About love, Marie Curie once said this:
It would be disappointing if one basing all one's interest in life on the stormy impulses of love.This quote tells usLove is an irrational emotion, and if a person regards love as the whole meaning of his life, he will not be able to be happy in the journey of life. Love is wonderful, people who are deeply in love are easily influenced by love, their minds will miss their lovers all the time, and they will become sensitive for love, they will worry that a small move of their own will make their lovers have a bad impression of themselves, and then hate themselves.
Although this kind of uneasiness is one of the manifestations of love, it is not a positive emotion, it can make people become restless, restless, and uncertain, unable to focus on their current life.
This kind of irrational emotion, not only does not help the benign development of love, but also may make you depressed.
People who know how to look at love with reason, most of them will understand a truth, love and family, friendship, is just a basic emotion inherent in human beings, only to be able to treat love hospitable, in order to make their own life.
Love requires ability, and people who are good at managing love will not regard love as the whole of life.
Human maturity is divided into two kinds, one is age maturity, the other is psychological maturity, the so-called "maturity", that is, in the face of emotions, there should be a rational thinking, which is also the reason why many people have a mature age, but they may not be really mature.
When people are young, they are always easy to take love very seriously, and even regard love as the whole of their life, and they are even willing to give everything for it in order to gain the favor and heart of their lovers.
It is not until this sincere love is hindered by disappointment or predicament, and it fails, that he begins to reflect on his attitude towards love, and when he has the immunity to love, he will let go of the proportion of love in his life, so that he can face love with a mature attitude.
To manage love, you need a mature heart, only by appropriately despising the proportion of love, can you make yourself face up to love, treat love with a rational attitude, and get happiness in love.
Managing love also requires ability, which includes both an inner sense of responsibility and an external ability to make money.
Sukhomlinsky, in his book "Thoughts on Love", once said something like this:
Love, this is responsibility, first of all, responsibility, then happiness.This quote tells usBeing able to take on the responsibility of love is the first factor in managing love. But if you want to make a love relationship happy and long-lasting, it is not enough to have a sense of responsibility, but also to have the ability to make money.
Couples get along day and night, and what they need to face is a dull and trivial daily life, which requires material conditions to maintain the consumption of firewood, rice, oil and salt, and they have no ability to make money, nor can they support a beautiful love.
If you want to have the ability to maintain love, you can't take love too seriously, but you must have some dedication, and you can have a successful career in order to have a stable love.
In a love relationship, if you care too much about a person, you will miss each other all the time, and when the other party is not by your side, you will also call each other from time to time to ask about each other's situation.
This kind of behavior, although it is out of the heart of caring for a person, is easy to cause pressure on the other party, who feels that love has become a kind of bondage, so that he has no personal space.
Under the influence of this emotion, the person will fear love, reject love, and may even snub the lover and propose to the lover to break up, so that he can live freely.
In a love relationship, if the relationship between lovers wants to develop, it needs a certain space, and only by creating a comfortable and pleasant love atmosphere can the love relationship develop benignly and for a long time.
People who are good at managing love will not regard love as the whole of life, they will treat love rationally, so that the love relationship can have a comfortable environment to develop.
To manage love, you need a mature heart, and they will not suffer from gains and losses in a love relationship; To manage love, you need to have the ability to make money, and they can provide sufficient material security for their lovers; To manage love, you need to give each other enough personal space so that the other party can feel comfortable and comfortable in the love relationship.
Seeing love as the whole of life, this state is not only a torture for yourself, but also a constraint on lovers.
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