Hello everyone.
The issue of bride price has always been controversial.
But recently, the state has finally made a move on the bride price;
The Supreme People's Court expressly prohibits extorting property under the pretext of marriage, and it will no longer be possible to ask for sky-high bride prices in the future.
If the man has already given it, he now has the right to ask for it back, and the court will support it.
In other words, once divorced or broken up, the man can ask the woman for the bride price.
This regulation will be implemented from February 1, 2024.
This time, the law makes it clear that the bride price must be given according to customs, and that the pretext of marriage cannot be used to extort money.
If you want to use a high dowry gift card not to get married, the law will not support it.
But the usual small expenses;
Expenses of little value, such as birthdays, anniversaries, or having a meal together, are not considered bride price.
Why is this so important?
Just look at the data:
In 2017, the number of newborns in China was 17.23 million;
But in 2023, there will only be 9.02 million left.
Such an astonishing rate of decline in the fertility rate, of course, it is necessary to find the cause and come up with countermeasures;
Now it is difficult to get married and have children, mainly because boys earn less, girls have high requirements, housing prices are skyrocketing, and the bride price is as fierce as a tiger.
In order to make everyone dare to get married and have babies, the country dares to have children;
Except for the bride price, other methods have basically been tried.
In recent years, the bride price has soared, discouraged countless young people.
It is not uncommon for both parties to break up because they cannot agree on the amount of the bride price.
The bride price has not only become a "stepping stone" and "admission ticket" to enter the marriage hall;
And now the bride price is getting higher and higher, and the area is getting bigger and bigger;
It's like another mountain that is difficult to cross, blocking the path of young people.
Today's young people are oppressed, and they don't dare to get married, let alone have children.
Imagine a young man who has just graduated and wants to buy a house, buy a car, and give a high dowry ......
Almost all the big things in the coming decades will be solved at once;
It's really not easy.
You must know that for a person with a monthly salary of five or six thousand, a bride price of hundreds of thousands is not a small amount;
It is not uncommon for men to go bankrupt for the bride price.
There was once news of hundreds of millions of dowries in Jiangxi;
Although it was not so much later, it was certainly not a small number.
Therefore, it is really necessary for the state to take action and restrict high bride price.
Although in reality, girls in big cities may not care much about the bride price, and even use the dowry to make up for it;
But in the countryside and some small places, not only has marrying a daughter become a business;
It also led to the antagonism between men and women, and lowered the temperature of marriage.
This not only limits the happiness of the individual, but also affects the harmonious development of the whole society.
But in fact, the bride price of the past is not what it is now.
The marriage requirements for girls in the 50s were four ones (bed + basin + spittoon + kettle);
In the 60s, it was thirty-six legs (a bed + a wardrobe + a cupboard + a table + 4 chairs);
In the 70s, three turns and one ring (a bicycle + a sewing machine + a watch + a radio);
In the 80s, it was the ...... of the four major items (a TV + a washing machine + a refrigerator + a tape recorder).
At that time, the bride price was to let the newlyweds live a good life, and it was the beginning of the two families building happiness for the newlyweds;
It is more like a help for newcomers to get started, it is used to let newcomers build a family and start a business, and it is an encouragement and help.
And now, this beautiful tradition has been turned into a burden.
In addition to the high bride price, the marriage also requires gold rings, gold necklaces, and gold earrings;
Coupled with a house and a car, how can ordinary people afford it?
Therefore, the introduction of the country's new policy this time is to prescribe a dose of medicine for these problems;
Let love return to innocence, so that marriage is no longer a place to buy and sell.
Hopefully, the bride price will return to what it should have been—a blessing from both families, not a pressure from one party.
Now the Supreme Court has taken action, stipulating the circumstances under which the bride price can be returned:
For example, if the marriage is not registered, the man can directly sue the woman and her parents for the bride price;
However, if you have registered and lived together, you can generally not return the bride price.
If you really want to retreat, you can combine it with your specific living situation;
For example, how long have two people lived together? Do you have children? Is someone cheating? Whether it is a cheating marriage or so on, ......
Moreover, the court will also use the economic situation of the husband's family and the local living standard as a basis;
Therefore, the days of asking for money by the bride price are basically over.
This may be to reduce the number of cases of marriage and bride price fraud, and also to return marriage to its essence.
Marriage is the legal recognition of love, and the bride price becomes the currency of exchange for this recognition.
Many times, we are kidnapped by the concept of bride price without even knowing the true meaning behind marriage.