I saw a sentence posted by a netizen that is very close to people's hearts:
We don't exchange messages anymore, not because we don't love you, but because we can't really find a reason to see each other again. Between the two of us, it seems that there is no future in sight, if I can go back to the past, I will remember the way you just appeared in front of me, and then deliberately blend in with the crowd of people who come and go, no matter how deeply I like you in my heart, I will choose to hide in the sea of people...Unfortunately, the world is big, and yet there is no such thing as an "if." There are always some people in life who come in a hurry with the wind and rain, and quietly go away when you are unprepared. In the end, it seems that you are the only one left standing alone in the wind and rain, and if you want to continue the front edge, you are no longer qualified, and you can't do it if you want to let go. In fact, if the opposite sex who has an ambiguous relationship with you suddenly leaves you alone, there are only two reasons, and you may be able to relieve the sadness in your heart a little if you understand these.
They don't really care about you.
I saw a question on Zhihu**, which is quite interesting: "If the person you once loved neither deleted you nor blacklisted you, but just stopped communicating with you, is there any chance to save this situation? Here's a helpful reply:
The relationship is like making friends and playing ball, we both need to warm each other, if either party takes the initiative to withdraw, then there is no need to continue to maintain such a friendship. Actually, most of the things in the world can be summed up in this passage. In our lives, everyone experiences very limited, and sincere feelings are rare. Many times, behind those seemingly wordless relationships, it is actually telling you that "they don't actually care about you", which is almost an ironclad fact!
My former friend Xiaoyu told me her story:
She has been with her sweetheart for more than four months, and she usually sees each other very rarely, and when she meets, she always feels extremely excited. The friends around me feel that Xiaoyu's love doesn't seem to be real enough, neither has a partner by her side to give her warm companionship, nor does anyone give her enough comfort and care when she is lost, and she doesn't even receive any special gifts on Valentine's Day....But ah, Xiaoyu always felt that every day was sweet, and she stubbornly thought that the other party was just busy and couldn't see each other often.
Just a few days ago, Xiaoyu received a message from the other party: "Let's say goodbye, I think we should end this." There's a relationship called "when we're a couple when we're face-to-face, and when we're not together, we're strangers"; Another poignant experience was: "We can only cry and laugh through the computer screen, and we can't hug and cry even when we are apart." Like a driver in the driver's seat, if the driving route is offset, every minute of driving can mean that it will take more time to correct the mistake later. Those who treat you sincerely will always regard you as important; People who treat you coldly will spend more time on other people, and you will seem less important in their eyes.
The road is not always easy, and growth can only be achieved through setbacks; The pain of the past only makes us more mature. :
Some love is really not worth paying too much sincerity; For some people, there is really no need to feel sorry for it.
TA has a new home.
There was once a topic on the hot search list on Weibo:
Waiting until people you know in the past are slowly ignoring you may indicate that someone is taking your place. "
Although this discourse is short and concise, full of jokes and irony, it is like a sharp knife, vividly portraying the cruelty of reality. Men and women, one running ahead, the other in hot pursuit; One is as cold as ice, and the other is as passionate as fire. It's like two train tracks, but they end in diametrically opposite directions until they finally stop at their respective stations. The person you can't let go of may have found a new home before you know it.
A while ago, one of my colleagues fell into endless frustration. Her boyfriend, who had spent more than a year with her, suddenly stopped paying attention to her. Whether it's ** or WeChat, the other party ignores it. Sometimes, Nian Nian couldn't help but click on his avatar over and over again, and wanted to directly remove him from the contact list several times, but that reluctance always grabbed her heart. The painful thoughts finally chose to delete his *** in a complete tear after repeated entanglements, and thought that she would be able to forget all this from now on, however, time did not make her wish, but her heart was filled with endless remorse. After struggling for a long time, she still decided to add back his ***, but she saw his current girlfriend's ** in his circle of friends. Nian Nian said with emotion: "At that moment, I felt more disgusting than I had ever been, as if even my obsession with him had become unrecognizable. ”
There is such a passage in the popular evaluation of NetEase Cloud**:"The most heart-wrenching thing is that the other party doesn't take you seriously at all, but you are depressed every day, always feeling that you have a high status in the other party's heart, in fact, people have already made a smooth transition, wake up. "It's really sad and distressing.
If one day he doesn't love you anymore, then he will definitely not stay where he is and wait for you, you may think that he is just as angry as you, in fact, he may have already had a new relationship. He might even tell your current girlfriend your story to make her jealous, then stroke her head with a smile and say softly:"It's gone, and all I love is you. "
No one can be really busy enough to go in the morning and not have time to contact you. If he doesn't reply to your message, it's obvious that he's sharing time with someone he likes.
The piano will be out of tune, and people will leave. And when faced with a choice, the person who chooses to let go should actually be happy.
Try to be open to all your regrets.
Someone once said:"I fell once, and although the pain was unbearable, I didn't blame the bad road, but I just hated myself for not being reasonable. "The only regret for those who really give is that they have met people who should not have met.
In the work "Human Disqualification", there is a classic quote:"Don't expect too much from others, you can expect from people and things, but you must be in a good sense of proportion. If you can avoid strong love, you will certainly not be harmed. "
If you can't let go of someone, just wait slowly. Maybe the result of waiting is that you are waiting for this person, or maybe you eventually learn to let go, either way the result is good.
There is no need to regret the loss of sincerity, because the person who loses his sincerity in this way is the greatest loss. People will always say goodbye to those things that they can't grasp, some people, some things, it's enough to come here, maybe this is the best ending. You have to be calm to solve a lot of pain, and you have peace of mind to think of more ways.
February**Dynamic Incentive Plan Tea tastes better only when it is brewed, and the same is true for life, and life is better only when you think thoroughly.
If you're in love with someone you don't deserve, then don't let the relationship turn into a disaster. I especially like one sentence:"I burned away all my childishness and willfulness with my attachment, and the barren land gradually grew into maturity, indifference, and calmness. "
Love is a free stage, and each of us is our own protagonist. You can choose to leave gracefully, or you can gladly accept someone else's departure.
Those who spend their days and nights, and the questions that never find the answer, will eventually become softened and smoothed over time.
We are just passers-by in life, so we should go through this journey in a low-key manner.
It's okay to be nostalgic, but don't bother anymore; Don't leave it out, but don't hope either. As the poem says:"If your cherished friend hasn't responded to your email or message for a long time, you can choose to delete that dialog box and remember how you groveled and deliberately flattered, while also not experiencing the irreparable loss. "
Mountains without echoes, even shouting is superfluous.
If the emotions expressed are not reciprocated, you must know to stop at the right time. May you be able to see all the gradual distancing, no longer feel sad and disappointed, and from now on walk towards the sunshine, full of love, enthusiasm and honesty, no longer lonely and confused, with the clear as water back then, to a grand sea of flowers that belong to you.