Text |Li Chuan.
Today, let's talk about the older unmarried men in the system. (To put it nicely, it's a leftover man, just point it, that's the old bachelor.) ）
Before talking about them, let's talk about the older leftover women.
When people mention leftover women, it's as if they are a mysterious species, either ugly, or weird, and so on.
Not necessarily. The older leftover women I came into contact with, the reason why they were left was forced to helpless many times:
Either their conditions are too good and they are too lazy to seek all-oriented poverty alleviation, or they have studied for too long and missed the best age for marriage and childbearing.
And men are different, they are left, ten out of ten, it is the opposite.
Especially in the system, those who have a stable job and good salary, but have been single for many years, unmarried, and childless, are really rare and really strange.
Among the older singles I met, those who were not married or in love around forty years old were either too poor financially and too poor to have enough food and clothing;
Either the personality is too weird, and it is not pleasant to look at anyone, and others are also respectful; Either they are physically defective, or too ugly, or have a different sexual orientation.
One of the three will prevail. Only a very few, a very small number are trapped by love, and they are passively left without meeting the right one.
I've met some of these kinds of people. The most common kind of leftover man is a strange personality and has serious flaws in dealing with people.
This kind of man, maybe he looks good, but he has major flaws in his personality, you may not be able to say one, two, three, but as long as you chat with him a little bit and eat once or twice, you will feel seriously uncomfortable, and you always feel that something is wrong, and you don't want to have any further relationships.
For example, I don't understand the world at all, I think very highly of myself, I see that no one is as good as myself, I can scold the waiter several times after a meal, I hate the original family, and so on.
At first, there may be unsuspecting colleagues who will introduce him to the object, but after a long time, he generally stays away and does not dare to harm the girl.
Some people are lucky enough to encounter girls who are dizzy, blindfolded by "state-owned enterprises", "civil servants" and "public institutions", and get married.
There is also a type of man who is too poor financially. There is not much left of this kind of person, who works in the system, has a stable income, as long as he does not spend indiscriminately, does not gamble or prostitute, it is generally not difficult to marry a daughter-in-law and start a family.
But there are always some men, who may be too poor in their original families, and encounter some major accidents, and they owe a lot of debts at a young age, and they can only work together if they are happy.
Frankly speaking, this kind of singleton because the economy is too poor is quite common in remote rural areas, but it is relatively rare in the system.
The reason is simple: generally speaking, the income in the system is a little above the middle in the local area. In addition to the social status is acceptable and the income is stable, as long as the man is not stupid, he can always meet a suitable blind date.
The last kind of singleton is the difference in physiology and sexual orientation.
If this one is left with peace of mind, I actually respect it.
The most hateful thing is a kind of man, and the man he likes is also a man, but for the sake of the so-called inheritance, the pressure of social vision, and conceals his true sexual orientation, and goes to harm girls.
This one, when the girl gives birth to a child, she will probably know what kind of person the pillow is. A few decades ago, there might have been people who endured it for a lifetime. Today, girls are stronger, and they generally choose to break up.
This kind of thing can be hidden for a while, but it can't be hidden for a lifetime. This kind of man is naturally left in the end, and no one dares to introduce him to a partner.
The personality is too weird, the economy is too poor, the physiology is different, and the remaining men in the system are the most common. Blind date, when you meet such an old bachelor, for the sake of insurance, it's better to run quickly. (Of course, if you want him to have labor insurance and pension, that's fine.) ）
It is said that there is one of the rarest kinds, that is, I am really hurt by love, and I go around and around, and I feel that it is best to be single.
I've heard of this kind of person.
A 50-year-old engineer in a certain unit he dealt with is said to have been in love with a girl for three years in his early years, and the girl died of illness. Whether this is the case or not, I am highly skeptical.
It is said that men are slaves of hormones and servants of dopamine, and they can be trapped by love and be single for a lifetime, I have only seen it in love.
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