The heirloom left to me by my mother will never go out of style
Mother is the greatest mentor of our life, she taught us the principles of being human beings, being strict with ourselves, being lenient with others, and allowing us to establish correct values from an early age. She led by example, and when she was 90 years old, she also specially warned me that "you must first learn to be a person to do anything, and you must first be yourself", which had a great impact on me and made me more firm in my beliefs on the road of life. It's been four years since my mother died, and every time I think of her, I sigh at how short and precious life is. I often reminisce and summarize the treasures she left me, mainly in two aspects.
First, on the issue of educating children, we should not blindly shift the responsibility to external factors, but should start from self-reflection, analyze the root cause of the problem, and find a way to solve the problem. In this way, we can really help children grow up and help them establish a correct outlook on life and values. Just like when I was a kid I always made mistakes, and my mom would not only reprimand me, but sometimes she would do it. But as I grew up, I began to learn about the way my mom was behaving, and she was just trying her own way to protect me and let me know my mistakes. At the same time, she also taught me to learn to reflect on myself instead of always looking for other people's problems. This kind of education not only taught me how to self-reflect, but also made me understand what responsibility is and what responsibility is. Sometimes, the problem is not with one person, as long as someone is willing to take the initiative to take responsibility, the original problem will be solved. That's the importance of self-reflection.
Second, on the issue of safeguarding dignity, we must have our own principles and bottom line, and we must not be easily discouraged. Just like our family is a foreigner in the local area, there are only two surnames in the village, and our family's surnames are not common in the local area. My dad was an honest and timid man who was often bullied by others. In order to maintain my father's dignity, my mother would often go to others to theorize. Although this is not the best solution, at least let my dad know that his dignity is protected. When I grew up, I asked my mother why this was, and she told me that the dignity of every child is given by the parents, and if the parents live decently, the children will naturally have dignity. Parents are role models for their children, and their words and deeds will affect their children's growth. And when the child grows up, the dignity of the parents needs to be maintained by the child. Children are not wrong, but the key is to deal with conflicts between adults, and we must know how to make concessions and share benefits, otherwise the road will become narrower and narrower. Only when the conflict between adults is resolved, can children truly live a happy and happy life.
On my mother's 91st birthday, I picked up a ** that made me very angry, and I was in a very bad mood, probably out of a hurry to refute the other party, I spoke in a very blunt tone, and my mother hit me a few times with chopsticks, which gave me a deep inspiration. She told me that no matter who we meet, we should maintain a friendly attitude, not respond to others' mistakes with impatience, especially in the face of difficulties and challenges, we should face them with a peaceful mind and solve problems. Everything in the world is changing, we can't use the same thinking to understand the changing world, we have to constantly adjust our behavior and attitude according to the changes in the environment, in order to maintain a foothold in this complex and changeable world.
I know that I have been able to achieve something over the years thanks to my mother's teachings. Although she is illiterate, I think she understands culture better than many cultured people, and her kindness and simplicity are what I admire the most. She taught me to respect others, care about others, and be kind to others, so that I can earn the respect and trust of others. She taught me that no matter what happens, I must stick to my own principles and bottom line, not to be swayed by other people's mistakes, and not to give up my conscience because of interests. Although my mother was not very well educated, she had a very high level of thinking, and she used her actions to show me how to be a person, how to do things, and how to be a valuable person. Without my mother's vision and my father's courage, it would have been difficult for my sisters to get out of the mountains, out of the barren living environment, and realize their ideals and values.
I am grateful to my mother, and I wish her happiness and happiness in the distant kingdom of heaven. I am sure that she will be able to feel our thoughts and blessings for her, and her love and teachings will always be remembered in my heart.