Love can transcend the boundaries of age and identity, and the beauty of it is that it is not bound by any inherent norms and constraints. There are many cases of old wives and young husbands in history, and they prove that age is not the limit of love.
For example, Zhang Xian in the Song Dynasty, when he was eighty years old, he married an eighteen-year-old girl; In modern times, Qi Baishi married a 22-year-old wife at the age of 92; Even physicist Yang Zhenning chose a wife Weng Fan, who was 54 years younger than him, at the age of 82.
These are all full demonstration of the magic of love, which allows people to cross the age gap and pursue their own love.
This kind of love that spans the centuries is not only a phenomenon unique to China, but also exists abroad. However, there are still a minority of people who can accept this kind of relationship. Some of the well-known silver-haired couples mentioned above, due to the superior conditions of the man, even if there is a huge age gap, have a unique charm that is enough to attract each other, and their married life is also guaranteed.
The situation of this Vietnamese couple is far more difficult than we have heard before. In 2010, a 27-year-old woman married her husband, who was 43 years her senior, and they already had three children.
After twelve years of marriage, the 82-year-old husband has lost his financial **, and all his daily life needs his wife to take care of him, and their life is very difficult.
Today, let's learn their story together.
Born in a small impoverished village in Vietnam, Bihi was often starved and clothed as a child due to difficult family conditions. At that time, Vietnam was in the midst of war, and most of the young and middle-aged people died on the battlefield, and the ratio of men to women was seriously imbalanced.
In 1983, Bishi's mother became seriously ill and she decided to give up her job and return to her hometown to take care of her.
Due to the monopoly of the means of production by large families, many young people are unemployed and unemployed, and it is difficult for them to make ends meet, let alone marry and have children. In this social context, many Vietnamese women choose to marry men older than themselves to make ends meet, while some women who do not want to marry can only engage in illegal activities in border areas to make ends meet.
After leaving the countryside to earn a living in the capital Hanoi, Bihi was liked by his employers because of his diligence and ability, and he had a stable job and earned money. Compared with his peers who are still worried about food and clothing, Bishi has lived a well-off life by "Vietnamese standards".
While trying to build for the future, Bihi encounters a change of events and returns to poverty. In 2009, her mother suddenly fell seriously ill, and in order to take care of her mother, Bishi had to quit her job and go home.
Vietnamese society is under a lot of pressure to find employment, and Bihi knows that once he quits, his boss can quickly find cheaper labor. Even if I return to Hanoi in the future, it will be difficult to find a satisfactory job.
My mother was seriously ill, and the work was not easy. After much thought, Bihi finally gave up his job and resolutely returned to his hometown.
Bihi's mother is seriously ill in bed, and he devotes himself to taking care of her every day, doing all the menial household chores such as laundry, boiling water, and cooking. Even though it takes more than a dozen hours a day, there are still a lot of things that cannot be done.
Even if he was busy late at night, he had to make sure his mother ate and sleeped. For Bihi, this is a realistic helplessness, but also a responsibility that must be assumed.
After her mother's illness, Bishi's life became more stressful. Luckily, she has a 72-year-old neighbor named Hawke. Although Hawke was an elderly man who lived alone, he often helped Billy and her mother, which eased Bille's life.
Despite being over seventy years old, Mr. Hawke is still fully committed to helping the Bigch mother and daughter with their heavy tasks, which is very gratifying to the Bigch mothers and daughters. In such a difficult situation, Mr. Hawke's unrequited lending of a helping hand made Bishe feel endless warmth and his heart was filled with gratitude.
Beck's "Love" with Hawke: A Friendship Beyond Age Because Hawke often came to help, Beck formed a deep friendship with the old man who was 43 years older than himself.
Although the outside world regards the two as grandchildren, their relationship is more like brother and sister. In their free time, the two will chat, joke and share their experiences of the day. The age gap did not affect the relationship between them, but made their friendship deeper.
With Hawke's assistance, Bishi's mother's living situation began to improve, and the process of ** accelerated day by day. At this time, Bishi deeply felt that Hawke was by his side, and the fear and anxiety in his heart disappeared without a trace.
And Hawke, while helping the troubled mother and daughter day in and day out, also has a unique affection for Bihe.
One day, after assisting Bihi with household chores, Hawke suddenly says to him: "I have deep feelings for you, I can't leave you, and I want to enter into marriage with you." ”
At the time, Hawke understood that there was a big age gap between him and Bishy, and was worried that Bishi would refuse, so he chose to express it in a half-joking way.
Hawke didn't expect that when he said this, Bihi was silent for a moment. When Bihi finally spoke, she agreed to Hawke. For the old man, who had been single for many years, Bishy's response made him ecstatic.
I have lived alone all my life, and in my later years, I will be happy to be recognized and liked by such a young and capable girl.
The two love each other silently, but in order to avoid the gossip in the village, their feelings can only be hidden in the bottom of their hearts. However, love is like a burning flame that will always be noticed.
Soon, the people in the village began to whisper, and some of the elders even mocked Bishi and Hawke insinuatingly.
