Sometimes, life will suddenly give you a hammer, make you inadvertently fall into anxiety and confusion, and make you suddenly feel that you don't know how to go in life? There is no direction at all.
Constantly falling into anxiety and confusion, unable to get out, maybe this is also a good thing, constantly telling yourself that you need to stop and take a good look at yourself. In the process of reading the book "The Cafe at the End of the World", I saw the following passage from a book friend's message, and suddenly, I seemed to realize something.
If one day you stop looking for love, just love. You no longer aspire to succeed, just do it. You no longer pursue empty growth, but you just begin to cultivate your temperament. It's just when everything really begins in your life.- Gibran's own state of doing things in the past seems to have been in a kind of blind process, and he has never clearly recognized himself, and he does not know what he really wants.
1.Why am I hereThis question is the first question that arises in Cafe at the End of the World. In other words, what is the purpose of my existence? When I came across this book, I continued to fall into a state of anxiety and confusion, with no direction and goal at all, and I didn't know how to walk the next road.
So, for the time being, I can't answer the question of why I came here.
In this state of anxiety and confusion, I forced myself to stop and enter a state of reading a lot of books + studying, combined with my past experiences, which brought about various reflectionsSentiment. 
As my cognitive thinking improves, I gradually understand. Many problems in life are a process of experience, and in the process of this experience, we constantly understand how to recognize the true self and how to better be the true self. To be true to yourself is to find the direction of life and know why you came from. And how can you find your true self? How to be true to yourself? It is also a process of continuous mind cultivation. 
2.To find your true self, you must start by cultivating your mindWhy is my life always going badly? Why do you always encounter various obstacles to career development? This sentence keeps popping up in my mind: the outside world is a projection of one's own interior. In the process of continuous reflection, I realized that it was I who did not follow the rules and trends of this world.
It turns out that I don't understand the rules and laws of human nature. Many of the ideas that our society produces are easily in a state of duality. When we encounter many problems in our lives, we may be in a kind of right and wrong, in a process of continuous judgment, and then bring all kinds of negative emotional problems. Under this kind of negative emotional problem, if we want to do things well, we will naturally be affected, and we will not get the results we want. 
Watch those who succeed in getting big results. Whether it's studying their lessons, reading their books, or looking at the way they approach things. They can do it at any time, and the emotions are in a peaceful and stable state, and there are very few negative emotions. Is it that they don't have negative emotions? No, it is they who can follow the trend of human nature to relieve and regulate their emotions. It is they who can put themselves in a more positive state of mind to look at the problems that are happening. Of course, it is not an easy thing to follow the rules and cultivate one's mind. You need to know how to better deal with and regulate your emotional problems.
3.Learning to communicate effectively can avoid many emotional problemsFrom childhood to adulthood, each of us will definitely not have smooth sailing in life, and everyone will encounter all kinds of unpleasant things to a greater or lesser extent, or be suppressed, or constantly denied, and continue to suppress themselves. Perhaps, in the process, let yourself be filled with all kinds of scars, accumulate on your body, and let these scars accumulate into negativity and expose yourself to life. Knowing this, you will develop more awareness and empathy. 
Let yourself be aware at any time, know how to empathize, and your own language and mentality will also change from negative to positive process, so as to know how to make yourself better communication and achieve better results.
This is also a subject that requires continuous cultivation, constant awareness, empathy, and better communication with others, in order to obtain better results. In this mode of communication that is constantly aware of empathy, you can slowly express yourself and your needs truthfully. This is a process of continuous cultivation.
Looking back on the past I have experienced, many problems arise because I have not communicated well and effectively, so let myself start anew, start from the heart, and be aware of myself.
Always be aware of your own language patterns, be aware of your own behaviors, always turn your thoughts and thoughts, and slowly find your true self little by little, and be your true self. From the outside to the inside, let's go through it all over again.
Becoming better is the key to solving the problem.
Past experience, from which we can sum up problems, that is, wealth.
Knowing the existence of the problem and having the heart to be aware of the change, everything will slowly develop and change for the better.