Shakespeare said something about marriage:
"An unsatisfactory marriage, a lifetime of chickens and geese, and no peace. ”
I deeply believe that why in some marriages, the husband and wife have supported each other for decades but can't live in the end, most of them are because there are too many grievances accumulated between the two people. Two people living under the same roof, unhappy all day long, will indeed make you feel upset.
I sometimes think about a question:What does marriage really mean to a woman?
As I read in a book called "A Daughter's Choice":
"Yes, you are a woman, you are a woman, you will inevitably get married, it seems to be a woman's duty to be busy with housework when you get married, and it is inevitable to have children after marriage, and after giving birth to children, nature will make you put most of your energy on children, so women are naturally vulnerable because of marriage and childbirth, and men can take advantage of this as a matter of course. ”
This sentence is quite apt, and I dare say that there are still many women in today's marriages. Many women around me are like this, it is difficult for them to have themselves after marriage, and everything they do is for their husbands and children. I talked to them, why do they give so much? They say it's because of love, because they love so much, they always can't control their giving. Even if you don't think about your husband, you have to think about your children.
Women are always too easy to be manipulated by their children, and their hearts are too soft, so they have to lose themselves, and even, for an unhappy marriage, they have lost their lives.
But have you ever wondered: Wouldn't it be sad if you lived like this all your life?
Have you ever thought that if you want to jump out, maybe you will be free?
Maybe in the eyes of others, there is really no need to divorce when you are old, but why go to the grave with someone who doesn't get along? Is it necessary? Rather than this, it is better to separate decently and let each other live. Don't make do with it, the rest of your life is not long, or make yourself happier.
I especially like a quote from the book "A Daughter's Choice":At least they don't have to die by each other's side and continue to go in the opposite direction in the lie of a happy marriage.
I saw a hot search on Weibo: 70-year-old grandma is divorced.
A netizen posted a ** of his 70-year-old grandmother holding a divorce certificate, with the text: I divorced my 70-year-old grandmother today, she was very happy, and quickly gave this *** to all her relatives. As long as you have the courage, it's never too late.
As for why you are still divorced at such an old age?
Netizens said that her husband had cheated, but the details were not mentioned, presumably because of this relationship, the marriage of the old couple has long been divorced, and it is more likely that the two have already become enemies. lives under the same roof with an enemy all day long, and two people quarrel all day long, it is better to really divorce the marriage.
Why bother, who doesn't want to live happily in their old age, who thinks that they have already enjoyed their old age, and the result is still the same sad as when they were young. Not necessarily. In the past, maybe because the child was still very young, I didn't divorce considering the child and all kinds of factors, but after enduring so many years, I still couldn't live well, so I quickly divorced the marriage and let myself and the other party have a way out.
It's really not too late to divorce at the age of 70.
Daring to divorce at the age of 70 shows that the elderly have realized the importance of "loving themselves", which is a gratifying thing. People really can't have internal friction, obviously not well, but they still have to be together, what's the point? Divorced can make your life a little easier.
In fact, really, the rest of your life is not long, and you must live for yourself once.
It's already this age, and we should have a clear understanding of divorce:
Divorce is nothing but the dissolution of the marital relationship, from the marital relationship of two people to the state of life of one person. I used to live with you, but now we are separated, and there is no so-called contractual relationship of love. Regardless of whether we are married or not, we all have to be strong and live well. It's good to live your own life and be responsible for yourself and your children.
Divorce is a new lease of life for men and women who are indulging in unhappy marriages, and only by staying away from bad marital relationships can they have a better chance of finding their true selves. Look at the word "divorce" squarely, not rejecting or prejudicing.
I saw some netizens commenting on this 70-year-old divorced grandmother: Hehe, daring to divorce is a thing to be proud of, what is there to show off. The old couple has lived a lifetime, and now they are divorced, which is too much of a failure.
All I can say is that he still lives in his own traditional beliefs.
In the past, women in traditional society had no way to divorce, and they had to endure in unhappy marriages; But now it's different, it's a new society, and after the divorce, she can still live well, her children have grown up**, and now she is of course the most qualified to live her own life. Why work as a nanny in an unhappy marriage? Why can't you make your life happier?
There is not much time left for the rest of your life, is it wrong to live for yourself?
I want to write this article to tell some elderly people who are still enduring unhappy marriages:Don't be afraid, if you really feel unhappy, you will divorce the marriage, you have to live for yourself for once. It's been delayed for so many years, so why keep delaying yourself.
If you can't go on, there's really no need to continue to live again, no matter how old you are, it's not too late to divorce.
What does marriage really mean to a woman?
Look at your marriage, ask yourself if it's worth it, ask yourself if you want to continue to endure it, ask yourself if you can let go completely, if you can, you can return your free body, and love yourself for the rest of your life.
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