I rejected my colleague's offer of 500 yuan a month to commute to and from work
My name is Lin Hai and I work in a private enterprise. The company is not large, but the benefits are not bad. I drove a Lexus sedan to and from work, and my colleague Xiao Zhao took a fancy to my car and offered to give me 500 yuan a month to commute in my car.
I didn't agree, after all, the company is not far from home. But Xiao Zhao really begged hard, saying that his home was far away from the company, and it was hard to squeeze the bus every day. I couldn't refuse, so I agreed to his request.
A few days later, Xiao Li also made the same request to me, hoping that I could also pick him up and take him to and from work, and give me 500 yuan every month. I hesitated, but agreed to him.
A week later, Xiao Zhang, Xiao Wang and several other colleagues also made requests, hoping that I could also pick them up and take them to and from work. I relented for a while, so I agreed.
It didn't take long for more than a dozen colleagues to commute to and from work in my car. My car couldn't fit for a long time, so everyone took turns to sit there. I can get more than 3,000 fast money a month, and the ride fee has become a big income for me**.
It was at this time that the company began to lay off employees due to poor management. First and foremost are the new colleagues who have just arrived. I thought that my old colleagues would take care of each other, but I didn't expect that the first person to object was my colleague in the car.
Xiao Zhao was the first to jump out and object, saying that the new colleagues had just arrived, and their contributions were not as big as ours, so they should be laid off first. Others chimed in. I was stunned.
I had a vague feeling in my heart that something was wrong. These colleagues who take me every day are inseparable from me on the surface, but in fact they have no friendship at all. It dawned on me that the only reason these people were asking me for a ride was because I had what they needed. They don't care about me as a person.
After thinking about it, the next day I found a few old colleagues who were hitchhiking, and said that the car was full and I could no longer pick them up and drop them off in the future. I didn't say why, I just wanted to keep my distance from them. Sure enough, they immediately turned their faces away from anyone, returned to their respective posts, and never spoke to me again.
Through this incident, I saw the true face of these people. They're just using me. And I foolishly thought they were friends with me. Now that I've finally recognized the dark side of human nature, it's a lesson in my growth.
The essence of interpersonal relationships is the relationship of interests. Only by thinking about the problem from the other side's point of view and paying a certain price can the two sides establish friendship. As soon as one party is unable to obtain benefits, the relationship immediately disintegrates.
The original intention of my driving colleague is very simple, that is, the life of my colleague is not very convenient, I happen to have a spare parking space, and the two sides just help each other. I didn't expect to make three or four thousand dollars out of it.
At first, my colleagues criticized me, also out of interest. When they achieve their goal, they will immediately turn around and draw a line with me. This kind of person didn't regard me as a friend from the beginning, they only saw interests in their eyes.
I mistakenly thought that my colleagues should have a certain friendship with me by riding in my car every day. This naïve idea does not apply at all to these people. They didn't see me as a friend at all, I was just something to use for them.
This incident made me realize the complex side of human nature. As an adult, I shouldn't have naïve ideas. In the relationship between people, interests come first. I have to face this up to the fact that I can't be a fool who doesn't know anything about the world.
The so-called "things gather by like, people by groups" is not bad at all. These colleagues who ride my car every day get together, and they are essentially a group of interest groups. They are naturally united and reject dissent. And I don't belong to their circle, so they don't take my feelings into account.
This incident inspired me a lot. It made me realize that in relationships, I can't trust others easily. It is not even possible to think that a small favor can make friends. I must confirm the sincerity of the other party, otherwise I am likely to be used by others, and I will only end up disappointed.
People are warm and cold, and the world is hot and cold. At this stage of society, moral romanticism is outdated in the eyes of many people. Everyone is seeking to maximize profits, and the word friend is just an excuse to use each other. I have to face this up to the moment and hone it a little, otherwise it will be difficult to gain a foothold in this society.
This episode can only be said to be a microcosm of my life path. It made me see the dark side of human nature and the reality of society. I can no longer hold on to naïve romantic fantasies. People are all interested in each other. This is the truth of this world. It seems to be harmonious on the surface, but the dark tide is turbulent inside. I have to face this up to the moment and be mentally prepared accordingly.
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