I got up at 6 o'clock in the morning every day, endured the crowding, and took the subway to the unit in a daze;
Come to the workstation, brew coffee and strong tea, turn on the computer, and enter the busy work;
Every day, there are endless things to deal with, endless **, and endless materials to write;
Overtime is commonplace, and I return to the rental house tired at night and fall asleep;
Seeing these familiar pictures, you thought you were talking about us 996 workers, but you didn't expect the protagonist of the picture to be the bald head Qiang in "Bear Infested: Reversing Time and Space".
On the first day of the Lunar New Year, when our family waited in the cinema "on time" for the "bear infested", we saw the bald head Qiang wearing a suit, a tie, and a briefcase, bidding farewell to Bear Ridge and becoming a white-collar worker in the company.
In "Bear Infested: Reversing Time and Space", because of a mysterious doctor, the fate of the bald head Qiang has been completely changed, and Xiong Daxiong Er has also become a "hometown that can't go back".
If he wants to go back in time, Bald Qiang must piece together the fragments of time and reverse time and space, but what is even more difficult is that he must break free from the shackles of worldly definitions and find his true self.
The dilemma of bald and strong is also the confusion in our growth:
We who have been educated by our parents with successful "routines", what should we do if we are unhappy? What if you forget yourself?
Rest assured, in this movie, not only will the child's heart slowly awaken with the bald head, but as a parent, he will gradually understand what is a truly successful education.
Good education,
Let children see the possibilities of life
Every year during the Chinese New Year, the family is reunited, and there is always a fixed link at the dinner table of our family, that is, relatives ask each other
How many points did your child score in the final exam this year? How many grades are there? Have you finished your winter vacation homework? ”
During the Chinese New Year this year, in this link, everyone was suddenly "silent", and when they asked, they were all confused and complained:
Now there is no homework left in school! No exams! Not ranked! Who knows what his grades were. ”
At present, the wind of education reform has been reduced for a while, and the diversion for a while, and the "fractionalism only" has been blown to the bottom.
How many parents' standardized "success" has gone through no way - get a good score, go to a good university, get a good job, be decent, and be safe.
But in fact, a group of different children "copied" the same life, just like the bald head Qiang in "Bear Infested: Reversing Time and Space", working hard for his livelihood every day, 365 days a year, repeating his life 365 times a day.
In the movie, Julie, the bald boss, is a "successful person" in the eyes of outsiders, graduated from a prestigious school, and an industry elite, however, she said:
We all live in the success defined by others, carried forward by the torrent of the world, but we don't understand what we really want.
There is more than one side of life, and a good education is never about cultivating a small town on the assembly line to be a problem-solver, nor is it about cultivating children to be excellent under the secular definition, but to help children see all aspects of life and all kinds of possibilities.
In the documentary "Amazing Mother", Haidian's mother Li Qi and her husband are returnee elites cultivated by traditional education.
The two have been scholars since they were children, but they didn't expect their son to be a "scumbag".
Even though he studied in the primary school attached to the most famous people's congress in the country, his grades were stable and poor in the bottom 10% of the class.
Almost everyone told her that your child's poor learning is that you are not educated well.
Li Qi, like other mothers, reported to Xiaoshuai for famous teacher classes and training classes, but with little success.
After the anxiety, she recognized the child's ordinariness, and found that the child has advantages everywhere without a performance filter, such as outstanding financial intelligence, strong hands-on ability, and a liking for programming.
She changed her educational philosophy, simply taking her children to study abroad, visiting museums and observatories, seeing the most cutting-edge scientific and technological achievements, discussing historical and social issues with him, and broadening his horizons.
She said: "Instead of forcing the child to take the Qingbei exam, it is better to let him rely on technology to eat in the future and become a self-supporting laborer." ”
Zhang Tongdao, the director who filmed their lives, also said:
Every child's nature is different, and they should have different ways of becoming talents and growing up in different ways. Education is not a factory casting, and there is no universal standard mode of production.Life is an experience, and it generously gives us many possibilities, so we feel that there is love in our hearts and there is a rush in life.
Even if it is a recognized model of success, it will be tired and sad; Even if it is extremely difficult to find another way, there are unexpected surprises and gains.
The most important thing education should do is to let children know this as early as possible, instead of imprisoning them in the "experience mode" early, so that they become learning machines without thought and motivation, and lose their inner dreams and love for life.
After all, life is not a path defined by others, but a path to become one's own.
Good parents,
It is to give love and support to children
Some time ago, I saw that Dou Guimei, the principal of Tsinghua University Primary School, said: "On the road of children's growth, putting sugar first, then salt, and then calcium is the best family education."
Every child has a natural sweet tooth, and "sugar" represents the love and encouragement of parents.
In "Bear Infested: Reversing Time and Space", there is such a clip that makes me more aware of the warmth of this "sugar".
The bald head is strong in the bustling metropolis, two o'clock a day, and lives himself as an island.
He misses the life of Bear Ridge more and more, misses the happy days with Xiong Daxiong Er, and even mistakes his colleague for "Xiong Er".
But the current life is moving forward steadily, buying a house, buying a car, getting a promotion, raising a salary, and seeing that it has taken root in a big city, is it so easy to give up?
The bald head and strong mental struggle reflect the psychological struggle of every one of us workers.
At this time, the words of my parents rang in my ears: "We don't expect you to be rich and rich, we want you to be healthy and happy." ”
Seeing this, I instantly burst into tears.
