Dear parents, dear children, Hello everyone. Welcome to today's Qinghui program, I am Zhong Qinghui from the Daliang Xinji Third Road Psychological Service Center in Shunde, Guangdong, a senior psychological service worker. Today I want to talk to you about an issue that may bother many people - should we hate our parents for hurting us?
First of all, I would say that hate is a drain that keeps you in endless misery from which you can't extricate yourself. What you need is betrayal, not hatred. Because hatred will only make you continue to entangle with them, and you can never get out of them.
Secondly, you need to express your anger at them and be completely disappointed in them from now on. Stop trying to change them into what you want them to be, and accept and respect their fate, which includes your betrayal of them.
Eventually, this will allow you to break free from their influence and start your own independent life. Only a person with a fully developed personality can develop the ability to love, and this ability to love is comprehensive and broad, so that he can come back and truly love them.
So, instead of hating them, be brave enough to face your emotions and accept and respect their choices. Only in this way can you truly step out of the shadows and start a new life of your own. Thank you!