Anxiety is human nature
Why do people get anxious? Lack of money and inability are the most essential causes of anxiety.
Without money, you can't resist risks, you are afraid of accidents, you have food in your hands, and you don't panic in your heart.
If you don't have the ability, you can't continue to make money, and you're afraid of losing your job, and you're afraid of getting worse.
Sanmao once said: "Comedy in the world does not need money to be produced, and most of the tragedies in the world are inseparable from money." ”
Ever since I arrived at my new company six years ago and saw that the employees in the system could work until I retired, I began to worry about my future.
Because I am a designer, after all, this industry needs to continue to learn new technologies, learn changing design styles, and my brain can't keep up when I'm older, so it's impossible to keep up with technology all the time, and I'm worried about life after middle age, although my friends always say that I think too much, who knows what will happen in the future, but I'm still anxious.
Face your anxiety and find ways to change
There is a question on Zhihu: I have been very nervous and anxious at work, I don't want to go to work, but I can't do it if I don't go to work, what should I do?
One of the high-praise answers was this: "After all, work itself is not your dream, don't work for work's sake." You could have spent more time on the things that make you passionate. ”
So I'm so anxious to change the situation, but how do I start acting?
Let's start by reading, I bought a bunch of books, and I forgot about them not long after reading them, and I didn't know what the use of reading them was, and I read a lot of books that made money, and I felt that I couldn't do it.
is like "The Lost Lamb" sung by Anzi and the Nine Sisters Band: "You are also a lost lamb, you have lost your direction in the vast sea of people, you can't tell what an ideal is, and you can't tell what is frivolous; ”
I kept looking for ways to alleviate my anxiety, and finally found the path I wanted to take in life, and I was already on the way to action, and my anxious state was slowly changed because I found my goal and acted immediately.
I want to tell you:
It's not your fault that you're anxious, don't be yourself, you just don't know how to do it yet.
Find your goal and do what you can do first
Sometimes, it's not that there are no ideas, but that there are too many ideas, and I don't know which one is better, and I end up swaying.
Because of the anxiety of choice, I wasted a lot of time, but I have not taken action to verify and prove which idea is better.
Some people may have been confused and don't know what they can do to change the situation.
A netizen confided in his heart: "I'm in my 40s, and I still don't know what I'm good at and what I can do......I haven't even found what I am best suited for, so how can I go deeper? "He spent a lot of time thinking about what he could do.
I want to tell you:
If you have what you like, do what you like, do what you are good at, and do what you are good at if you are not good at it. Simplify things and do what you can do first.
Act now and don't expect too much
Some people feel that the more prepared they are, the lower the failure rate will be, and then they have been learning the method, but they never act.
This is procrastination and lack of execution.
One is: don't delay, do it for three minutes first
In fact, if you continue to procrastinate like this, I know that you must be more anxious, the more you learn, the harder it becomes, and you feel that it has taken so much time, but it does not make you feel ready.
Our life is like a marathon, a long journey that tests endurance and technique, and we don't need to be too aggressive at the beginning to avoid exerting too much energy too early.
So get started right now and do it for three minutes first. While doing it, adjust the method, and slowly find the goal to adjust the rhythm to keep up.
For example, every time I write an article, I procrastinate and think it is too difficult to write 500 words at all, but after overcoming procrastination, I have written tens of thousands of words, and I have made too much progress.
The second is: don't be afraid of failure and lower your expectations
Some people want to use a set of tutorials immediately after learning them; Some people want to be enlightened immediately after reading a book;
The author of Mental Awakening believes that the more impatient a person is, the more restless he will become, and in the end, it will often backfire.
Chinese Painting Research Institute: Dean Li Keran, there are many chapters "Three Thousand Waste Paintings", "Seventy-two Difficulties", "One Thousand Difficulties and One Easy", "Peak High No Smooth Road" and so on.
In order to paint the landscape, he traveled all over the country, traveled hundreds of thousands of miles, created a painting for a few days to several months, and was invalid if he was not satisfied.
When I think about studying in school, the teacher also teaches from the basics, and we go up from easy to difficult.
Therefore, you should use the teacher's mentality to tolerate yourself who was stupid at the beginning.
You just need to focus on the present, don't panic, and your efforts will eventually become irreplaceable.
Finally, we encourage you
The closer you get to the light, the more you attract the light, absorb the light, and then drive away the haze, illuminate the darkness, and shine on its own.
From now on, quit anxiety and do what you say!