"My wife and nephew have lived in my house for more than a year, and I don't even bother to wash it, what should I do? "
What I'm going to say today has been in my mind for many days. Yesterday after dinner, I put down the pots and pans and walked out of the house alone in search of some peace of mind.
The reason for all this is that my wife's maiden niece came to my house again. Her parents pushed their children to my house to eat and live here, and they seemed to be looking for some peace.
My wife and I are already in our fifties, and we have gone through hard days, and finally waited until the hard work of our children going to and from school every day is over, but I didn't expect them to settle my niece in my house again.
My wife's niece is 23 years old this year, since she went to school in the city, she often lives in our house, and last year she said that she was doing an internship for a whole year, but she couldn't find a reason to leave, and she has been following her wife to learn some business, and has been eating and living in our house for more than a year.
Now that the internship is over, I specially helped her find a job, which is very close to her home, only needs to ride an electric car for 20 minutes, with a monthly salary of 4,000 to 4,500, and the benefits of free travel. But she refused, saying that she was unwilling to work in the workshop, preferring to stay in the city and find other opportunities.
I tried my best to arrange for her, but her family insisted on sending the child to our house, saying that they would wait until they found a better opportunity in the city.
To be honest, nieces are very close, and it doesn't matter if they get along for a short time. However, as she lived in our home longer, we began to feel more stressed. Although our family conditions have improved, we cannot afford the endless expenses. Her parents seem to be accustomed to pushing their children to us and ignoring their own.
My wife is also very helpless, but because of the face problem, it is difficult to speak, and I can't say it directly. Our house in the city is also not big, only 90 square meters, a bathroom. In the summer, if there are no outsiders around, we can dress casually, but having a niece is very restrictive, especially in the use of the bathroom, which is very inconvenient.
Although she is 23 years old, she behaves like a child. When eating, he likes to use chopsticks to turn left and right, and his mouth makes a loud chewing sound. I also like to shake my body constantly when I stand up. When the wife saw these bad habits of her niece, she wanted to say it but was afraid of offending her.
In our house, she hardly does any housework, pushes the bowl after the meal, and sits lazily playing with her phone. My wife washed her clothes, and we didn't even have to worry about washing them, not to mention that she helped mop the floor or cook.
My son went to college, and I thought it would be easier for the two of us, but I didn't want my wife's niece to show up again. I found a job for her, but I was politely rejected by her, saying that I was unwilling to work in the workshop. Her parents insisted on sending her to my house, saying that they would wait until they found a better opportunity in the city. 
A few days ago, my wife mentioned the tuition fee paid before, but my mother-in-law said: "You all have money in the city, and your brother is in the countryside, can you return this money to your brother?" "Although we are in the city, we are just ordinary working families, and we have a lot of living burdens and mortgages to pay.
A few days after his wife's niece returned to her hometown, she came again. The attitude seemed to be to settle down in our family, she said: "My parents told me to live in my aunt's house, and I want to find a job in the city, and if I work in the future, I can save a lot of rent." ”
In the face of such relatives, I was speechless, but I was also embarrassed to refuse. The wife is also unable to speak in the conflict, after all, the family affection is there, but our lives have been greatly affected, which is really a headache!
I don't know if you have encountered similar problems, how to solve them? 