In the hustle and bustle of the city, stories between people emerge one after another, some heart-warming, others thought-provoking. Just last weekend on the subway, an unusual scene caught my attention. A young girl, with untimely heavy makeup under her immature face, sits on the lap of a middle-aged man, holding a cheap doll tightly in her hand, and a happy smile on her face. My little sister, as a journalist, is keenly aware that this is not a father-daughter relationship, but a complicated relationship. She asked me if such a subject was worth writing about, and I answered in the affirmative, but I also reminded her that such stories are not new and will eventually touch the bottom line of morality.
This story sparked me to think deeply about lack of love and self-healing. Psychology tells us that if an individual lacks love in childhood, he or she will often try to fill the void in his heart in various ways when he grows up. They may be overly pursuing in love or career, hoping to prove their worth through outward accomplishments. This behavior is often motivated by an intrinsic need rather than true self-growth.
For this little girl, she may be unconsciously searching for the lost love of her father or mother. She may think that by sacrificing her dignity and individuality, she can gain the love of the time. This kind of bargaining may seem reasonable, but it is actually self-deception. Whether the man has a family or not, his actions are irresponsible. If he is a married man with a family, then he is just playing with feelings; If he is single or divorced, then his act of seducing minors with material benefits is even worse.
The story may well not end well. By the time the little girl realizes that this is just the second catastrophe of her life, she may have fallen into it. Her actions are ostensibly to gain love, but in fact they are a denial of self-worth. True love begins with self-love, and it is only when we truly accept and love ourselves that we can attract a partner who is truly right for us.
Life is a long practice, and we are all trying to complete our life tasks through various challenges. These challenges are painful, but they are also opportunities for growth. When the little girl finally realizes that she has been hurt, she may grow. The experience, despite its pain, was an integral part of her life. It is only through these experiences that we can truly understand ourselves and complete the process of self-healing.
I want all my friends to be able to love themselves and to surround yourself with people who truly love you. For those young people who are addicted to love, I would like to say that it is difficult to awaken the sleeping heart by exhortation from the outside world, and only self-awakening can truly get out of the predicament. I hope that you will be able to complete your life tasks as soon as possible and find your true self.
Finally, I would like to ask a question about how we can ensure that we do not lose ourselves in the pursuit of love and fulfillment. This is worth pondering for each of us.