Parents are the most solid and warm haven for their children at all times, and their love and support are enough to teach their children to grow up with peace of mind and become a better version of themselves.
Cai Zhizhong, a famous cartoonist who has drawn "Old Master" and "Oolong Courtyard", once said: "As a child of the Cai family, you are your own master, and your parents will always support you, regardless of why." ”
Although he excelled in his studies since he was a child, he was particularly fond of comics.
In his second year of junior high school, when he nervously mentioned to his father that he wanted to give up his studies and go to Taipei to study comics, his father only asked him: "Have you really thought about it?" ”
Receiving his son's affirmative reply, the father waved his hand: "Then let's go." ”
The same goes for his mother.
Whenever her son is frustrated, no matter how busy she is, the mother will put down the work at hand, listen to his distress, and patiently relieve him.
The unconditional love and support made Cai Zhizhong full of confidence on the road to being himself, and he painted many excellent works without distractions and realized his dream.
He also gave this love to his daughter.
When his daughter was three or four years old, he asked her what she wanted to do when she grew up, and her daughter said, "It's boring to draw at the table, I must not be a cartoonist!" ”
Cai Zhizhong smiled and told his daughter: "What I can teach is that your family will always support you, and you will stand up when you fall." ”
What kind of energy parents output, what kind of power children will receive.
If there is unconditional love in a family, the necessary support is given to the child when he or she needs it, and the child is given the corresponding companionship and encouragement when he or she encounters difficulties, and the child will not grow up too badly.
I once read a sentence: To love a child is to help him become the king of his own land, not to let him live as a puppet in the name of love.
Since parents can't go to their child's future, support him and let him find his own future.
A real success,
It is not afraid to write one's own life
In fact, in "Bear Infested: Reversing Time and Space", there has always been a hidden dark line, interpreting the value and significance of "Reversing Time and Space".
The bald head has returned to the critical moment of fate decision three times-
Take off the job ad for a lumberjack in Bear Ridge, or hop on a bus to work in a big city?
Each time you choose, the corresponding story line is different, and the memory fragments formed are also different.
If you stay in the big city, you will miss many key moments in the memory fragments, and Xiong Daxiong II will encounter danger.
If you live happily with Xiong Daxiong Er in Dog Bear Ridge, everything you work hard now will no longer exist, and you will face the discussion and ridicule of many people in the town:
Bald Qiang only talks to animals every day! ”
It's still a bachelor when it's so big! ”
What's the point of nesting in the mountains every day! ”
Here, I won't spoil it, but I believe that as long as you are a bear fan, you must know what the bald head Qiang's final choice is.
But I also want to ask everyone:
If it were you and had the opportunity to reset the timeline, what would you do?
In this world, how many people have lost themselves in the eyes of others, how many people have achieved themselves in the criticism of others.
Do you still remember the "butcher of Peking University" Lu Buxuan?
Back then, he was admitted to Peking University as the champion of liberal arts, with the halo of a famous school, and after graduation, he was forced to make a living, he chose to sell pork, which was reported overwhelmingly.
Some people scolded him for "sweeping the floor", some people ridiculed "reading is useless", and some people with good deeds took the news to ask the then principal Xu Zhihong, but Principal Xu replied:
Peking University students can be leaders, they can be scientists, and of course they can sell pork. The students of Peking University can also be ordinary laborers.Hearing this, Lu Buxuan was encouraged, and he began to focus on making brand pork that meets high-end needs.
Soon, "No. 1 Native Pig" was born, with sales of more than 1 billion, becoming the first brand of local pork in China.
Now, Lu Buxuan has also opened a Douyin account, and the first content is "Hello everyone, I am Lu Buxuan, the ...... who sold pork after graduating from Peking University."The tone was full of calmness.
In reality, whenever we don't want to follow the crowd, we will always encounter a lot of opposition and doubts.
How many people have been smoothed out, sacrificed their dreams, given up opportunities, and finally lost themselves for everyone.
The real success of education is to give everyone firm strength and clear awareness:
Success that everyone thinks is right and safe may not belong to us.
The choices that everyone questions and criticizes are not necessarily the right ones for us.
There is only one true success in education, and that is to teach a person to write his or her life bravely, to go to the love in his heart, and then to live his life the way he wants.
Unknowingly, "Bear Infested" has been with us for ten years.
Watching the familiar friends in the movie take turns to appear, the memories of gathering in the theater with my family during the Spring Festival holiday every year are brightened up one by one.
Ten years ago, when we first met Xiong Daxiong Er, we may not have stepped out of the ivory tower, and our young faces are full of childishness.
Ten years later, the story of "Bear Infested" is slowly changing, and we are slowly growing up.
Stepping out of school and into society is like a bald head walking out of Bear Ridge and entering the big city, and starting to face many realities that make you doubt, make you anxious, and overwhelm you.
Although time is irreversible, everything will eventually pass, we go through everything, and we will eventually find what we want, and then look at each other and smile with the friends in the film, and tell the children around us:
Although the life in the mountains and forests is monotonous and boring, there are grassy berries and sweetness, and there are friends and family who love you all the time.
If you remember in your heart how beautiful the scenery here is, you can also think about how difficult your life will be in the future, there is not only one kind of life in the world, but there are more beautiful things waiting for you.
When you find your true purpose and fight for it bravely, your success will come naturally.