In many families, parental misfortune and frustration are often passed on to their children. Whether it's emotional discord or work difficulties, parents often impose their misery on their childrenMoral kidnappingThey let the children carry their own destiny in life. This phenomenon is very common, leaving children psychologically burdened with the pain that should normally belong to their parents. Parents often say something on their lips: "If it weren't for your ......."This kind of discourse is often present in the family, wantonly depriving children of the joy and carefree childhood they deserve.
However, girls who have listened to their mother's nagging about all the grievances and sacrifices since they were children, especially those who grew up in difficult situations, are often exposed to it. They are constantly indoctrinated by their mothers, teaching them to bear the difficulties of their mothers-in-law, the irresponsibility of their husbands and the bonds of their children. Some mothers even resort to PUA and threats to make their children feel selfless. Although the children persuaded their mothers to divorce and tried to solve the problems for them, they were often rejected by the mothers, which led to their own difficulties and misfortunes.
I used to try to understand my mom only to find myself stabbed all over the place, bleeding incessantly, and not healing. My mom was aggressive, controlling, often unreasonable, and most importantly, she didn't know how to reflect on herself. I dread going home the most because it meant endless nagging and accusations. Some mothers often teach their daughters to be obedient and sensible, and even hope that their daughters will find jobs near their homes in the future, tying their daughters to their side. They told their daughters to be hardworking, down-to-earth, and to marry a good family. But they seem to have a completely different attitude towards their son, willing to give wholeheartedly for their son, and even sacrifice their daughter for their son.
Such family injuries make many children feel guilty and have low self-esteem, and they have been taught to be people with low self-esteem and guilt. Obviously, those people are not good to them, but they have become people who seek the approval of others, and they have a feeling that they are not good enough. And by the time they realized all this, they had already spent most of their lives. It turns out that some people are called "white-eyed wolves" just because they woke up earlier than others, saw through their parents' "desire to control" early, and were born with a spirit of rebellion in their bones. They may be called "white-eyed wolves" by their parents because they awakened early and are unfilial sons in the eyes of others. And what parents want most is precisely their obedient children.
Recently, I have come to realize that everyone has their own life issues, whether it is parents or children. There are pains that are irreplaceable and must be experienced and endured by the individual. Everyone has their own cause and effect, and participating in other people's issues will only hinder the development of one's own life. Being mean and acerbic will only make you bad, not change others. We must not live for others, but for ourselves.
The suffering of parents is their own challenge, whether it is emotional discord or notlifePlight. Instead of bearing the pain of their parents, children should focus on their own growth and well-being. We should understand that the misfortune of our parents does not mean that we will suffer the same hardship. We should learn to think independently and choose our own path in life, and not let the influence of our parents constrain our future.
Different people face different dilemmas and challenges, and we can't confuse our lives with others. Everyone has their own destiny, and we have to fight for our own happiness. We can't be haunted by the shadow of our parents and have our own dreams and goals. Only in this way can we enjoy happiness and joy that truly belong to us.
Looking back on my own upbringing and the way my parents raised me, I deeply felt the impact that parents' pain will have on their children. I realized that parents should not shift the blame to their children when trying to solve their own problems. Because everyone has their own life issues, we can't be bogged down by other people's problems. We should learn to think for ourselves and choose our ownlifeway, not affected by the outside world.
When exposed to these hurts, we should learn to protect ourselves from letting the pain of others drag down our happiness. We need to understand our own value and abilities, and work hard for our own growth. We must learn to self-recognize and self-fulfillment, and not let others' doubts and accusations affect our self-confidence and progress.
In the end, I hope that everyone can find their own happiness and joy. Don't be bound by the suffering of others and have the courage to face your own challenges in life. Only firm in their ownBeliefsOnly by actively pursuing our dreams can we truly enjoy the beauty and happiness of life. Let's work together, live for ourselves, and fight for our own happiness!