Jiang Defu, a person with a generous heart and incomparably kind, is deeply admired for his broad-mindedness. No matter who he faces, he can show a tolerant and humble attitude, and even repay grievances with virtue, which is truly extraordinary. His courtesy and tolerance towards his brother-in-law Ouyang Yi are particularly impressive.
In the early years, Ouyang Yi's attitude towards Jiang Defu was extremely arrogant. When he knew that it was Jiang Defu, an illiterate mud leg, who was married to him, he was full of dissatisfaction and complaints. In his opinion, his family background is innocent, and marrying Jiang Defu is undoubtedly an insult to his identity. He even sneered, thinking that Jiang Defu was able to marry An Jie, completely taking advantage of the fire.
Ouyang Yi's first meal for Jiang Defu can be described as sinister, deliberately choosing Western food that Jiang Defu had never tried to make things difficult for him. However, Jiang Defu was used to seeing big scenes and didn't care at all. He is calm and calm, and he copes with ease with a simple demeanor and informal personality. He generously communicates with the waiters, eats steaks with chopsticks, and even cares about whether the restaurant has enough firewood. This calm spirit contrasted sharply with Ouyang Yi's narrow-minded actions, which amazed An Jie.
Later, Ouyang Yi encountered difficulties, and only then did he truly appreciate Jiang Defu's integrity and generosity. Even though Ouyang Yi had a lot of criticism of Jiang Defu, and even had a lot of criticism about his brother, Jiang Defu never cared. He not only avoided using "Lao Ou" every time he addressed Ouyang Yi to maintain his dignity, but also always extended a helping hand to Ouyang Yi in the more than ten years that Ouyang Yi was branded as a rightist. He encouraged An Jie to visit Ouyang Yi's family often, send money and gifts, and never hesitated. This kind of selfless kindness undoubtedly made Ouyang Yi feel the warmth of human nature in the predicament.
Jiang Defu was an extremely benevolent and righteous gentleman, even in the face of Jiang Changyi's pretence, he could repay his grievances with virtue and generously arrange him to the naval force. His daughters revered their father and called him a great gentleman. However, even such a Jiang Defu has someone who can't be forgiven in his life, and that is his ex-wife Zhang Guilan. Every time Zhang Guilan was mentioned, Jiang Defu would be rarely emotional, and obviously, Zhang Guilan's betrayal had brought him great harm.
In Jiang Defu's heart, Zhang Guilan's betrayal is an unforgivable shame. Even after retiring and returning to his hometown, he still couldn't calm the anger in his heart when he learned that Zhang Guilan was looking at him from a distance. Zhang Guilan's relationship with the dumb second brother made him feel deep pain.
The dumb second brother is Jiang Defu's second brother, who was disliked by his daughter-in-law because he was dumb, and finally ended up alone. And Zhang Guilan, a woman who is not treated by her husband after marrying, how can she survive alone in that era of war and chaos? Two people who are both in the end of the world, in that special environment, warm each other, comfort each other, resist the risks of life together, and solve the minimum food and clothing.
Although Zhang Guilan's choice is puzzling, after savoring it, we understand the deep meaning. This is actually a kind of compassion, compassion for the two marginal people at the bottom. In the context of that particular era, they were all poor people who were ignored by society, and they chose to be together, perhaps just to rely on each other and face the difficulties of life together. Under the tremendous pressure of real life, people are often unable to help themselves. Especially after watching the movie "Hidden in the Dust" starring Haiqing, we can more deeply understand those humble people who live on the fringes of society, and they are full of helplessness in any era. Therefore, we should not be too harsh on Zhang Guilan, she is just a poor person struggling in a difficult situation.