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Everyone has suffering, but not everyone can solve it, and even fewer people can relieve it or use it.
Wang Xiaobo once said:
"Human suffering is essentially anger at one's own incompetence. ”
When a person enters the society and finds that no matter how hard he tries, he can only go around in circles in the end, still crawling at the bottom of the society, his heart must be tormented and painful.
So, when I was indignant or helpless, I chose to return to my hometown, gnaw at the old, decadent, and spend time, day after day, year after year.
However, the pressure of life, the confusion of life, the unsatisfying desires and extreme emotions all make you like ants on a hot pot, tormented, uneasy, anxious, and painful.
If a person can't solve the difficulties and pressures he is encountering at the moment, then if he changes his environment and wants to get away from the problem by escaping, the problem will only make it difficult for you, torture you, and consume you in another way.
Only by making yourself independent and strong will your pain disappear.
The nature of suffering
The reason why pain haunts a person is simply because the person is simply unable to solve the pain.
To put it bluntly, it is because you don't have the ability to solve the pain that you will be defeated by the pain again and again, and fall into the abyss of powerlessness and despair.
You have to understand that your own pain can only be solved by yourself.
If you always think about relying on others, relying on the abilities of others, and borrowing the light of others to solve problems for yourself and deal with pain for yourself, then you will only become more and more incompetent, and in the end you will only become more and more miserable.
You have to taste your pain and solve it with your own hands.
In fact, in the face of pain, we should not have the emotion of fear, nor should we be afraid to face it, because no matter how great the pain is, it is only imagined in our hearts.
As long as we dare to take the first step, have the courage to face it, and constantly take out the momentum of the strong to defeat.
Even if we are always in a state of losing the wind during the whole process, we can show our own confidence, show courage and move forward bravely.
In this way, as long as we can persevere, one day we will find that those things that once scared and painful us can now be brought up with a smile, or even laughed off.
Wu Zhihong said:"A person who has experienced suffering, and if you don't experience and feel it, the pain can't be resolved, and it's easy to fall into compulsive repetition, repeated injuries, and repeated pain. ”
As long as we can face the pain bravely, and even force ourselves to face it and overcome it, then the pain will have nowhere to hide.
It can also be said that when you are afraid of pain, it is when it is the strongest, and when you don't take it seriously, it is when the pain cannot be pretended.
In this way, this is also the positive meaning of suffering.
The meaning of suffering
There are two sides to everything, and suffering is no exception.
Negative pain will only consume a person's mood, destroy a person's fighting spirit, and eat a person away.
Positive suffering lies in the fact that one can find the power of awakening and the source of change from suffering.
It can also be said that when you are in pain, it is the best time for you to make changes.
Because pain is telling you in its way what are your shortcomings, it's time to make corrections, to make repairs.
When you are honest with your feelings and actively choose solutions to deal with the corresponding problems and stresses, you prove that you are reacting and coping.
At this time, we are naturally able to release all negative emotions purposefully and conditionally.
Finally, through painful reminders, painful provocations, and painful challenges, you can actively open the channels of your subconscious.
In this way, we can make room for flexibility, find the key, and find a way out.
Eventually, we will be able to use the reminders that pain brings us, the vigilance it brings us, and the energy it brings us.
Then, dissolve the pain and achieve life.
Freedom from suffering
In the process of liberating suffering, people are actually liberating themselves.
Liberation, it takes wisdom, it needs awakening.
Especially in a materialistic society, it is very difficult for a person to be free from suffering.
It's like a person needs to resist the outside world of flowers, and needs to restrain all kinds of desires, but a really smart person will not completely quit desire, because people can't be completely without desire.
A truly intelligent person, a truly wise person, must know how to maintain a harmonious and balanced relationship between his inner world and the external world.
So it's like Freud said:
"The root of a person's suffering lies in the disharmony between subjective desires and objective reality. ”
In the end, treat pain objectively, improve yourself subjectively, and bravely face the ups and downs and impermanence of life.
Then, live your true self, as well as live your strong self, be kind to yourself, and live the rest of your life well.