Author: Psychological and Emotional Anxiety Relief Workshop, Emotional Counselor.
Rockefeller believed that not all actions will produce good results, and only wise actions can bring meaningful results, therefore, smart people will only do work that will get positive results later, do work related to the achievement of the maximum goal, and concentrate.
What is a smart person? It is not a person with a high degree of education, but a person with high awareness and strong action. It is not a greedy person, but a person who can realize that altruism is self-interest. It's not a person who is too kind, but a person with a sharp edge in kindness.
Smart people do things, think about the consequences, but also consider the results, pay attention to the goal, but also pay attention to the effectiveness of their actions and whether they are in line with the goal.
Smart people rarely do things that are not good for themselves, and they rarely do things that are not fruitful.
As a woman, are you smart?
In the cases I have come across, there are many women who seem to be smart, but in fact they are stupid and naïve, and often do things that do not produce good results. I hope that female friends can become smart people, and I also hope that female friends can manage their lives well.
In this lesson, I will correct some things that female friends do in their love management from the perspective of love, which is not good for them.
I mentioned more than once in the column course "Dealing with Betrayal High-quality Psychological Practical Course, Helping You Understand the Truth and Get Out of Pain" that we can't pin our happiness on the person who betrayed us, but some female friends who bought the column course still refused to listen to the persuasion.
A female friend who consulted me asked me after taking the column course "Dealing with Betrayal High-quality Psychological Practical Lessons, Helping You Understand the Truth and Get Out of Pain": "Teacher, is there any way to get the person who betrayed me back to the family?" ”
After learning about her, I found out that her husband not only had children with his lover outside of marriage, but also divorced her for the sake of his lover and his lover's children.
She has evidence of his betrayal, and she can take the initiative and fight for her best interests. But she still longs to save the relationship, which puzzles me.
She said that she didn't know how to live without him, and I asked her, "How did she live without him?" ”
She said she was used to having him, and she said she couldn't live without him. I told her that no one can live without anyone, and she feels inseparable at the moment, but when she does leave, she will gradually adapt to the new life and gradually feel happy in the new life.
She didn't listen to my advice, and in desperation, I asked her to read more of the column course "Dealing with Betrayal High-quality Psychological Practical Course, Helping You Understand the Truth and Get Out of Pain" that she bought, because it contains my analysis of the ugly side of human nature and my understanding of solving the betrayal.
In real life, there are too many women like her, pinning their happiness on scum, and the result? In the end, I lost everything.
Women are strong, and most women aspire to have an exceptionally good lover. However, this reality is very cruel, and especially excellent men are not something that ordinary women can control.
And, in the management of love, this kind of strong trait often hurts the person who loves him.
Why? Many women look down on men who love them, for the simple reason that the men who love them are ordinary and can't give them the life they want.
In the midst of this dissatisfaction and complaints, these women will ignore the feelings of men, pay too much attention to their own feelings and needs, and scold, humiliate, and deny the men who love them at every turn.
Men are not women's slaves, nor are they women's tools, if they continue to deny, humiliate, and reprimand, it is easy to inspire men to resist. Once the man starts to rebel, the woman will not have a good life.
In the face of a man who loves herself, even if she doesn't love, don't hurt it, this is a woman's self-protection, and it is also the only way to manage a good love.
A woman who is too kind will most likely give selflessly, and a woman who is too weak will most likely tolerate a man's harm to herself indefinitely.
I do not deny that selflessness is a virtue, and forbearance is also a skill in managing love. However, unlimited and bottomless forbearance and dedication cannot make women live better.
Human nature is selfish, and there is also a weakness of laziness in human nature, assuming that women do not ask for anything in return, and there is no bottom line to pay, it is easy for men to have the wrong perception that "what women do for their families and children is a matter of course", assuming that women tolerate men infinitely, men are easy to have some bad habits and continue to hurt women.
To manage love, you have to give, but you also have to ask the man to give himself something in return. My advice is to resort to coquettishness or exchanging needs when asking for something in return. For some bad habits of men, we should remind and warn, but the attitude must not be too tough, and we cannot continue to remind and warn.
The management of love requires certain skills and means, and I hope that female friends can understand what I am talking about in this lesson.