In the long journey of life, the age of 40 is an age of maturity and responsibility. A friend's brother-in-law, after experiencing a setback in his marriage, spent two years alone. However, the vicissitudes of life seem to be urging him to find a new partner in life. Especially his parents, who are very old, are afraid that they will not be able to accompany their children in every important moment. They are worried that their brother-in-law will not be able to face the ups and downs of life alone, so they eagerly hope that he can remarry as soon as possible and have someone to support each other and spend the spring, summer, autumn and winter of life together. Like the golden wheat field at sunset, they look forward to the early arrival of the harvest season and sow the seeds of happiness for their brother-in-law's future.
My friend's brother-in-law got married and had twin daughters, and after the divorce, the children belonged to the woman and the children's education and living expenses were borne. The main reason for the divorce is that the three views do not agree, he suspects that the woman spends money lavishly and often quarrels. We don't know exactly what the deep-seated reasons are, and every family has a scripture that is difficult to read.
Although my friend's brother-in-law is forty, he usually pays attention to his image, loves cleanliness, and looks younger than his actual age. The job is okay, with an annual income of more than 300,000 yuan, savings, and a few houses, which can be regarded as wealthy.
Now there are three options:
Divorced once at the age of 37, he looks average, loves cleanliness, and can do housework. The personality is a little softer, and he has his own store and has the ability to survive. The brother-in-law is allowed to see the children, but not the ex-wife. Because the brother-in-law had dinner with his ex-wife and children, he had a big quarrel. When his ex-wife came to discuss the child's affairs, she hid away, and she didn't even dare to pick up her ex-wife's.
Fellow countryman, good looks and figure, divorced once, brought 3 children by himself, has his own business, and is usually busy. The only condition for remarriage is that she must accept her three children, and she does not want to have any more children.
Friend, good looks and temperament, divorced and childless, working in a bank, it is said that there is a problem with the style, so he is divorced. They have a good impression of each other and have business dealings in the past.
At present, these three can be chosen, and if you are interested, you can have in-depth communication.
The third one is a little excluded in my heart to be honest, although I am the most beautiful of the three and I have the ability, but I dare not guarantee what it will be like in the future, I don't know what it will be like in the future, I don't know the bottom of my heart, and I am a little ambiguous with anyone, I am afraid that it will not last long.
The second is capable, has a common language, the burden of three children is too heavy, and he doesn't want to have any more children, and the brother-in-law remarries very much and wants a son. But after all, when I'm old, I only plan to have another one, no matter what it is, I won't want it again.
Going back to the first one, I can do housework, love to be clean, I don't have any burden without children, and it looks ideal. The desire for control is relatively strong, there is no sense of security, and it is forbidden for the brother-in-law to meet his ex-wife. But the two children are only in junior high school, and there will always be some problems, which need to be discussed by two people, and it is inevitable that they will not meet, which is really difficult.
My friend asked me for advice, and I couldn't give much advice, but I didn't think it was ideal, so wait.
But can you wait any longer? After all, when he is 40 years old, how long can he wait, the brother-in-law is also anxious, thinking that he will live with the first general.
My friend asked me which one is better? I don't give a choice, I can only give advice :
Then choose a mate, and directly block out the appearance. Find someone who is strong in interpersonal relationships, sensible, and making money is secondary. After all, if you get married again, the composition of the family will be much more complicated, and the ex-wife, ex-husband, children, the elderly, and all kinds of relationships will have to be dealt with. These relationships will be relatively complex, principled, and if they are not handled well, they will be the fuse of family wars.
Family is valued by harmony, like his brother-in-law's current conditions, he will not worry too much about money, which is stronger than ordinary people. If you want to find someone who lives with him sincerely, you can rely on your brother-in-law financially, but you must know how to be grateful and kind. Treat the elderly, children, relatives and friends well, this is a big premise. If the work goes downhill in the future, and you encounter financial difficulties, you can carry it with your brother-in-law, and you can't achieve your goal, and your children are raised and you get enough money from your brother-in-law, so you run away, and you must not want such people.
But to be honest, such a partner is really difficult to find, people are separated from each other, and it is difficult to find problems if they don't get along for half a year and a year. Even after getting along for a while, there is a big gap between before and after marriage. It seems that marriage sometimes really depends on fate, and it is difficult to be perfect.
Do you have any good suggestions?
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