Children sacrifice the interests of their spouse and children in order to please their parents
What does foolishness mean? It means that children please their parents to the detriment of themselves, their spouses, and their children. Interestingly, the foolishness of children is often shown in a dramatic way: one parent takes so much from one child that he or she gets tired of it, and gives the other child an unlimited amount of things. Often it is the child who is deprived of something.
Interestingly, if the child is not awakened after awakening, the original balance will be disrupted. For example, they will be accused of unfilial piety by their parents and other siblings! In fact, foolishness and filial piety cannot be encouraged. It's really sad to see the foolishness of children!
Foolishness leads to cognitive deficit, both selfish and paranoid I'm just a fool, my mom keeps asking me, I have to listen to her, I have to follow her, I have to follow her, I have to follow her, I have to follow her, I have to follow her. I have to listen to her, I have to listen to her, I have to listen to her, I have to listen to her.
And this kind of foolishness. This is not always justified. This mother is very smart and knows which child to take care of. So, she kidnapped the child and treated him well. It turned out not that the child became stupid and naughty, but that he deceived his mother, who lost control of him, because she knew in her heart that it was futile and terrible to do. This kind of foolishness is even more difficult to evoke. This is because he has an interest to be gained, and this benefit must come at the expense of his freedom, which after all belongs to his own son, and also to the freedom of his wife's children!
An old lady said: My old man is foolish, all his life foolish to his mother and his sister, I don't care about my family, my son at all, I have served him all my life, he is not only your parents died, but also foolish his sisters, always our little family to take care of. My grandson is 12 years old and he doesn't care about his sisters and their children. He didn't listen either, saying that you insisted.
Everyone is an independent individual when they become adults, no one can owe their parents, they must do their part of filial piety, their suffering is not caused by you, only the ability to help them live their own small family, do not owe them debts but especially brothers and sisters, the responsibility should be shared according to the size of the ability, people are selfish, especially patriarchal families will not consider that you need money! If you need money, you can't give it, you can't lend it to others, you need to realize that reality is not the truth, of course.
Children who are independent of their parents and who are starting a new family need to be clear about this legal relationship. They need to support their parents, but they also need to support their families in raising their children. There are three perspectives on how to balance this relationship and parent-child norms, and there is no single norm. What are your thoughts on this topic?