"Emotions are the precious wealth of life, but sometimes, they need the cage of our reason. —Epigraph.
In the long journey of life, we will always meet such a person, which makes our hearts beat faster and makes our thoughts fly.
Sometimes, this feeling is like a wild horse that is unleashed, difficult to control, and may even affect our daily life.
So, how do you restrain your feelings for someone?
1. Keep your distance and let your emotions cool down
There is such a story.
Xiao Wang works in a company and has a good relationship with his colleague Xiao Li, and gradually, Xiao Wang finds that he has special feelings for Xiao Li.
However, Xiao Li already has a lover, and Xiao Wang doesn't want to ruin their relationship, let alone let herself fall into endless pain.
So, Xiao Wang decided to keep his distance from Xiao Li and no longer have as frequent contact as before.
As time passed, Xiao Wang found that his feelings gradually faded, and finally succeeded in restraining his feelings for Xiao Li.
When we find ourselves developing feelings for someone that we shouldn't have, keeping our distance is an effective method of restraint.
As the saying goes, "out of sight, out of mind", by reducing contact with the other person, we can gradually cool down our emotions and thus regain our sanity.
2. Divert your attention and find new points of interest
Xiaohong once had a crush on a senior, and she couldn't help but pay attention to his dynamics every day, which caused her life to be greatly affected.
Later, at the suggestion of a friend, Xiaohong began to try to divert her attention and signed up for a painting class.
In the world of painting, Xiaohong found a new passion and purpose, and gradually left her feelings for her seniors behind.
When she recalled that time of her crush again, she was able to face it calmly.
Diverting attention is another effective way to restrain feelings.
When we put our energy into something new, our state of mind changes.
New interests can help us get out of a difficult situation by making us forget about the inseparable relationship for a while.
3. Pour out your heart and seek external support
Xiao Zhang was once in a deep relationship and couldn't extricate himself, but his friends saw his troubles and took the initiative to care for and listen to him.
With the company and guidance of his friends, Xiao Zhang gradually realized his problems and began to learn to use reason to restrain his feelings.
Eventually, he managed to get out of the emotional quagmire and regain balance in his life.
Pouring out your heart is a great way to release your emotions.
When we talk to others about our problems, we not only receive emotional support, but we also draw wisdom from their advice.
Sometimes, external support and understanding can help us better deal with our own emotional problems and find solutions.
Fourth, self-growth, enhance inner strength
Xiao Zhao once had deep feelings for someone, but she knew that this relationship was not suitable for her.
In order to restrain his feelings, Xiao Zhao began to work hard to improve his inner cultivation, read psychology books, and participate in spiritual growth courses.
In the process, Xiao Zhao gradually learned how to control his emotions instead of being swayed by them.
In the end, she managed to get out of the emotional whirlpool and became a more mature and rational person.
Self-growth is the fundamental way to restrain feelings.
When we strive to elevate our inner strength, we are better able to harness our emotions.
Through continuous learning and cultivation, we can become more rational and mature, so that we can make wise choices when facing emotional problems.
It is not easy to restrain one's feelings for a person, but as long as we explore and try with our hearts, we can always find a way that suits us.
Whether it's distancing, distraction, confiding, or self-growth, these methods can help us find our way through the maelstrom of feelings.
Remember, although emotions are precious treasures in life, we need to use the cage of reason to harness them.
Only in this way can we be comfortable in the world of emotions and become true emotional masters.