Fearless and convinced of the power of love, Bissi and Hawke decided to walk together openly and firmly. Even in the face of pressure from some respected elders in the village, they did not waver and insisted on their choice.
In the end, they withstood the pressure and resolutely entered the palace of marriage.
A happy marriage brought Hawke refreshment, he worked hard at home, and his mother was taken care of by Hawke because of her physical progress. Soon after their marriage, Bihi took the responsibility of earning money to support his family, considering that Hawke was too old to find a suitable job.
Although the way Bishi and Hawke get along is unusual, their relationship is even deeper because of it. Although life is difficult, Hawke's presence makes Bihi feel happy and content.
Soon after, they welcomed their first child. However, instead of bringing tranquility, the birth of the child sparked a series of rumors. Some even questioned the child's father behind his back.
Despite the false rumors, Bishi and Hawke remained calm and never responded to them. As the rumors spread, Bishi and Hawke decided to take action to break them, and they had two more children.
During the birth of two children, Bishi lived with Hawke and never left. It wasn't until the birth of the two children that those rumors finally subsided.
Although there were many beautiful moments in Hawke's marriage to Billy, the years passed and his body gradually weakened. Despite their desire to grow old together, there is no denying the age difference between them by 43 years.
Despite this, Bishi only cherishes the time he spends with Hawke now, and is not depressed about what lies ahead of time.
Time flies, and twelve years are fleeting. Vietnam** reported on their marital status again in 2022, twelve years after the two were married. Today, Bihi has entered the threshold of middle age, becoming a 39-year-old woman, while her husband Hawke is 82 years old, and his health is not as good as before, and he is almost incapacitated.
Not only does Bishi have to take care of her elderly husband and young children, but she also has to earn money to support her family, and the hardships of life are self-evident.
Although Hawke was confined to his home care by his wife, Bihi, due to his inability to work, he never complained. Bishi knows how much Hawke had done for her when he was taking care of his mother on the sickbed.
For her part, Bihi has had almost a decade of happiness and is very satisfying for a woman. Although Hawke is now on Birch for support, she is confident about the future.
Bihi hopes that Hawke will live a long and healthy life and spend a few more years with her and the child. From the time Hawke helped her take care of her mother, he has become her spiritual support. With Hawke by his side, Bishi can move forward firmly.
However, compared to Bichy's optimism, Hawke felt a little apprehensive. He knew that despite his hard work, Bishe could barely make ends meet for a family of five, and often felt that he was a burden to Bishy.
Due to family constraints, the three children never received a formal education, and Hawke did not have much education when he was young and could not tutor them at home. Their only hope is to send their children to public free schools when conditions improve.
However, even so, the couple still has to pay a considerable amount of money to cover the children's other school expenses.
With an age gap of 43 years, the two always have to deal with the pressure of hardship. Although marriage can be emotionally dependent, it does require practical material support for the education of children.
When asked by a reporter if Bihi regretted the predicament of his life because of his marriage to Hawke, Bihi's answer was denied.
"I have no regrets, and although our current economic situation is not optimistic, there are no problems in our relationship," Bihi said firmly. My choice to marry Hawke meant that I was willing to take care of everything and take care of him, as well as our children.
I want to be worthy of my decision! "I really hope that the two of them will be able to get through this together and raise their three children in good health. I also pray that Hawke will live a few more years, even though he can't do much, but as long as he is there, Bishi has sustenance for life. ”
Vietnam's Marital Woes – The war-induced gender imbalance has been a source of concern for women's marital status. For example, marriages like Birch and Hawke are very common in Vietnam.
In the last century, due to the war, the ratio of men to women in Vietnam was severely imbalanced, and many young men were lacking in the labor force, so that Vietnamese women had to choose to form families with older Vietnamese men.
Even in some areas where the gender imbalance is most severe, coupled with poverty and other reasons, many Vietnamese women have no choice but to marry far away.
Although there are jokes on the Internet that ridicule Vietnamese women, this is also a real problem faced by Vietnamese women. However, in recent years, the promotion of ** incentive policies has led to a shift in the ratio of men to women in Vietnam.
According to the data, 50 of Vietnam's population is male2%, 498%, with a total population of 9,733860,000 people. From 2010 to 2022, Vietnam's population growth reached 93710,000 people, or one-tenth of the total population.
The challenge of population growth is a heavy burden for Vietnamese women, who will have to take care of their elderly husbands and young children due to the large and small male population, and the high proportion of elderly and children.
Although some interventions have been taken to address this issue, the effect has not been significant. However, the good news is that Vietnam's urbanization rate is increasing year by year, reaching 37 by 20203%。
Despite the country's great progress in urbanization, the employment rate remains sluggish, and families are burdened with meager salaries to make ends meet. So there are many more poor families like Xiang Bishi and Hawke, and they will still be living in poverty for quite some time to come.
Compared with the difficult life, for Nozomi and Hawke, it is the happiest thing for Nozomi and Hawke to spend the rest of their lives happily and raise their children smoothly. Therefore, we should give them more blessings.