Marriage should be a pure realm where two hearts meet, and no magazines should be allowed in it. However, some people think that they have deep emotions and mistakenly think that the unfinished feelings for the past are a manifestation of loyalty, even if there is a new partner in life, they still can't let go of the concern for the old love, claiming that the feelings of the past cannot be parted.
This mindset often leads to a lot of twists and turns in everyday life. If the current partner is unable to accept this insistence, family conflicts will inevitably follow; If the partner is indifferent to this, then the so-called new love may be nothing more than a farce.
Not long ago, a woman from Hebei shared her painful experience. She has been married to her husband for more than a year and has a son, but she still finds that he still prefers clothes given by his ex-girlfriend.
Her heart was full of pain, and she reflected on whether it was because she didn't care enough that her husband was so attached to the gifts of the past. So she bought her husband new clothes, but he didn't care about them and still loved the clothes given by his ex-girlfriend and parents.
Seeing that her husband was wearing his ex-girlfriend's sweater for many days and refused to change it, she decided not to buy him any new clothes, but her husband did not react to this and did not even give a basic explanation.
She knew about her husband and ex-girlfriend's past, they were college sweethearts, and the reason for the breakup was unknown, after which she entered married life with her husband. It is common for men and women to exchange gifts, and she tries to understand her ex-girlfriend's thoughts, and when she learns that her ex-girlfriend has long since abandoned the past gifts and her husband still treasures them, the ex-girlfriend tells her: "You know he is a nostalgic person, since he likes it, let him keep it." ”
She saw that her ex-girlfriend was still defending him, and she had mixed feelings in her heart. How can their former love be convincing if it is so easily abandoned? If you really don't have feelings, why do you have to defend each other like this?
When she asked her husband to throw away the clothes, he went into a rage, accusing her of being unkind and insisting that she could not erase the memory of her ex-girlfriend.
Not only did he show confidence and persistence in this matter, but he even openly stated that he could not forget his ex-girlfriend and would always cherish it in his heart.
She felt disheartened, thinking that marriage would change him, but she didn't expect that she would eventually become a shadow, hovering between right and wrong.
Despite this, she has made a choice, the child has been born, and marrying him is her own decision, she has to bear all the grievances silently, hoping that time can be ** all.
She shared her story online, and netizens had mixed opinions about it. Some people find it harmless to keep old clothes and save money; Some suggested that she secretly throw away the clothes while her husband was not at home, but she did not dare to act alone lest she attract family criticism.
Through her description, we can feel her bitterness and struggle in this relationship; I don't know what makes her willing to endure such grievances for a long time.
This also reveals the fact that she entered this family, perhaps with a simple expectation, even if her past love for him was cherished, she still chose to move forward with him.
I thought I was ushering in the beginning of a happy marriage, but who knew that it had become the beginning of the ordeal. The husband only has old love in his heart, and he regards her as more important than himself, this naked confession inevitably makes people question, in his mind, what position does she occupy? And her difficult days may have just begun.
What do you think about this?