and he silently shed tears.
Father is critically ill, save? Don't save?
In October 2015, 69-year-old Zi Congxuan was sent to the hospital by his five children, but at this time he had no reaction on the stretcher, and the doctor immediately sent him to the emergency room after receiving Zi Congxuan.
The doctor quickly said that it was a cerebral hemorrhage, and then the attending physician immediately asked Zi Congxuan to do a CT examination, because all problems related to the brain are big problems and must be checked clearly before proceeding to the next step.
Outside the emergency room, the children gathered around the doctor to ask the doctor about his father's condition, and the doctor replied that Zi Congxuan had a cerebral hemorrhage, and only after the examination did they know the specific situation.
Then the doctor began to ask Zi Congxuan's children how Zi Congxuan had problems, and after listening to the questioning, the daughter told Zi Congxuan's condition before the onset of illness.
She said that Zi Congxuan is usually in good health, but he has a little high blood pressure, but because of taking medicine, his high blood pressure is also well controlled, and he has never been sick, so he can still work in the field, and he is working on dozens of acres of land at home.
It's just that the weather has changed too much in the past two days Zi Congxuan caught a cold, so Zi Congxuan didn't take blood pressure medicine in the past two days, because he had a bad stomach and couldn't take medicine every day, and he didn't want to take blood pressure medicine after taking cold medicine.
When she came home from work in the afternoon, Zi Congxuan was fine, but at about four or five o'clock, her daughter found that Zi Congxuan was a little wrong, and he began to have convulsions, but Zi Congxuan was still very sober when she had convulsions, and after waiting for the ambulance, Zi Congxuan's consciousness began to be gone.
After asking about the patient's condition, the doctor took Zi Congxuan to do an examination, and the results of the examination were indeed cerebral hemorrhage, but the problem was that the area of Zi Congxuan's cerebral hemorrhage was too large, and the brain stem was full of blood, and compressing the brain stem directly caused Zi Congxuan's breathing disorder.
If you want to do surgery, the doctor must find the specific location of Zi Congxuan's cerebral hemorrhage, and what caused his cerebral hemorrhage, and in the subsequent examination, the doctor found that Zi Congxuan was not a simple cerebral hemorrhage, he may be an aneurysm.
After finding the situation, the doctor called Zi Congxuan's children over, and the doctor wanted to tell them that the risk of surgery was very high, and Zi Congxuan was likely to not be able to get off the operating table, and the family must be psychologically prepared.
The children cried when they heard the doctor's words, but they couldn't give up, so they asked the doctor to do his best.
However, the doctor told them that the risk of aneurysm surgery is really very large, and the probability of death is also very large, and it is not so easy to save him, and the surgery will take three more times.
As soon as the five children heard that the probability of death was high, their hearts collapsed, they couldn't accept this reality, but they were helpless, and that powerless feeling had been entangled in them.
Then the eldest brother asked the doctor how much the operation would cost, but the doctor said that it was difficult to say, which meant that they would need to spend a lot of money.
Then the doctor also said that you can choose to be conservative**, but there are very few conservative** survivors.
The doctor's words are like a "death notice", although the doctor didn't say how much it costs, but it is absolutely impossible to have 300,000, and even more, because in addition to surgery, everything that follows up also costs money.
But their children are ordinary farmers, and they have so much money, so the doctor asked them to discuss whether to have surgery or be conservative**.
The huge cost of surgery, hopeless surgery, this choice is actually very, very difficult, the children are reluctant to their father, as long as there is a glimmer of hope, they have to operate, but the doctor also said that there is no hope for surgery, so they feel uncomfortable but do not know what to do.
Outside the rescue room, several of them cried, and in the rescue room, Zi Congxuan was still suffering from a cerebral hemorrhage, and time was life at this time.
No one dared to say surgery or no surgery, no one dared to make a decision, but someone had to stand up and make a choice, so the boss was pushed out, he told the doctor to be conservative **, and signed his name.
These words should be the most difficult words for the boss to say in his life, and this name should also be the most reluctant to write in the boss's life, but he can't make a decision if he doesn't make a decision, because his father is still waiting for a decision from them in the rescue room!
After signing the letter, the doctor notified them of a "bombshell", it is difficult to say whether Zi Congxuan can survive the night, once the heartbeat stops, then everything is over.
