The way out for the children of the bottom families is the challenge of obedience and standing out!
Many parents are reluctant to admit that the more obedient their children are, the harder it is to get ahead.
We can clearly see that today's society and culture are very focused"status", which is especially evident in families. In our country, parents are often"Override"Children above, which reflects the parental ratio"Children"More important traditional ideas.
Therefore, many parents want their children to learn from an early age"Listen"。When praising or criticizing a child,"Obedient"tends to be the most commonly used measure. However, this approach often has another limitation.
A teacher once said in reflection:"How can I make my child obedient? This is one of the most frequently asked questions by parents. There's nothing wrong with teaching students to listen.
However, we see too many parents overemphasizing"Obedience"and make teachers feel powerless. If you think about it, do parents really obey their parents from an early age? This is unrealistic expectations.
In addition, if a person listens to his parents in everything and does not give himself a little room to maneuver, it is even more worrying. Parents' complaints about their children make teachers think deeply.
Ms. Zhou's son, who attends high school, has gotten closer to a borrower for the new school year, and they go to the cafeteria together on weekends. However, Ms Chow believes that it is important to make friends who are better than her son, and is concerned that the student's poor test scores will have a bad impact on his son.
In the end, under the persuasion of their parents, the elementary school students couldn't help but reply:'If I listen to you for everything, can I compare with you? Like you, I stay at home every day and let my classmates eat with me, is it difficult?
This sentence angered the mother, but the teacher did not scold the child like many parents do. He told her bluntly:"What is called'Better'？It's just your personal opinion based on academic performance as the only criterion. You only look at their bad grades, but you don't want to think that the students who come into your school are from good families. Perhaps the parents on the other side of the family think their children are worse than themselves. Maybe their children have a little higher horizons and can make more friends.
The more blindly the boys follow, the harder it is to get ahead. The truth is very realistic.
Many people don't know that the more obedient a child is, the more difficulties they will encounter when they grow up. Of course, they won't have many problems compared to students who don't study well and often break school rules.
However, both at work and in real life, these college students tend to be social"Vulnerable groups"。First of all, they are not well trained in cognition and judgment, and blindly follow the wishes of their parents, resulting in limited thinking skills.
As for the parents themselves, even basic skills are limited and it is difficult to earn a living, does this mean that if a primary school student fully meets the expectations of his parents, he loses the opportunity to change his fate? The boy's rebuttal didn't seem far-fetched.
Second, even if parents rarely intervene in adulthood, the child will still develop"Passive obedience"habits. As a student, studying quietly may be recognized by the teacher, but it is a disadvantage in the workplace.
The habit of being overly submissive makes them reticent and shy. At work, they are easily bullied by their colleagues or superiors due to their lack of family background, flexibility, and self-confidence.
The more you do, the less attention you get. Parents from poor families have different ways of thinking and educating than parents from wealthy families. This difference is not only reflected in personal wealth, but also in the understanding of the basic laws of society.
Pointing fingers at big things, sneering at small things: don't be such a parent. It's not a bad thing to be obedient, but it's painful to be too obedient. Some netizens came to the conclusion that some parents at the bottom of society cannot give their children the correct guidance in life, but make a fuss about small things.
While other parents look for jobs and connections for their children, they rarely help their children and are eager to get their children to reciprocate.
However, in everyday life, they may be criticized for not actively asking their children what they want to eat"Impersonal"。In such a family environment, college students must first get rid of the triggers of their parents"Internal conflicts"in order to get out of the predicament.
Filial piety is a traditional virtue, and as a young person with a patriotic heart, it is natural to respect one's family. However, if we do not break this mentality, the hope of changing our destiny will be even more slim. At the end of the day, parents aren't really the beneficiaries.