The complexity of the people in the village is more exciting than in the TV series.
For example, a father looks down on his own son. After his son got married, he had a bad life, and his own father would sarcastically name and say disdainfully, "How did you live like this"?
There is no element of sympathy in these words, and the old father cannot be expected to help his son.
What's more, the old father has more sons, which involves the problem of "partiality", and he can't wait to move another son's home over and give him another son who is biased, as if the son who was oppressed was picked up by him.
Therefore, as the old saying goes, "a man lives a breath, and a tree lives a skin".
Fortunately, the examples I have heard of are full of falsehood and ugliness, and are particularly real and glaring, and basically respond to the saying "good is rewarded with good, and evil is rewarded with evil". The despised sons are very competitive, hardworking, hard-working, and hard-working, and their lives are getting better and better; As for the outcome of the bullying side, it is difficult to say.
There is a web of faces in the village, and as long as you step on this piece of land, you can't get rid of this kind of face entanglement.
There are many examples of worshipping high and stepping on low in the village, and the seven aunts and eight aunts compare the past, whose child has been admitted to the civil service, and whose daughter has found a son-in-law who works in a bank.
If you say, "You know whether you are doing well or not, and life is not for others to see", then it must be considered incompatible with the survival philosophy of the village. Face is face, even if you hand over a Chinese cigarette when you chatter, the person who handed the cigarette will feel very face-saving.
The face culture is our special characteristic culture in China, and the face culture in the village is only the tip of the iceberg of face culture in our vast land and diverse society.
When it comes to wine culture, we can't put aside the face culture.
2. Wine culture and face culture.
The four mentioned in the previous annual report of Kweichow Moutai remain unchanged:
Baijiu, as a carrier of Chinese emotional communication, has not changed;
As one of the cultural symbols of the Chinese nation, it has not changed;
As a Chinese preference for consumer goods has not changed;
As a Chinese, the traditional customs and cultural habits of consuming liquor have not changed.
The prospectus of Yanghe shares said:
In addition to the factors of residents going out to eat, social interaction activities such as business contacts and official activities are also important sources of customers for the catering industry.
Inviting guests to eat is usually an integral part of social interactions, and there is a saying in China since ancient times that "no wine is not a feast", and liquor acts as a lubricant for interpersonal relationships and emotional catalysts in catering activities.
No wine is not a feast.
There is no liquor on the dinner table, and everyone has no cerebellum anesthesia, so the atmosphere can't be set off to that range, and the atmosphere can't be said without a lot of words, and many things can't be done. The lubricant effect of liquor has existed since ancient times. Li Bai said, "Five-flowered horses, daughters, Hu'er will exchange for fine wine, and eliminate eternal sorrow with you." After reading this poem, the sense of the picture of drinking together comes out.
There is face in the wine drunk, there is face in the wine sent, and persuading the gentleman to have a glass of wine is friendship, but it has more face.
In 1972, the prime minister presided over a state banquet in the Great Hall of the People to entertain Nixon of the United States, and the prime minister gave full play to China's wine culture almost to the extreme level. State banquets are generally held in accordance with Western practice, where the host pours red wine on a tall glass and toasts to the guests, and the guests generally return the salute.
On that day, *** got up five or six times at the state banquet, took a glass and toasted to Nixon and his delegation of the United States**, and Nixon** also returned the salute five or six times, when everyone drank more than a dozen glasses of wine, and the climax of drinking at the banquet was repeated.
At that time, the prime minister ordered all the red wine to be removed and replaced with Moutai, and all the real Moutai in the sky was there. Compared with red wine, Moutai is a highly strong liquor, aged for more than 53 degrees, and it is also a sauce-flavored liquor.
If we replace Moutai with Coca-Cola, will it still have this effect?
What we drink is liquor, and we are giving face to others by persuading alcohol.
What we send is liquor, we send wine is to send face, and the grade of liquor reflects our respect and attention to each other.
When visiting relatives during the Chinese New Year, whether the wine on the bicycle seat is Erguotou or Wuliangye, the feeling must be different for the giver and the recipient.
3. Will our face culture disappear?
Our face culture may have something to do with the social composition of feudal society dominated by small peasants.
Whether it is Lao Tzu's "the voice of chickens and dogs hears each other, and the old and the dead do not get along", or Tao Yuanming's Peach Blossom Spring, they are all describing a small-scale peasant society dominated by men and women weaving. Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, and villages where small farmers gather will have all kinds of stories.
In ancient times, there was no record of all kinds of human affairs, and we did not know about them; But there is no doubt that the original way of thinking and doing things, as the genes in our bones, still affect our behavioral choices, for example, in many cases, face culture affects our choice of behavior in life and work.
If you don't give face to others, especially when the other party is a villain, he will jump over the wall in a hurry to save some face and fight you to the end. Confucius said, "Only women and villains are difficult to raise." If it is near, it is not inferior, and if it is far away, it will be resentful".
Many people can't let go of their faces, and make choices that ordinary people can't understand for the sake of face.
Lin Yufeng in "The Way of Heaven" committed suicide by falling off a cliff by car, just because he lost the lawsuit and gave up a few dollars? No. He couldn't let go of his face. He once said in front of ** that if he lost the lawsuit, he would jump off the building, but in the end, the lawsuit really lost.
Then, even if after losing the lawsuit, his company cooperates with Gregory, which is a win-win situation for both companies, and he can't let go of his face. In addition, he probably couldn't accept his stupidity, thinking that he was superior in skill and would kill the other party, but it was all in **Ying's calculations.
People who are too good-looking probably can't accept their failures.
They always live in the eyes of others, staring at others all day long, talking about others, and being talked about by others at the same time. This culture has been around for a long time. No one says behind everyone's back, and no one says anything behind everyone's back. But at the end of the day you'll find out: