A person who does not know how to say "no" is destined to endure the hardships of life.
They hesitate in the face of the rude requests of others;
They are overwhelmed by challenges that are beyond their capabilities;
They remain indecisive in the face of difficult decisions.
Such people often live a very miserable life.
As they get older, many people often find it difficult to firmly reject others for fear of tarnishing their image.
This kind of behavior actually planted the seeds of misfortune for himself.
As people enter old age, if they cannot learn to refuse the three unreasonable demands of their loved ones, then they may suffer in their later years.
Refusal to give all property to one child.
In real life, some elderly people tend to leave all their inheritance to their sons and ignore the needs of their daughters.
However, the consequences of eccentric behavior are often tragic.
Sons often don't cherish their possessions because they come too easily.
When parents need care, he may ignore them.
On the other hand, daughters may resentful of their parents because they do not get their fair share, and they are equally reluctant to help.
Therefore, this way of dealing with property is extremely unwise.
I once saw a story on the Internet about an old man who gave his entire million-dollar fortune to his son.
As a result, the son is accustomed to being arrogant and rude, thinking that he is very great, and this is only because of the subsidy of his parents.
In the end, the son made a big mistake due to his overconfidence, which his parents regretted.
Is this a terrible result?
Can they still count on their sons when the elderly need care?
Therefore, the elderly should not give all their property to their sons on the spur of the moment, so as not to lead to family conflicts.
In addition, over-spoiling children are often unable to support their parents in their retirement and careers.
In the end, it is the old man himself who suffers.
Refuse to pay for excessive material demands.
Life is like drinking water, and you know your own warmth and coldness.
Some people have empty pockets, but they still want to compare themselves with others and pursue material comforts.
When they don't have enough money, they borrow money from relatives.
Older people should learn to refuse the unreasonable demands of their loved ones and not pay for their luxury.
Remember, we can save the needy, but we can't save the poor.
This sentence, the wisdom of the ancients, has never deceived us.
I once saw a post about a female netizen's relatives who kept borrowing money from her, but always made excuses not to pay it back.
However, on social **, he posted his high-consumption life.
In fact, these people just want to take advantage and enjoy life, and they don't want to pay back at all.
In the face of such relatives, we should resolutely reject their unreasonable demands.
Don't feel embarrassed.
They can all be cheeky to borrow money from you, what else are you embarrassed to refuse?
If they don't want to associate with you because of that, so what's the matter?
True family affection is not based on material support.
In the complex picture of life, not all relatives can warm your heart like the warm sun of spring.
I have witnessed a profound picture: when they are in trouble, they want you to live well; But yet worry that your accomplishments surpass them.
This state of mind, as a wise man said, portrays the inner world of some relatives.
As we grow older, we should not allow ourselves to become weak and let the gossip of our relatives dictate our lives.
Too much intervention can often lead to chaos and disharmony within the family.
I myself am a staunch opponent of such interference. I will not budge to those relatives who try to disrupt my housekeeping and make random ideas.
I have witnessed tragedies happen. Some people believe in the "high opinions" of their relatives, but in the end, the family situation is getting worse: the children's studies, the emotional rift between the husband and wife expands, and it brings only endless troubles.
As we get older, we should learn to keep an appropriate distance from our relatives.
We can get along with those who are of good character, but it is best to reduce contact with those who are misbehaving, broken-mouthed, and have evil intentions.
Such an approach will only bring us good, but nothing harmful.