In my village, people have returned to their hometowns one after another in the past few days, but compared with the Chinese New Year a few years ago, it still seems much more deserted. And because the Spring Festival is coming, if you go back at this time, every household will have to prepare for the New Year, cleaning, wiping furniture, cleaning, etc., there is a busy scene everywhere.
And if you live in the countryside, you will find that in recent years, the phenomenon of "young grandmothers" in rural areas has become more prominent, especially at the end of the year. Many peasants are suffering, is this the case in your village?
Speaking of "young grandmother", everyone should be familiar with this, which refers to the ancient official eunuch and the rich and noble family servants to the master's daughter-in-law a kind of honorific title. At that time, the status of the young grandmother was not low, and there were several maids to serve them. The life of such a person is basically "to stretch out his hand for clothes and open his mouth for food".
But now there is no landlord old wealth, and there is no young grandmother. However, in the countryside, there is a phenomenon of "young grandmothers", and they almost gather at the end of the year.
The young grandmother here refers to the daughters-in-law of some families, who do not do housework after marrying, or go out to find some work. Some don't even bring their children, they just play with their mobile phones all day long, go shopping, and live a good life.
And every year on the eve of the Spring Festival, many young people who are away also come back, and they don't do any work for their parents, either play with their mobile phones all day long, or dress up beautifully and go out with friends. Is this phenomenon also happening in your village?
In fact, there are reasons for this situation, and I think there are mainly the following reasons.
The phenomenon of "young grandmothers" is not accidental. In many rural areas, the imbalance between men and women, the influence of traditional attitudes and the impact of modern lifestyles have made it difficult to marry a wife.
In such cases, many families even spend years of savings in order to get married, and some families even need to borrow. And even so, the current divorce rate in rural areas is relatively high, and many couples will divorce when they get married and have several children.
Therefore, once the son marries back to the daughter-in-law, the parents naturally hope that the daughter-in-law can live in the family for a long time and stably, so as to avoid the breakdown of the marriage due to family conflicts.
As a result, many families choose to meet the demands of their daughters-in-law as much as possible, and even take care of household chores in order to maintain family harmony and stability. They think that it doesn't matter if they are tired or tired, as long as their children live happily, they really pity the hearts of parents all over the world.
In the traditional society, the general daughter-in-law has to marry and teach her husband and children, and she has to be filial to her in-laws, and there is a lot of housework every day.
But now with the development of modern society, many people's concepts are also advancing with the times, so there have been some changes, some parents are more open-minded, no longer as traditional as in the past, give their daughters-in-law a lot of requirements, in daily life can help will try to help.
In the past, men were the main male and female protagonists, but now that men and women are equal, women can also go out to work to earn money and share the burden for the family. And there are many rural daughters-in-law who also work outside all year round, that is, they come back to live for a few days during the Chinese New Year.
It was already very hard, and some of them had been living in the city for a long time, and they were used to a more free and enjoyable lifestyle. When they return to the countryside, they may have difficulty adapting to rural life, or they may not be used to household chores, or some may not be able to do them at all.
Therefore, the in-laws will take care of the housework and not let them do it, which is also heartbreaking for the daughter-in-law, and I want to give the daughter-in-law a few days off, and the family will enjoy the Spring Festival happily. And the in-laws in the countryside have been doing farm work for a long time, and they are used to it and will not care about this.
However, I want to say that the phenomenon of young grandmothers is not a good phenomenon, and the phenomenon of "young grandmothers" is a serious problem facing rural areas at present. It not only places a heavy burden on farmers, but also detriments the growth and development of young people.
For parents, since their children have reached adulthood and started a family, they should realize that excessive spoiling and housework are not conducive to the growth and development of young people.
They should guide young people to establish the right values and lifestyles, encourage them to actively participate in household chores and community activities, and develop the ability and sense of responsibility to live independently.
At the same time, young people themselves should be aware of their responsibilities and obligations, take the initiative to take on family responsibilities, and actively change their lifestyles. Especially when you are away all the year round, you finally get home, and you have to do more work for your family, what do you say? Is there such a phenomenon in your village?