In our lives, there are always men who are especially comfortable in front of women. These men obviously possess some outstanding skills in some areas. Let's summarize these special "skills" for you:
1. Good attitude.
When interacting with women, most men often worry that inappropriate words or behaviors will have a negative impact on the woman, resulting in a restrained and unnatural appearance in front of the woman, and unable to show their true selves.
The correct mindset should be: be indifferent, treat it with a peaceful heart, and not attach too much importance to the results. Just making friends with girls and naturally showing their true colors can attract them, which is naturally good; If you can't, don't care, maybe you don't have that fate. It's also fun to meet new people.
Compared with the above, if your mentality is not conducive to your flirtatious sister, then the first thing you need to change is your mentality, a more effective way:
1. Meet enough girls.
2. Cultivate a self-confident mindset (when people are confident, they will not be evaluated in the unexpected world).
I won't go into the specific methods here, you can read my previous articles.
2. Always "be yourself".
The core of the relationship between men and women is always attractiveness, and all men have to do is be themselves and make themselves the most attractive version of themselves.
The best way to do that is to be yourself. Steps on how to be yourself: First, accept yourself, including your strengths and weaknesses; secondly, to recognize yourself, so as to build self-confidence; Finally, be brave and be yourself.
A person does not dare to let the outside world know everything about himself, then he is separated from the world, accept everything about himself, he will become confident, a confident person will have a good attitude, he will not care what others think of him at all, self-centered, everything is to improve himself, this is the state of being himself! This is your "most primitive" state, and that's when attraction comes in!
3. Know how to "choose" women.
I first heard this from a friend of mine, because when he was in college, he was always surrounded by girls, I asked him, and he told me: "Girls who are not interested in him, he will never flirt", and this concept was finally classified by me as my core theory: know how to choose. The choice is wrong, the effort is really in vain, and you really can't do anything about the girl who doesn't like you.
Choose wisely. The wrong choice can be futile no matter how hard you try. You really can't do anything about women who are not interested in you. Even those so-called flirting masters are actually just looking for girls who are interested in them. For most women, they also feel overwhelmed.
4. Find out the girl who likes you.
This is a continuation of the previous one, when choosing a female partner, it is important to recognize which women have a crush on you and which are not interested in you. In reality, most women may not be very interested in you, and only a few will have a crush on you, especially if you are not from a wealthy background. Very few men have the ability to discern such nuances.
1. Based on my own social intuition, I can know whether the girl is interested in me through some words and reactions of the girl in my relationship, chat, and date with women, which requires you to know enough about women and have enough experience in getting along with girls.
2. Test, in some specific circumstances, when the girl can not fully grasp my interest, it is necessary to test the woman to further confirm, my more commonly used tricks: invite girls, help you, say some ambiguous words in a timely manner (don't use it indiscriminately), etc., if the woman gives you feedback is positive, then you can roughly conclude that you are interested, otherwise, there is no interest.
In this process, it is also analyzed on a case-by-case basis, and there is no layer of constant situation.
5. Good social skills.
As long as a man has no problems with his social skills, then he will definitely not lack women. People with strong social skills will be able to deal with people easily, and naturally and easily wander among people and gain their trust.
A few tips like I always say: be considerate of others; Affirming and encouraging others; Give people care, warmth; Respect for others and so on are the most basic principles of socializing and being a human being.
There are two key factors in flirting: attractiveness and familiarity, people with strong social skills will quickly establish a sense of familiarity with people, which plays a very important role in flirting with girls.
How many of these do you have? The more you have, the higher your success rate, and if you don't have it, you need to gradually improve it, and work together!