February** Dynamic Incentive Program
I once saw a well-known blogger once say that because of her original family, her personality is sensitive and fragile, and many times she will involuntarily use malice to speculate and doubt others, and it is difficult to establish trust in others.
Once I went on a cliff trip with my husband, standing on the edge of a steep cliff, and then looking back at my husband who was enjoying the scenery behind me, I even wondered if he would push me down. She couldn't help but ask her husband: Will you push me down? The husband looked shocked and even a little sad, and asked her, "Why do you think that?" ”
The original family is not up to people, and the character is not up to people. What is commendable is that when you meet love, you are willing to change yourself for each other.
The husband in question later hugged her tightly and told her with certainty, "You can always trust me." ”
Love is precious, but marriage is the least able to withstand the baptism of time.
After more than ten years of being suspicious, suspected and denied, how much patience can the hot-blooded husband have left, and how long can he persevere?
On the contrary to her, the marriage of her friend was learned from her mouth, but it was a boiled frog in warm water.
When my friend saw the blogger's **, he jokingly said to me: If it were me, I really hoped that he would be ruthless and push me off the cliff, and I, a cowardly person, would be relieved. ”
I was terrified and hugged her tightly. I said that the rarest thing in this world is your own life, how can you give up easily, if you don't love your husband, no one is worth letting you give up your life.
But she told me about it.
My husband and I were also very sweet when we first got married, he loved me very much, I loved him very much, we were considerate of each other and accommodating each other.
I am a very introverted and slow sensitive person, I am easy to lose my temper at a little thing, at the beginning of my temper he will often come to hug me and comfort me and enlighten me. In this way, his emotions were out of control, and he appeased him for a few years.
Later, when I lost my temper over a trivial matter, he slowly became a little helpless at first, then a little irritable, and even later ignored me and faced me with cold violence. Gradually I stopped losing my temper, and we didn't even care about each other anymore, we just lived a dull life together day after day. ”
When I heard it in my ears, I couldn't help but feel a burst of melancholy in my heart, and I couldn't help but say, "It's okay, at least you still have a complete home, but if he was willing to coax you to show that he loves you at the beginning, why did this happen later?" Why do you lose your temper so often? Have you tried talking to him? Is it his problem or whose problem, have you found the answer in yourself? "I asked several questions in a row.
She looked at me and smiled faintly, turned her head and said softly, "Why don't you want to live happily ever after?"
He was a very responsible man and never did anything to be sorry for me.
I also feel sorry for his hard work, I will prepare delicious meals every day and wait for him to come back, and I will always wash and prepare clean clothes for him to wear every day, and clean the house in an orderly manner.
At first, I enjoyed it, constantly picking up his clothes and socks thrown everywhere, slippers from east to west every day, shoes at the door, four or five dirty towels, toothpaste that was not collected when I ran out, and dishes and chopsticks that were placed after eating.
I knew very well that he loved me, and when I first got married, he would take me to eat delicious food, he would coax me when I lost my temper, and he would give me the money he earned. But he would interrupt what I wanted to say in front of people at any time, and he would never surprise me with gifts on anniversaries, and he would impose his three views on me. Day after day, I was exhausted.
We also have a lovely child, and life is not unbearable, but this life is so hopeless.
I really wanted to let go but couldn't escape this known comfort zone, and I didn't dare to pursue a new life. So it's better to fantasize about the other party making some unforgivable mistake so that you can force yourself. ”
She laughed to herself.
I sighed softly and shook her hand, trying to comfort her but couldn't speak. Chore! How many women's fighting spirit has been crushed, and all expectations and fantasies have been wiped out.
This warm boiled frog marriage is just a life together, and it is understandable that she is sad at a glance, but life is not a movie, nor is it **, there is not so much happiness at your fingertips, and it is more that you need to constantly strive for, change, and adapt.
I told my friends that it's not your fault, nor your husband, it's that life is too dull and you lose your love and passion day after day. Talk to your husband more when you have time, and go out for a walk.
The most important thing is to learn to improve yourself and enrich yourself, and when your heart is strong enough, everything is no longer a problem.
Friends, am I right?