My nephew was admitted to a prestigious school, which is really good news! After receiving my cousin's invitation, I gladly went to their house to participate in this grand banquet.
When I arrived at my cousin's house, the banquet was being held in the banquet hall of the hotel. I saw that the hall was full of laughter and excitement. When my cousin Wang Xiaomei saw me coming, she came forward and said with a smile: "Brother, you are finally here!" You may be seated. ”
I saw my nephew, Li Lizheng, sitting on the guest of honor in the dress that marked his admission to a university. When he saw me, he hurriedly stood up and greeted: "Uncle, you have worked hard! ”
Congratulations on your admission to Peking University, let our whole family be proud of you! I laughed and high-fived my nephew, then sat down next to him, raised my glass aloft, and offered him a toast.
During the banquet, everyone raised their glasses frequently and warmly congratulated their nephews on their happy events. I also chatted with my relatives in a lively and cheerful atmosphere.
More than an hour later, the banquet also came to an end. The waiters began to clean up the leftovers, and everyone was ready to get up and say goodbye.
At this time, my mother-in-law, Jin Fenglian, who was sitting opposite me, said coldly: "The cost of this banquet should be shared according to the system, and everyone will share a part." It just so happens that there are not many people coming today, and 300 yuan per person is enough. ”
When I heard this, I felt a "chuckle" in my heart, and I couldn't believe my ears. System? I only brought 100 yuan in cash today!
Mom, don't make such jokes. The cost of today's banquet is borne by me and Xiaomei, and has nothing to do with anyone else. My cousin's husband, Li Zhenglin, was kind enough to dissuade her mother-in-law.
Are you kidding! The mother-in-law immediately brushed it off and looked serious, "It's all family members who are here today, why do you only want to pay?" It's not too much for everyone, right? ”
Seeing my mother-in-law's posture of insisting on me to pay the money, my heartbeat couldn't help but speed up a little:"Mother-in-law, I brought 100 yuan in cash today, and the rest are in the bank card, so I can't take out more cash. I came to congratulate my nephew this time, and I didn't expect to receive the request. Forget it, I'll treat you to the next meal, okay? "
What a line! "The mother-in-law immediately retorted angrily"You also ate today's meal, why don't you pay? Hurry up and take out 300 yuan, don't make everyone wait! "
I'm going to blow up, this old lady is too vexatious! I was invited to the banquet today, and I didn't ask to participate and agree to it. Why do you force me to pay?
Mother-in-law, I really didn't bring that much cash out at the time. Otherwise, I'll pay 100 yuan first, and I'll give you the remaining 200 next time, okay? "I still patiently discussed.
If you say no, you can't! "The mother-in-law not only objected, but her tone became tougher"Today's business is today, don't think about it! If you delay so much time, the waiter will have to charge! "
I'm going mad at this old lady. She is obviously making trouble unreasonably, but she has the posture that I owe her a favor, and she is willful. I couldn't help but raise my voice and said:"I only brought 100 yuan, and I really can't give 300!This is not my own banquet, so why should I just pay for it? "
Your relatives are also present, why don't you pay? "The mother-in-law did not show weakness, and her tone was even more aggressive.
I. "I was about to explain that my mother-in-law had already stood up and picked up my bag and was about to go to my purse.
Seeing this, I hurriedly stepped forward to grab the bag:"What do you do here? I said it's only 100 dollars in cash, you can't just rummage through my bag! "
Pack me less! Hurry up and get the money out! "The mother-in-law does not give up, and the two of you fight for me.
You two stop! "Wang Xiaomei, a cousin on the side, hurriedly spoke out to dissuade her"Mom, Sun Zhiqiang was indeed invited by us, you can't force him to pay! "
But the mother-in-law seemed to be fascinated and did not listen to the slightest advice, and saw that the dispute was about to turn into an open family dispute.
Just when my mother-in-law and I were fighting, a cry suddenly intervened between us, and I saw my cousin's daughter Sun Jing with tears in her eyes, and pear blossoms looked at the two of us with rain:
Grandma, uncle, don't you quarrel, okay? Shouldn't today be a happy day? ”
Only then did I realize that I had just lost my mind in the inexplicable dispute, and I was so angry with my mother-in-law that I almost turned the happy event into a quarrel scene where the family was ugly.
