As a parent, do you only focus on how to get your child to listen to you, but never think about it?"You speak"And".The child is obedient"It should be oneTwo-way communication. Incorrect communication methods will waste a lot of parents' time and energy, so that there are unnecessary conflicts between parents and children, so children need parents to accompany and listen to their children's voices in the process of growing up.
I often hear some parents complain that their children are too disobedient, and if you want him to be the east, he will be the west, and do things against your thinking. This makes parents feel helpless and tired, and they all want to be good for their children, but their children are disobedient. Well, the main reason for this is that parents do not establish correct communication with their children, especially the tone of their own speech, their attitude towards their children, and they always feel that their children are still young and have to listen to my authoritative parents. I didn't think from the child's point of view at all, and I just cared about asking the child in my own way.
To educate children, parents should try these communication rules.
1. Use the communication method that the child likes
When communicating with your child, it is not only important to consider that your child can understand, but it is also best to use a communication style that your child prefers. Blindly use preaching, commanding, coercion, etc., to make children listen to you, and children will inevitably become disgusted. The child's favorite way can be to chat, and parents integrate the principles of education in the process of chatting; It can be storytelling, through storytelling, so that children can understand the truth from the story, which is much better than simply preaching; It can be communicated during the game, because the child is in a more excited state and is more receptive to the education of his parents.
2.Speak up about your feelings, not blame your child
When a child makes a mistake or makes us angry, don't blame him, but tell him how he feels. Say more about me, less about you, for example, in a second-child family, there will inevitably be quarrels between children, at this time, please don't say that you shouldn't quarrel with your brother, to say that you quarrel with your younger brother, I don't like it, and please note that when the child's behavior is unreasonable, please control your emotions, calmly tell him no, no matter how unreasonable the child is, you must be firm in your attitude, be gentle and firm.
3. Don't rush your childDon't rush your child, sometimes your child will do things slowly, and parents will be in a hurry. You should guide your child correctly and tell him not to procrastinate in doing anything, but to complete it wholeheartedly. If you can't finish it, keep doing it, grasp the time, and separate the play from the fun. For example, when the child is still playing with toys during the meal, patiently tell him that he will eat after five minutes, or emphasize it again in one to three minutes, the child will listen, mainly in the way the parents speak.
Educating children is like raising flowers, careful watering, fertilization, and care can be successful, but in fact, not everyone can raise flowers well, and if you don't understand, you have to ask others for advice and learn the experience and art of raising flowers.
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