The woman felt sad when she went back to her parents' house for the New Year, her mother criticized her for being ignorant, and her sister-in-law was also angry
Go home for the New Year with reluctance.
For many years, women in Shandong did not return to their parents' homes for the Spring Festival. During this time, especially married women, their hearts are like arrows. With such a mood and deep nostalgia, she took her children from her hometown in Anhui and began her journey back home. When she returned to her parents' house, she thought it should be a happy and happy day for the family. However, soon after, the sister-in-law's dissatisfaction and her mother's persuasion broke her heart. Isn't she too naïve? Why can't she live with her mother all the time?
It is very difficult for a married girl to return to her own home.
At first, I thought it was a pleasure to go back to my parents' house, but I ended up with accusations that my siblings and mother couldn't bear. I thought that a married woman would come to her own home"Be a guest", not suitable for long-term residence, the mother had to say:"Tell her not to come back, she must come back, I can't help it! This is the only time, and there will never be such a chance again! The woman was angry and saddened and questioned her decision to return to her parents' home. She was expecting to spend the New Year at her mother's house, but now she was shattered by reality.
Conflicting family values.
Ideas and traditions have a great influence on every family. Mothers feel that they have to rely on their children and daughters-in-law after marriage, while children who want to be fathers cannot be understood. These ideological contradictions made her return to her parents encounter huge obstacles. This divide is also largely reflected in the debate on social media. Some are in favor of the girl's approach, thinking that getting married does not necessarily mean that you can't go home for the New Year, while others are in favor of the view of the concubines, thinking that girls who have been married should pay more attention to their husbands and run less home. Due to differences in social environment and family thinking, people have different views on this issue.
Strong ties and family values.
She was saddened to learn of the difficult situation of returning home, as she thought she could get to know and love each other as a family member, but she didn't expect to become"Laughing stock"。She has a kind of doubt about her worth, thinking that returning to her parents' house is to eat and drink for nothing, and there is no place for herself. The attention of parents seems to be on the eldest brother's family, and he is just a disliked relative. When she returned home and was treated like this, she felt so pitiful, so pitiful. Angry, she decided to run away from home and decided not to go home for the Chinese New Year.
Cut off the thoughts of your family.
What happened to this woman has aroused heated discussions among many people, and people can't help but think: Is it okay for a married woman to go home for the New Year? Don't generalize, every household has its own values and customs. For her, this love and longing, although real, must also know how to let go, and not be shaken by the opinions of her family and the outside world. Although going home for the New Year has the warmth and happiness of home, it is not as meaningful as going home for the New Year. In any case, we need to conduct in-depth communication and communication on the relationship and value of the family, so as to seek a balanced and coordinated approach.
Conclusion and reflection.
Returning home for the holidays is the biggest wish of many women, however, the reality is often far from the ideal, because of the conflict of ideas and the entanglement of traditional concepts, so that they cannot find their own home at home. After suffering, she had no choice but to give up. As for the family, perhaps we should rethink and redefine the concept of "home" so that every family member is equally cared for and respected. Coming home for the Spring Festival is just a microcosm of the importance and fragility of the connections and values between family members. Only equality and respect for each other can turn home into a warm and harmonious haven where everyone can find their place.