Oscar Wilde wrote in his work "The Fan of Lady Windermere"."We all live in the gutter, but there are still people who look up at the stars. ”
No one's life is smooth, we have all struggled in a life of chicken feathers, but we can choose to hold our heads high, stubborn and proud to choose our own life.
The past cannot be changed, the future is out of reach, and life will be different by seizing every opportunity in the present.
The 90-year-old grandmother Hengzi in "The World is Worth It" is young, and her parents are patriarchal;
Poor married life in middle age;
In his later years, her husband lingered on the sickbed.
But she did not accept her fate because of this, but used her tenacity and open-mindedness to live a simple and happy life to be over 90 years old.
Choosing what to plant is more important than complaining about bad fields.
If you are not satisfied with your current life but can't do anything about it, then the best thing to do is to become stronger.
"The meaning of life is to pioneer rather than to stick to it, and we should not lose the courage to move forward at any time. ”
Grandma Hengzi didn't get a good deck of cards in her life, her parents had five children, and her parents doted on her two younger brothers, always telling her that "after graduating from girls' school, you will either become a teacher or get married, in short, you can support yourself as soon as possible." ”
For Grandma Hengzi, marrying early and being a housewife is not unacceptable, so she must support herself.
At this time, the uncle who ran the clinic said that whoever wanted to be a doctor could subsidize all his tuition.
Grandma Hengzi agreed without hesitation.
Life is at a low point, and when the opportunity comes, seize it immediately.
Later, after Grandma Hengzi joined the work, she faced some advanced tuberculosis patients every day, looking at those who were waiting to die.
She was sad and worried about how to make them happy for the rest of their lives.
One day, while walking on the street, I met a classmate who introduced her to the psychiatric department of Nara University, and she agreed without hesitation.
In the face of opposition and those who retained, she stood firm in her thoughts.
If you want to get rid of the unwilling now, you have to become stronger.
There is a saying that only the strong can change history.
Choosing to become stronger is the beginning of your life becoming better.
Life is like a stone in Sisyphus, repeatedly, every day is a repetition of getting up, eating, and going to work.
In such equally repetitive days, there are people who live happily and happily; Some people are depressed; Someone was in agony.
The reason for this is that happy people choose to let go of the chicken feathers of life, forgive the world before going to bed, and wake up to be reborn.
As Tolstoy said at the beginning of Anna Karenina, "Happy families are all alike, and unhappy families have their own misfortunes." ”
When Grandma Hengko was 27 years old, she was introduced to Mitsuo Nakamura, an otolaryngologist.
The introducer said that the other party was not good, but after getting married, Grandma Hengzi found out that she had been deceived.
The husband is a heavy drinker, calling friends after work and drinking everywhere.
He squandered all the money he earned, and he didn't care about his family at all.
Every time you threaten to divorce after a quarrel, the other party can go back to the same for a few days, and then return to the same.
Grandma Hengzi wanted to divorce, but thought that the child needed a healthy and good living environment, so she gave up.
She made a plan for herself, "At the child's marriage ceremony, the husband and wife stand side by side and make a speech, they are still husband and wife", and then wait for the child to get married before divorcing.
After thinking like this, she no longer cares about her husband's alcoholism, and she works hard to earn money and support her family.
This sounds great, but it's hard to do in reality.
But as a mother, this must be the choice of most people.
There is no way to change the status quo, there is no way to change that person, only to change one's own mind.
To let go of others is to let go of yourself.
Making yourself better and better is the best response to misfortune.
The helplessness of life is that no matter how you treat it, every day will always come and go quietly.
The only thing we can do is to choose to move forward bravely.
Grandma Hengko was 16 years old, carrying a bag and a bag, and went to Osaka alone from Onomichi.
It was the end of the war, and American bombers were coming.
Seeing the train that had just stopped smoking, Grandma Hengzi did not flinch.
She later recalled: "At that time, everyone realized that death was close by. No matter where you go, death is everywhere. ”
Although the train was suspended several times due to air raids, everyone ran to the jungle next to the train to take shelter.
But she didn't hesitate for a moment, and firmly chose to move on.
Death is near, but life goes on.
The husband has been an alcoholic for most of his life, regardless of the family, but Grandma Hengzi still chose to quit his job to take care of him when he fell ill in his later years.
Since she didn't choose to divorce, she was still husband and wife, and in the face of someone who had shared the bed for many years, she chose to forgive the past and take good care of him.
Perhaps because of guilt, her husband died the day after Grandma Hengko's resignation.
Soon she chose to go back to work.
She said that she didn't like her work, and she couldn't say that she didn't like it, but she felt that people should be independent and should work.
No matter what bomb life throws, she happily catches it and moves forward bravely in her own way.
We can't choose to be cloudy, but we can choose to move forward.
04 Written at the end:
Grandma Hengzi's life is the life of an ordinary person, forced to engage in a profession; married to a bastard husband; experienced the war of life and death; But she still used her strong and optimistic attitude to complete a simple and happy life.
Life is never short of chicken feathers, but we can choose to make these feathers into beautiful chicken feather marbles.
The writer Yu Hua once had his teeth extracted for five years in order to make a living, and although the similar oral scenery of humans made him very painful, these experiences also provided a lot of material for his later writing.
Dong Yuhui was once ridiculed for his English accent; was scolded for looking like a terracotta warrior in the first live broadcast; I have been alone in the night; But these experiences propelled him forward like a cannonball.
It doesn't matter what cards you get in life, we have all walked alone in the deep ditch, but so what.
No matter how strong the wind and rain are, we can still hold our heads high and move forward bravely.
Share. Let's see together, let's bloom in the mire.