Yataro Matsuura once said, "Your hobbies and lifestyles are essentially for self-satisfaction and pleasure." When you learn to accept yourself, life will naturally be full of style. ”
After much deliberation, it is.
If you want to gain the respect and recognition of others in your life, the first thing to do is to show your best side to the world.
In the same way, in interpersonal communication, only strong and excellent can soar side by side with the outstanding.
Relying on pleasing others to maintain relationships will only lead to damage to self-esteem, scorn and alienation.
In the Japanese drama "Calm Leisure", the heroine is a typical representative of the pandering personality.
In order to maintain a good relationship with her colleagues, she not only took the initiative to take the fault for her colleagues, but also took over tasks that did not belong to her. Even if I don't have a common topic with my colleagues, I reluctantly attend their meetings.
In order to meet her boyfriend's aesthetic standards, she spends an hour a day straightening her naturally curly hair; In order to make her boyfriend feel her virtuous and virtuous, she is frugal in life, thinking that in this way she can win her boyfriend's love.
However, once when she was delivering food to her boyfriend, she overheard her boyfriend and her colleagues belittling herself behind her back. What hit her even more was that her boyfriend admitted that he was just playing with her and had no plans to get married.
The impact of this scene on the heroine is also a portrayal of many people in real life: constantly compromising in order to maintain friendship, bending to meet in order to have a smooth career, and changing oneself in order to stabilize the relationship.
In the end, instead of achieving the desired goal, he was despised by others.
Bi Shumin once famously said, "Our lives do not exist to cater to the preferences of others." ”
In a world where even the most perfect people meet people who don't like them, we don't have to force ourselves to meet everyone's expectations.
Instead of wronging oneself and bending to meet others, it is better to learn to please yourself first and manage your life with your heart.
Please remember this saying: cherishing yourself is the starting point of a romantic life. It's not your job to please others, but to make yourself happy.