On the road of parenting, a deeply rooted truth is that "there is no more doting, and there are few rules". Good family rules play a decisive role in the cultivation of children's character, it is a passport for children to walk in the world, and can guide them to the right track and success.
The potential harm of unruly families is far greater than material poverty. As pointed out in "Positive Discipline", "for children, love without rules is like sugar coating wrapped in arsenic", and parents' unconditional indulgence and neglect of rules are actually planting a ** bomb that may detonate at any time on the child's life path.
Real-life cases vividly confirm this. Take the example of a 7-year-old boy in Yiwu who caused an elevator to stop due to a lack of public behavior norms, which is precisely because the child failed to establish clear behavioral boundaries from an early age, resulting in ignorance and fearlessness and causing tragedy. The rules seem to be restrictive, but in fact, they set out a safe area for children, so that they know how to distinguish between right and wrong, and stay away from danger.
Yu Minhong, a famous educator, once shared the story of how he educated his son by establishing rules. In the face of his son's random throwing of confetti, he did not compromise, but made the child realize his mistake and correct it through reasonable punishment. This example reminds us that when setting rules for children, we must take into account the severity and reasonableness, and establish a sense of rules from an early age, so as to avoid children falling behind in life due to unreasonable things in the future.
As the old saying goes: "The country has its own laws, and the family has its own rules." "Strict rules in family education are the foundation for a good family culture and the development of outstanding offspring. Professor Li Meijin emphasized that it is necessary to give kindness before the age of three, and between the ages of three and six, it is necessary to establish authority, that is, to establish rules. Parental love should include a moderate amount of restraint, so that the children raised will be able to follow the rules, distinguish between right and wrong, and thus embark on the right path and achieve a career.
On the other hand, if parents are reluctant to educate their children, society will educate them in a more brutal way. The "broken window effect" in psychology warns us that if we do not correct our children's first mistakes, they can lead to more problems. Allowing children to indulge in small vices may lead to serious problems over time, causing them to deviate from the right path in the process of growing up, and even become the creator of social problems.
Regrettable examples such as Kwok's Wensi warn us that over-spoiling and disregard for rules can lead to extreme and perverse behaviors that can lead to a child's sliding into the abyss. Guo Wensi's transformation from a student at a prestigious school to a prisoner and then to the execution reflects the serious consequences of the long-term lack and lag effect of family education. Therefore, education is not only about imparting knowledge and skills, but also about shaping the right values and morals, so that children can learn to respect others, follow the rules, and grow up to be useful to society.
Family rules play a crucial role in a child's development. Parents should adhere to the principles and formulate and implement house rules in a timely and reasonable manner to ensure that children can develop good character and habits in a healthy and orderly environment, and lay a solid foundation for their future.