Uncertainty, which adds to the "ambiguous mystery".
Humans are weird.
is often in a state of mind of "knowing that there are tigers in the mountains, and preferring to go to the tiger mountains".
There are tigers on the mountain, this is the reality, it is the risk, it is the uncertainty;
Knowing that there is danger, but still wanting to go up the mountain, this is mysterious and exciting.
This is the "rebellious mentality" of man, the more you prevent him from doing something, the more he will do it.
This is also the pursuit of excitement and mystery.
Ambiguity itself is extremely uncertain;
It's not a couple, it's not an ordinary friend, it's a state in between "grayscale".
But it's this uncertainty that makes people addicted.
ethereal, those who want to refuse and welcome, those who hide their true faces;
The more this is the case, the more curious it is to attract people and want to have a look.
Although such an ambiguous relationship is full of variables.
For people in an intimate relationship, once they have an ambiguous relationship with a third party;
What awaits him is a kind of stimulation that "wanders on the edge of morality".
In other words: why is a person obsessed with ambiguity?
Because of the ambiguous uncertainty, his emotional experience has been greatly improved.
There is a saying:
A wife is not as good as a concubine, a concubine is better than stealing, and stealing is better than stealing."
Ambiguity is a multiple test of morality, humanity and desire.
Wandering around the opposite sex greatly satisfies their narcissistic psychology
A characteristic of the narcissistic personality:
It is necessary to rely on the worship, praise and favor of the people to gain a sense of accomplishment, a sense of worth, and a sense of being needed and attached.
For example, what do some men like to talk about at dinner?
Talk about houses, cars, careers, women.
Some boys with a low lower limit will share their emotional experiences;
The richer the relationship history, the more people like to share;
In the process of sharing, seeing the expressions of "envy, admiration, or seriousness" of the people around him made his vanity greatly satisfied.
Vanity, in itself, is a narcissistic attribute.
The more narcissistic people are, the more vanity they are;
The more vanity a person has, the more narcissistic he is subconsciously.
One ring after another.
Some people choose "spare tire dating, spare tire ambiguous".
Aquaman and Queen of the Sea have a majority of narcissistic personalities.
Wandering between the opposite sex, he thinks that his charm has been foiled.
Ambiguity is their way to release their charm and satisfy their narcissism;
It's like when a peacock is courting, the screen will be turned on.
I want to be emotionally satisfied, but I don't want to invest in it
Some people have a clear heart.
The emotional outlook that he has always adhered to is:
can be ambiguous, refuse to fall in love, refuse to determine the relationship".
Why?
Because ambiguity is the lowest-cost "pseudo-love" model.
A definite relationship means a higher cost;
And the ambiguous relationship is uncertain, so much cost does not need to be invested.
People who are obsessed with ambiguity often have this mentality:
I want the horses to run, but I don't give them grass."
There is no need to be responsible, there is no need to bear any responsibility, and there is no need to pay too much material to the other party;
Only enjoy the ambiguous relationship, each taking what he needs;
When the novelty and passion run out, it's time for them to enter a new ambiguous relationship.
Essentially: ambiguity is more beneficial for men and disadvantageous for women who desire marriage.
You must know that the best age of a woman's life, including the "childbearing age", is those years.
If at this ** age, women are always hung by ambiguous men;
What is the end that awaits her?Go without saying.
No one can guarantee that they are "real masters".
Often walking by the river, how can there be a reason not to get your shoes wet?
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