Lao Chen. Finishing: Listen to the autumn rain a. In life, we often encounter situations where we need to take care of the people closest to us in our lives and at the same time need to make ends meet, and we can't have the best of both worlds. Lao Chen encountered such a problem. As a couple who have just entered the palace of marriage, they rented a stall and did business in the wholesale food market. The birth of a child makes their lives even busier. When my wife was pregnant with her second child, they needed someone to take care of them, but my wife's mother couldn't come over to help because of family matters. Lao Chen was angry, he couldn't figure out why his wife's mother refused to help when he had supported his wife's family for so many years, and now it was a critical momentIn fact, we can't blindly blame my wife's mother because of what happened to Lao Chen. In fact, we can think about it from another angle: my wife's mother is a person who is not in good health, and her physical condition does not allow her to come over to help, which is a very objective fact. As the mother of her wife, she must have wanted to be able to help, but her body wouldn't allow her to do so. So, what should we do in this situation?First of all, we need to stay calm and not act aggressively because of momentary anger.
Second, we can seek other help. For example, nannies can be hired to take care of mothers and newborns. Although this will increase some financial burden, it is very wise to choose for the safety and health of life. Finally, we can also seek help from other family members. For example, you can ask Lao Chen's parents to come over to help, or other relatives and friends. This not only shares the burden of caregiving, but also strengthens the relationship between families. In short, in the face of sudden difficulties, we should not make drastic decisions because of momentary anger, but calmly analyze and find solutions. More importantly, in the family, maintain good communication and understanding. Only in this way can our lives be better and happier. When my mother-in-law became a "white-eyed wolf", the conflict between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was commonplace in the indissoluble family relationship between me and her, but as a son-in-law, I was unexpectedly involved in this unsatisfactory conflict. My mother-in-law's reproach to me made me feel aggrieved and I couldn't let go. I was deeply puzzled by her accusation that I was not taking care of my son as she expected, but that I was spending my heart and soul to help my daughter's family.
My mother-in-law's cold words hit me mercilessly like a block of ice, and I even began to question why she was so indifferent to her daughter, who was about to have a child, and had no maternal love at all. Such a mother-in-law makes me feel like I have a white-eyed wolf. After my sister passed away, I became the breadwinner of the family, taking care of the family's affairs, and my wife started to cook less than 20 days after giving birth. However, there was one thing that completely made me die for my mother-in-law: the treatment during the confinement period. This made me decide to cut ties with her. Time flies, and we gradually stop mentioning this unpleasant past, and slowly forget that she is my biological mother. However, there is one thing that I will never forget, that is, when my business was at its best, my brother-in-law borrowed 200,000 yuan from me, saying that he wanted to buy a house in the county, but he failed to return it as agreed. Later, I was short of money due to a failed business, and even household expenses became a problem. The family's conflict seems to be a dispute over money, but behind it lies a deeper problem. I played an important role in this family, but I was not able to get the respect and understanding I deserved. My mother-in-law's indissoluble bond made me feel distressed, and my heart was full of grievances and questions.
This family conflict also made me think more deeply about family affection, responsibility, and respect. Family conflicts are often intricate, and in the face of these, we might as well try to look at them from the perspective of empathy. Perhaps, communication and understanding can be an effective way to resolve conflicts. Rather than deepening the conflict, it is better to take the initiative to seek compromises and solutions. For me, this family conflict has also made me cherish the communication and understanding between family members even more, and respect and love are very important in the family. "Bumps in the road of feelings, I chose tenacity" Once, I asked my wife to ask my brother-in-law when the money would be repaid. At first, my brother-in-law said that we didn't ask him for money at that time, and he thought that we were not in a hurry to use the money, so he used the money somewhere else. I urged him to scrape together the money as soon as possible, as I urgently needed it to support my business. However, my mother-in-law blamed me for urging her son to repay the money, which was quite dissatisfied, she said: "It's only 200,000 yuan, as for collecting debts every day?"I have the final say on this money, and I won't give it to you. "Later, my brother-in-law returned 100,000 yuan to me, but the remaining 100,000 yuan was refused to be returned because of my mother-in-law's interference.
My brother-in-law was narrow-minded and unwilling to pay back, and with the support of his mother, my 100,000 yuan was in vain. At that time, I was in a difficult situation, but I was tricked by their mother and son like this, which made my heart feel cold. Later, business in the market was sluggish and we had to withdraw from the market. Later, I lost money in my business, but then I made some money back. In general, over the years, my life has been full of ups and downs, ups and downs, but fortunately, my relationship with my wife has always been very good, and I have never had any conflicts because of these things. In a flash, my son was kicked out of the house, and seeing him speak so resolutely, I didn't expect that he would want to return to my house to care for the elderly. However, my home is not a nursing home, let alone a shelter, and I firmly oppose this proposal. My wife and I also had some conflicts over this. I'm kind-hearted, but I'm not stupid, and I don't want to be tricked. I have made up my mind that no one can change my decision. Over the years, I have experienced many setbacks, and in the face of debt disputes between relatives and problems with my children, I have chosen to be resilient. I didn't let the odds take me down, and I didn't let the contradictions dilute my love of life.
I firmly believe that difficulties are not terrible, the key is how we face and deal with them. On the emotional road, I learned to be strong and not to be knocked down easily. Because, only in this way, can I maintain my inner peace, protect my precious emotional world, and let life continue to shine beautifully. Life's tribulations are unavoidable, but we can choose to face them with tenacity. Since we can't change others, we can only change our own mindset and the way we look at things. Tenacity is not a hard bone, but a flexible force, which allows us not to be crushed in the face of adversity, and makes us more mature and firm in our relationships. It is because of this tenacity that I have learned to understand love and responsibility more deeply, which makes my heart stronger and my feelings more indestructible. I believe that everyone has their own path to growth, and everyone will encounter ups and downs in life. Only by facing it with a tenacious attitude can we walk more firmly on the road of feelings, and can we better protect and cherish our emotional world. May we all choose tenacity on the road of emotion, so that our hearts will be more firm because of tenacity, and our lives will be better because of tenacity.