Text: Cai Leilei
It's very interesting to see a topic today.,The subject first posted his **.,And then asked.,Said.What do you like now that you are handsome and golden, why can't you meet them around you?
The following various answers, I think it is better to think about a question, that is, many people are thinking "What is making money now?" Why can't I see it?”。These two questions seem to be unrelated, but they are actually the same problem, and behind them both point to three words:DeservedAfter concretization, it is probably who you are, what your goals are, what level you are at, what efforts you have made to achieve it, and what costs you are willing to give up.
Who are you in the first place? The higher the level you want, the more you want to sit back and enjoy it, and choose those horses that run out, the higher the requirements for yourself, after all, people are not stupid. And even if you want to choose those horses that may run out in the future through your own vision, even if you do choose, it doesn't mean that these horses will be willing to be involved with you after becoming a thousand horses.
A lot of people seem to be stupid by PUA,It's not that "making you work hard" is PUA, but that you feel that you also have the opportunity to get something for nothing, which is the real PUA.
There are always people around you who have picked up treasures, right, men and women, they have made money, their homes have been demolished, they have picked up good objects, etc., in short, they have obtained something that exceeds their identity and ability-This is what everyone envies, those who have received their due rewards have never been the focus of people's envy, what people want has always been excess returns and unearned gains.
But you will find that those who are not able to control it, those who do not work hard enough, will eventually lose these thingsThis world is actually very fair, anything but "unworthy", there will be a tendency to accelerate the loss, pay attention, not immediately lost, but after a period of time, either be cheated by, or robbed, or things will grow their feet and run on their own. Do you say a** abominable or robbers abominable? Actually, it's you who are hateful, because that's how the law of the world is.
Many people think that they are marrying the wrong person, but have you ever thought that if you hadn't married him, he might not have been as bad as he is now? For example, it is not Lu Pheasant who marries Liu Bang, but you marry Liu Bang, Liu Bang died early in the morning, where did Emperor Taizu come from, right, so Lu Pheasant's success is not because she picked up the treasure of Liu Bang, but because she herself succeeded, just like she said, "Whoever is my husband can be the emperor". Things are all mutual,What I often say about "cutting off the source of bloodsucking" is not only to cut off incompetent and unhealthy parent-child relationships, but also mismatched husband and wife relationships and love relationships - all relationships must be maintained for a long time, they must nourish each other, and the essence behind it is mutual benefit- Don't mention feelings, can you really have feelings and be willing to suck blood with peace of mind? If we don't make progress together, we are no longer a species, so what can we talk about being in the same boat through thick and thin?
For questions like the subject, you will often get such a reply, and then the likes are bad:
But that's not rightThe reality is that when a woman follows the lieutenant on the border, in the forest, in the desert, for 20 years, she makes herself rough and thick-skinned, and when the lieutenant becomes a general, she will still change to a general's wife. Why? Because people are animals that pay for the "future", they have only a little to do with your past, but it is definitely not the decisive factor. So if you can't continue to provide the value of the general's wife after you become a lieutenant and become a general, then you can only go for the next lieutenant, but the reality is that you may not even be worthy of the next lieutenant now.
So the reality is so cruel, even if you choose the right person, you have to be able to match the person in the future, instead of relying on vision and luck to match the present of this person, you can sit on the credit book and enjoy it for a long time. You can look at the rich and famous, not to mention the well-known Elon Musk, even if you look at other Bill Gates, Bezos, Warren Buffett, even Marx, Einstein who have a good reputation in various fields, the essence is that no one can provide long-term nourishment that matches what they can provide. So is there really anything in this world that doesn't work for nothing? If you stretch out the time, there will be almost no more, and if you are lucky enough to get it, you will lose the money and the people will lose it. For a rich man, he does not rely on one-time luck to obtain wealth, if he does not continue to fight to the first place will lose wealth, then why can the wife of a rich man rely on one-day luck, does not need to continue to stay at the first place to continue to enjoy the rich?
Struggle is the main theme of life, and everything needs a continuous price.
This reminds me of Xu Jiayin, the chairman of Evergrande some time ago. After Xu Jiayin and his wife divorced, his ex-wife took tens of billions of dollars and left Canada, why would she help him find a top lawyer team to fight a lawsuit at all costs? Xu Jiayin has formed the Evergrande Song and Dance Troupe for so long, that large group of female stars and harem troupes, it is impossible for her not to know, the money is also in hand, she has become the richest woman in a sense, she is divorced, and her son is older, why can't she be as black as the "big heroine", dumping this old man in his 60s who looks like nothing in prison? This is the script that a certain red book Jimei wants to see the most.
But the reality is not like this, so why can Xu Jiayin's ex-wife get these tens of billions, not Fan, Liu, Wu or other so-and-so? Why did Fan get a fine of hundreds of millions and have to sell his property and borrow money everywhere? People are the trust established by decades of continuous value contributions, including the value increment in the career, the value increment in the family, the shareholding balance in the wealth relationship, and the tolerance for the compensation behavior on the value gap.
Now Evergrande has a bunch of unfinished buildings, and the state wants to ensure the delivery of the buildings to appease the people, and externally to repay the debts, but the creditor who can repay the debts first is the overseas company controlled by Xu Jiayin, because he bought most of the guaranteed bonds in the name of lending to Evergrande after cashing out the shares, and won the praise of the shareholders at that time, saying that he lent money to the company for the development of the company. fame and fortune are gained, but the country is in a dilemma and has a lot of fun. Now that Xu's ex-wife is in Canada, I don't know how many handles she holds in her hands, and if nothing else, Xu will be released after N years in prison, so Xu Neng is the first person to fight against the iron fist and win to some extent, why not his ex-wife? This man is successful in one way, this woman is successful in another way, the only thing that is the same is that small success requires a small price, big success requires a big price, and sustained success requires a continuous price.
The fairest thing about this world is precisely that it only follows the underlying laws, the longer the timeline is stretched, the more the underlying laws work, and the closer the world will be to "fairness in the true sense", and it will not be transferred by people's morality or superficial legal provisions, because those are all subjectively determined by "people".
It is wrong to educate good people to be rewarded, because the definition of "good people" will be affected by a certain stage of social consensus, and that social consensus is likely to be wrong itself. But this does not mean that only bad people will be rewarded, and good people or bad people should not be rewarded, this proposition itself is wrong. Who is the winner between Qin Hui and Yue Fei? Qin Hui is the winner. Who deserves a good death? The answer given by history is also correct. Yue Fei acted according to the values of the working people, but did not do things according to the way of heaven, then he was corrected by the way of heaven, whether it was Song Gaozong or Qin Hui, he just served as the executive officer of the way of heaven at that moment, because the way of heaven does not care about who gets the world, or whether the people of which land are protected, only whether what you do is in line with the underlying laws.
Abandon the boundaries between good and bad, good and evil, just focus on what you want, weigh the pros and cons of your behavior, and make a reciprocal exchange with this society - the higher your level rises, the more you continue to conform to the underlying laws, the world will naturally continue to exchange for you better, and vice versa.
As for whether your behavior is in line with the simple values of most people? There is no need to think about it at all, because most of the concepts they are educated and the framework of self-restraint are also wrong. ENDS).
I'm Cai Leilei, thank you for reading.