Regarding love, the ancient literati wrote that "ask what the love of the world is, and teach people to promise life and death." "There are classic scenes in Hong Kong films" If you have to add a deadline to this love, I hope it will be - 10,000 years! "There are countless dramas in Korean dramas with pure love, sweet love and other kinds of love as the background.
Regardless of the kind of love story, the interpretation in film and television literature is always full of drama, intertwined with joy and pain. When it comes to love, we talk more about "love at first sight" or "love over time".
Based on the above, love seems to be directly marked with "feeling" and "emotion", and romance is what many girls look forward to.
But returning to the real world, looking at this issue from the perspective of both sexes and man as a natural creature, love is both an art and a science.
Speaking of which, I have to mention this recently finished "Psychology of Sex". The author of the book is the British physician Havelock Richard, who, along with Freud, is known as the two great masters of the study of human sexuality. Sexual psychology is an independent discipline, and the research results made by Richard are recognized as the founders of this field. And this book is his guide to sexology for the general public, helping us to understand human beings scientifically themselves.
Regarding love, the psychologist interprets it from a scientific point of view, and then sublimates it to an artistic level**.
He first pointed out that "love" is a pleasant euphemism, but we must distinguish between "desire" and "love". Desire is only a physiological surname impulse, while love is the sum of the surname impulse and other impulses, which is a kind of emotion with a wide range of connotations and complex changes, not the so-called romantic illusion.
If this emotion is to be separated, he first cites the discussion of the British sociologist Spencer in "Principles of Psychology", that love is composed of nine distinct and important factors: 1. Physiological impulse 2, feeling of beauty 3, dearness 4, admiration and respect 5, the psychology of liking to be praised 6, self-esteem 7, feeling of ownership 8, an expanded freedom of action obtained by the elimination of the gap between man and self 9, and the upsurge and excitement of various emotions.
Based on this, if a relationship and the other party makes you lose yourself and self-confidence, maybe this is not real love, it is PUA.
In addition, Richard also added a very important factor: a part of love that is built on the instinct of parent-child love. In the words we are familiar with now, in a marriage where passion fades, both parties become relatives.
When it comes to why love is an art, the author argues that the union of the sexes is a basic physiological fact of nature, but it should not be regarded as a business or entertainment, but requires full enthusiasm and considerable art.
As the poet Pence said, indifferent and passionless indulgence is the most terrible thing in the world. And if something like love can happen casually, the result must be cold and unpassionate.
At last. I really recommend that every girl not miss this physical and psychological class that is missing from traditional education.