Time really waits for no one, it is only a few hours from the onset of illness to critical illness, and it is only a few hours from heartbeat and breathing to weak breathing and slow heartbeat.
Their children just wanted to see their father immediately, and wanted to see their father again, so they entered the emergency room and saw their father, who couldn't move or speak, and tears flowed down again.
In front of the hospital bed, they once again discussed whether the decision they had just made was right, and the children were really reluctant to save their father like this, but the hope of saving their lives was too small, and the huge cost of surgery was also a problem, and they were reluctant but had no way.
Although Zi Congxuan couldn't speak, he could hear the voice, so he knew that he would not be able to do it soon, and he also knew that his children had chosen to be conservative for the sake of the 300,000 and hopeless surgery in their mouths.
He couldn't open his eyes, but he knew that he was surrounded by his children, and tears flowed down his cheeks from the corners of his eyes, and they were seen by the children, who were crying bitterly around the bed.
No one knows what Zi Congxuan thinks in his heart, but after hearing the children's words, maybe he can understand, and after hearing the children's crying, he may be able to leave with peace of mind.
In the end, several children chose to return to their roots, and they took Zi Congxuan home, wanting to return home from Xuan's roots.
In fact, this incident happened in reality, this is what happened in a real documentary show "Emergency Room Story", so when the show was broadcast, it caused heated discussions on the Internet.
Netizens are seriously polarized about the choice of Zi Congxuan's children, some people think that it is right not to have surgery, but some people feel that they are reluctant to pay in the final analysis.
Spicy comments from netizens
Regarding the practice of Zi Congxuan's children, some netizens said that if their children are sick, then parents will do everything they can to save their lives no matter what, even if the hope is slim, parents will not give up.
But conversely, children don't seem to give that to their parents, and how many children can treat their parents like that?
Some netizens think that isn't it just that a person has an average of 60,000 yuan, how big can it be, if you don't take this money, your father will be gone, and besides, this money is not much, and the money is still important to the father.
Therefore, if they still hesitate about the 60,000 yuan, they will be in vain, and their children should not measure their love for their parents by money.
But some people don't know that the 60,000 yuan is all their belongings, how much income ordinary farmers can have, if they can take out 60,000 yuan in one go, then they must choose surgery, but the doctor also said that even if it is surgery, there is not much hope, so it is understandable that they choose to be conservative.
And even if the operation is done, then the ** and care after the operation, which does not cost money, the patient may also feel painful and physically uncomfortable, which is actually a kind of torture for the patient.
So it's really hard to say right or wrong in this kind of thing, it's human nature to save it, and it's helpless not to save it, if there is a little hope, Zi Congxuan's children will choose surgery, even if they smash the pot and sell iron.
But fortunately, there are also netizens who understand very well, they think that there is nothing wrong with Zi Congxuan's children's approach, in the documentary, Zi Congxuan's children said that they will definitely be saved if they can be saved, but the doctor can't give them any hope.
So in this case, if you pay for the operation, you may face that Zi Congxuan failed to get off the operating table, and the operation fee was also lost, is this considered filial piety?
Conclusion
In fact, it can be seen from the discussion of netizens that everyone will have different opinions because of different understandings of filial piety and different living environments.
Filial piety does not mean that taking money for surgery is filial piety, filial piety should be like parents love their children, children will always pay attention to their parents' physical state, will take time to accompany them, will understand their thoughts, will make them happy, not whoever pays is filial piety.
And some people have never lived in a poor family, they don't know how hard it is to earn money, how important money is, so they can't understand that a family can't pay 60,000 yuan, so they feel that if they can't make this money, they are in vain, and they are not filial.
But the real situation is that people who don't have money still account for the vast majority, and not everyone can easily take out hundreds of thousands.
**Ten Thousand Fans Incentive Plan So filial piety depends on the heart, it is not measured by money, our current social development is very fast, everyone also has their own lives, may invisibly reduce the time with their parents, so we should often go home to see, care more about them, take them out for a walk, maybe these behaviors are what parents really need.
As for the choice of Li Zi Congxuan's children, we can't say much, because for them, making a choice is already a very big problem.
Info**: Tencent** Season 2 of the documentary "ERER Stories".