Looking at Sun Jing's sad expression, my heart immediately softened. The gaffe just now was really undeserved, I showed an apologetic expression to Sun Jing, and then turned to my mother-in-law and said seriously
Mother-in-law, I'm sorry, I lost my temper just now. You're right, I also had dinner today, and I should share a little of the cost, but I only have a limited amount of cash with me. Can I rush to pick up the money or pay you another day, okay? ”
The mother-in-law also seemed to realize the seriousness of the situation, and the resoluteness on her face slowly softened: "Well, for the sake of quietness, this matter will be revealed." There's something wrong with me, and I shouldn't have forced you in front of everyone. ”
No, you have your point. I do have to share some of the costs, it's just that I don't have enough money on hand for the time being. This time I made a mistake, so please forgive me. I continued to apologize in a low voice and expressed my willingness to pay.
In the end, under Sun Jing's guidance, the dispute between me and my mother-in-law came to an end temporarily. Although the family and friends who attended the banquet witnessed this unpleasant quarrel, fortunately it did not turn into a family feud that was difficult to resolve.
After the day ended, I sat alone at home, thinking about the lessons of this gaffe. I realized that my mother-in-law was not completely unreasonable, she just hoped that everyone who ate could share the cost, which was understandable. The way I approached the problem was too reckless, and it made things more and more stiff.
Thinking back to my mother-in-law's stubborn face, I couldn't help but feel a little distressed. This cousin, who I raised with my own hands, is now married and has a business, but my mother-in-law is without the company of her children. Her stubbornness may be a manifestation of loneliness.
This incident made me reflect that as elders, we should not always regard our juniors as children, but learn to change our mentality, respect and understand them like our peers, and resolve the generation gap, so that we can be respected and cared for by them.
In the past, I always treated my cousin as a little girl who needed care and attention. Now she has a family and has a life of her own. However, I still treat her with the mentality and attitude of an elder, which will inevitably cause obstacles. I need to learn to treat her as an equal, to give her room to live, and not to criticize and blame her like a child.
This quarrel is a reflection of the divide between our three generations. But this gap is not insurmountable, and the key is the need for more understanding and tolerance of each other. Young people have the lifestyle of young people, but they should also listen patiently to the ideas of the older generation; The older generation has the traditional ideas of the older generation, and they also need to work hard to adapt to the changes in society.
As the middle generation, I should play a more important role in communication, and I can't blindly stand on the side of the younger generation against the elders. Family harmony requires mutual concessions, and the steps of retreat should be the first among us. This is not only respect for the elders, but also tolerance for the younger generations.
It also reminded me that when facing our loved ones, we need to be broad-minded and tolerant of each other's faults. There will inevitably be friction between family members, but the important thing is to be timely.
It also reminded me that when facing our loved ones, we need to be broad-minded and tolerant of each other's faults. There will inevitably be friction between family members, and it is important to resolve them in a timely manner and not let them further evolve into estrangement. I can't turn against my mother-in-law because of her momentary rudeness, I need to learn to forgive.
When people reach their twilight years, they will always be a little stubborn and withdrawn. I have to put myself in my mother-in-law's shoes, and her strange thoughts may be due to the loneliness and fear in her heart. As a young person, I have a responsibility to understand and tolerate, not to be like the elderly.
The love is deep, and the responsibility is keen. I can't just say hurtful things out of a moment of anger that would make this family cold. A warm and harmonious home requires us to scoop up the cold water of the deep well with love and dispel all misunderstandings with laughter.
Looking at the silence with a smile on his face, a warm feeling rose in my heart. We, the old man, must pave the way for future generations. What they should have is a sky without haze, not strife among their elders.
The success of my nephew's college entrance examination also made me see the importance of family education. 's growth is inseparable from the careful care and cultivation of parents for many years. The cousin and his wife are in love with each other, and they have today's fruits. It also awakened me to reflect on my neglect of my family over the years.
When the dinner was over, my nephew came over to hug me and told me to take good care of my mother-in-law. I looked at his happy face, and a trace of love rose in my heart. Although the nephew is young, he has also learned to be considerate of his elders and care for others. This filial piety is worth learning from, and it also makes me more determined to rebuild a warm family.
Life is a long way to go, and I still need to grow. This incident, although somewhat embarrassing, made me realize that I was inadequate in my attitude and behavior. It was like a spring rain that moistened the parched earth inside me. I will take this lesson to heart and treat everyone around me with a more generous, inclusive and wise heart.