For families with daughters, finding a good husband for their daughters is probably a big deal in the hearts of parents. And Mrs. Bennett in "Pride and Prejudice" also took great pains to do so.
Due to the restrictions imposed on the probate, the Bennett family's fortune could only be inherited by a distant relative, Collins. As a result, finding a good match for her daughter became Mrs. Bennett's top priority.
Different personalities create different choices, and the result is a very different life. Jane Austen is in this of her favorite **:
Tell us with rational strokes what kind of mentality a mature person should use to face and choose important events in life:Marriage.
In the book, Lydia, the youngest daughter of the Bennett family, is blind and frivolous; Lack of thinking about feelings and marriage, short-sightedness.
only wants to be glamorous for a while, but it turns out to make a mess of life. Jane, the eldest sister in the family, is very reserved and calm, she is not flattering or flattering.
always treats the gains and losses of feelings with a gentle attitude, and reaps a beautiful love. The second sister, Elizabeth, is self-respecting and brave, and she sensibly faces up to the problems in her relationship.
And make changes to this end, so as to achieve happiness in both directions.
Owen said: The purpose of all human efforts is to achieve happiness. After reading "Pride and Prejudice", we can see that only by not clinging to it and paying attention to one's own growth and cultivation is the key to a woman's happiness.
A reckless marriage is a trap for women's misfortune
Marriage is a major event in life. If you don't choose a partner and choose marriage with a cautious attitude, you may ruin your life.
Bennett's youngest daughter, Lydia, got married hastily because she didn't know anyone, and as a result, she lost her happiness. Lydia is frivolous, she has only just turned sixteen and has already entered the social circle.
Especially after the arrival of the militia regiment, she thought about flirting with those officers all day long. Even, as long as the officers are attentive to her, she will be in the spring.
When Wickham, who is dignified and suave and good at rhetoric, flatters her and invites her to pet; She soon fell into Wickham's gentle onslaught, leaving her family behind and eloping with him regardless of her reputation.
Wickham, however, claimed that his departure from the militia was only forced by gambling debts. He even blames Lydia for having a bad influence on her for her stupidity, and has no intention of marrying her.
Through Darcy's mediation, he helped Wickham pay off his gambling debts.
After giving them a certain amount of living expenses and donating him an official position, he agreed to marry Lydia.
Shakespeare said that a hasty marriage is less than a happy one. It's fitting that for them.
They earn less, spend lavishly, and quickly make ends meet. So much so that I had to rely on my sisters to help me live, and I even had to ask my sisters for money when I moved.
In the constant moving and tossing, the relationship between the two people is getting weaker and weaker. Later, Wickham often went out to have fun, while Lydia stayed at her sister's house.
The two of them are completely strangers to the point of being incompatible. Fu Lei said:
If you want to find a permanent partner, you should also think rationally, don't be blinded by feelings! To be cautious about marriage is to be responsible for oneself and one's family. Because of recklessness, only caring about the immediate pleasure, the consequences are worrying.
Careful consideration will greatly reduce the risk. In the face of marriage, the more mature a person is, the more cautious he will be.
The more cautious you are, the more happiness you create. 
A marriage that comes naturally is the foundation of a woman's happiness
When Bentley first saw Jane, he was fascinated by this mature, steady girl.
When Jane was invited to his house and fell ill from the rain on the way, his worry and concern were so palpable. Regarding Bingley's feelings, Jane showed no surprise.
She was sick, he cared, and she was grateful. She wanted to go home, and he kept him because he had not recovered from the cold, but she was resolute and did not waver because of his retention.
She was polite but polite, shy and a little detached. So much so that in the eyes of Darcy, an outsider, Jane's performance was interpreted as having no feelings for Bentley.
Under Darcy's persuasion, Bentley left quietly without even saying hello. Bentley's departure left Jane depressed.
Seeing that she was trapped in love, her aunt, Mrs. Gardena, who happened to come to visit, invited Jane to London to relax. In London, Jane meets Bingley's sister.
But she refused to reveal Jane's whereabouts to Bingley, so much so that Jane did not meet Bingley during her three months in London. Although Jane was sad and sad, she neither surrendered herself to Bentley, nor was she sad and decadent.
Love is coming, and I accept it calmly. Love is gone, and it won't affect my life.
This is the best way for a woman to treat love. After Elizabeth's explanation, Darcy understands Jane's feelings for Bingley and arranges for Bingley to come to Bennett's house again.
This time, the two of them exchanged heartfelt feelings, completely confessed their hearts, and also won everyone's blessings.
It has been said that when you are absolutely attached to a man, you can only become an appendage.
Just like the vine that clings to the tree, it can only adjust its form with the growth of the tree, but cannot be the most authentic self.
Only by not clinging to and having an independent personality can we not please, do not pander, and do not change ourselves unprincipled because of the other party's preferences.
Such a person, the light emitted, on the contrary, can attract excellent eyes. 
A hard-working marriage is a testimony of a woman's happiness
Unlike Bingley and Jane, Darcy and Elizabeth's first meeting was very unfriendly. Darcy was reluctant to invite Elizabeth to dance, and Elizabeth thought Darcy was very arrogant and offended her dignity.
At the instigation of Wickham, Elizabeth's dislike of Darcy reached a deep-seated level. Think he's an arrogant and mean guy.
So, Darcy proposed to Elizabeth for the first time, but Elizabeth sternly refused. She also complained about Darcy's unacceptable behavior, such as breaking up Bentley and Jane, and ** against Wickham. The failure of this marriage proposal has a huge impact on both of them.
In the face of Elizabeth's rejection and accusations, although Darcy is angry, he also begins to take a serious look at himself. He wrote a long letter to Elizabeth, detailing his reasons for persuading Bentley to leave;
He also risked being a family scandal and told Elizabeth about his feud with Wickham, as well as Wickham's true character.
Elizabeth was not biased.
Instead, he compared the contents of the letter with what Wickham had said, carefully weighed every detail of the letter as impartially as possible.
Through careful scrutiny, she also discovers that she once had such a deep credulity about Wickham and a prejudice against Darcy. Soon after, when Elizabeth was going to play with her aunt and uncle, she stumbled upon Darcy who had just returned home.
Darcy was completely devoid of his former arrogance, and he was very gentle and friendly to his merchant-born uncle; Even Elizabeth was surprised that Darcy had changed a lot since the last breakup.
Not only did he change his attitude towards people and things, but he also secretly helped Elizabeth's family. If it weren't for Lydia's words, Elizabeth might never have known that without his help, Lydia would not have been able to marry Wickham.
Remembering that she had been disrespectful and rude to him, Elizabeth felt guilty. His prejudice against Darcy slowly melted away little by little.
And Bingley and Jane reconciled, and Elizabeth let go of her past and fully accepted Darcy. Charlotte Brontë said: Love is a game, and you must always be equal and evenly matched with each other in order to cherish each other in the long run. Marriage is like a stroll, if one person moves forward and the other stops in place, it will only make the gap between the two parties wider and wider. In the end, maybe even looking at each other's backs is a luxury.
Instead of watching him drift away, follow in his footsteps and move forward with him. Because they go hand in hand and grow together, they can walk at the same pace, even if he has his wonderful, I have my pride.
Some people say that marriage is a woman's second reincarnation. What kind of marriage you choose is what kind of life you want to live next.
But no matter what kind of life you choose, no matter who you live with, the only one who can bring you happiness is yourself. Zola said: The only happiness in life is to keep moving forward. The same is true for marriage, only by growing up can you make yourself the person who does not cling, does not depend, and exudes self-confidence, so as to better grasp happiness.
It is human nature to keep moving forward and pursue happiness.