01 The difficult road is the uphill road.
In fact, many times we complain that our lives are not good.
Because we often see that other people's lives are so exciting, why do our own lives always go badly?
So a lot of times, when we see what others want to use, we feel very unbalanced inside.
For example, if we have to take an exam, we will work hard to prepare.
When we can find ourselves staying up late to review and waking up early every day, but we are not happy.
Those who have nothing to do every day can enjoy all kinds of happy things and can do a lot of things that they have to do.
So at this time we will feel extremely unbalanced in our hearts.
Others don't have to work hard to be happy, so why do you have to work so hard to get what you want?
It doesn't have to be this way, because everyone's ambitions are different, so the degree of effort we try will be different.
You will find that our days are difficult, but this difficult time is indeed an uphill period in my life. If we find that our days suddenly become easy, or when we have nothing to do and no time to spend every day. So it's time for us to think about ourselves, are we overindulging ourselves?
02Growth needs to be tempered.
In fact, anyone's growth needs a process, and it is difficult for us to grow without going through some difficult days.
We all know that everyone's life is not easy.
If we have been living a comfortable life and have never experienced hardships and obstacles, then when we really have to face these difficulties, we really have no choice.
But once we have been through a lot, we are able to cope with this external environment and allow ourselves to be able to solve all kinds of problems.
In that process, we are indeed growing.
In fact, we will find that this is the case in our real life, and many beautiful things need to go through many difficulties.
Just like the rainbow we love, if we don't experience those dark moments or those stormy moments, then how can we see this gorgeous rainbow?
For example, if we don't put in the effort and just talk about it every day, then how can our success go to us?
There must be a clear plan to do anything, and after we have a plan, we must also start to implement it, not to fantasize about how to do it every day, but to actually do it.
For example, if we want to have a good body, then we need to exercise every day.
In fact, everything needs our efforts, it is not that we sit there and do nothing, everything will come to us.
03Don't take advantage of it.
In real life, we meet a lot of such people who always like to take advantage of others.
For example, when we go grocery shopping, we will feel very happy if we give someone a few dollars less.
But we should also think about the other way around, are we honest?
Now that we have got what we want, we have to give others what they want, and we can't always try to take advantage of others.
Or in our daily life, we will meet some honest people, they are very sincere, we ask them for help, and we will help.
So many times we always think that they are easy to bully, and we always think about our own interests when doing things.
We never think about what we want to do for each other, we always want to take advantage of each other and get benefits from each other.
In fact, in addition to our friends, there are also our parents, and we are like this a lot of times, always like to deprive our parents of something.
04Don't be others.
We will find that many times, we will force others to do things that we don't actually have to do.
A lot of times if we force someone else to do something, we won't get a good result.
Before asking someone to do something, we must think about whether we should ask them to do it in a commanding tone or discuss it with them.
As we find, a lot of times, if we force someone to do something, they will be disgusted.
But when we explain the reasons and communicate in a better tone, we will find that they will actually be happy to communicate with us.
For example, we have some partners in our daily lives, and they always want the other person to do something for us.
For example, you have to reply to a message in seconds, or you have to say something to yourself. We will always ask each other, and like others, we will think that other people's partners are better, so we always force our partners to learn from others.
But the other person also has some special advantages, so why should we force everyone to be the same?
And we should also empathize, if the other party forces us to become another person, will we be willing?