At the age of 29, Ye Haiyang, a billionaire woman, made a bold decision to "buy sperm and give birth to a girl".
To this end, she made a lot of preparations in advance, inquired about relevant information, and the detailed process of "buying sperm to give birth to a girl".
Finally, in 2017, she was ready for anything.
Take a plane to the United States, spend 500,000 to buy sperm, and complete ** surgery.
After becoming pregnant in October, she gave birth to a "mixed-race baby from 5 countries", and Ye Haiyang loved this daughter very much.
It can be said that "holding it in your hand is afraid of falling, and holding it in your mouth is afraid of melting", and she can't dedicate all the good things in the world to her.
But the baby's cuteness did not conquer netizens, but made Ye Haiyang the target of public criticism.
In the eyes of some netizens, not getting married and spending money to "buy sperm and daughters" is contrary to the guidelines and is despised.
In the face of **, Ye Haiyang has never liked to argue, only takes his daughter with him, and lives his small life in peace.
What kind of experience did Ye Haiyang have, and why did he choose such an alternative way to give birth to a baby?
In this process, what kind of predicament did Ye Haiyang experience?
Today, let's talk about Ye Haiyang and her story of "5 countries mixed-race baby".
Ye Haiyang in his childhood was not a person who kept to himself.
She was born in Changchun, Jilin Province in 1988, her parents are factory workers, and her income is not high, but it is more than enough to support Ye Haiyang.
Ye Haiyang has always been the image of a "tomboy" since he was sensible.
He has a fresh short hair and a big personality.
He likes to play basketball, climb mountains, speak straightforwardly, and is a very assertive person.
Ye Haiyang's parents are very traditional, they suffered the loss of no education, and they can only work in the factory for a lifetime.
They didn't want their daughter to follow their own old path, so they taught Ye Haiyang from an early age that she must study hard and change her fate with knowledge.
Ye Haiyang listened to this.
Therefore, since elementary school, Ye Haiyang has worked very hard.
Successfully admitted to the university and graduated with honors.
After graduation, his parents hoped that Ye Haiyang would continue to study in graduate school, but this time, Ye Haiyang did not listen to their advice.
Ye Haiyang, who yearns for freedom and dares to fight, does not want to waste all his youth on studying.
After graduation, I found a good job, got married, had children, and lived a step-by-step life.
This is not the life she wants, she wants to go out and fight for a glorious future with her own hands.
For this dream, Ye Haiyang set off.
She was highly regarded by her parents and came to Beijing alone to develop, starting from a low-level salesman.
Like most of the "North Drifters", Ye Haiyang has no connections, and the two have no relationship, and the life he started was very difficult.
She lives in a dark and damp basement, commuting to and from work and crowding the subway, leaving early and returning late every day, just to make more money at the end of the month.
Soon, Ye Haiyang saved the first pot of money, and she was unwilling to be mediocre, so she resolutely chose to resign and go to the sea to start a business.
Although she is a "tomboy" and has never put on makeup, it does not prevent her from devoting herself to the cosmetics industry.
With the contacts and knowledge accumulated when he was a salesman, Ye Haiyang's career was soon on the right track.
After a few years of operation, she saved tens of millions of net worth, bought a big house in Beijing, and lived the luxurious life she dreamed of.
has a successful career, in the concept of Ye Haiyang's parents, the next step is to get married, have children, and form their own family.
As a result, his parents began to frequently urge Ye Haiyang to marry.
As soon as she brought a boy home, her parents discussed whether she would be a future son-in-law.
In this regard, Ye Haiyang felt angry and funny.
She has a big personality and likes to make friends very much.
Most of these boys are business partners or good buddies, and Ye Haiyang has no special thoughts about them.
Therefore, no matter how his parents urged, Ye Haiyang just didn't move.
As time went by, most of Ye Haiyang's friends around him got married, and when they usually gathered, there were fewer and fewer people who could call out.
Either they are working hard to save money for milk powder for their children, or they are at home with their children and have no time to come out to parties.
There is only Ye Haiyang alone, and the whole family is not hungry when he eats alone.
When he returned home and looked at the big empty house, Ye Haiyang knew for the first time what it was like to be lonely.
It's okay now, but when I'm old and don't even have a child by my side, that kind of despair makes people shudder to think about it.
But with his own character, it is impossible to get married casually, but if he doesn't get married, where will he have children?
Ye Haiyang fell into a deep confusion.
At a later meeting, Ye Haiyang's friend heard about her distress and offered her advice.
"Why don't you go abroad to borrow sperm to have children? ”
"What is that? ”
This is a completely unfamiliar field for Ye Haiyang, so she began to consult a lot of information on the Internet.
borrowing sperm to have children", in the past two years, it has become more and more popular abroad, and many women are unwilling to get married and want to have a child.
It's as simple as picking your favorite sperm from the sperm bank, then fertilizing it and giving birth to offspring without getting married.
"Isn't that exactly what you want? ”
After understanding, Ye Haiyang became very interested in "borrowing sperm to have children", and she told her parents about her plan.
At first the parents were not supportive, they were very traditional people.
borrowing sperm to give birth to children", in their opinion, is completely rebellious.
Ye Haiyang's personality is completely opposite to that of her parents, and many of her behaviors can be called "deviant".
"Borrowing sperm to have children" seems outrageous, but it will not cause her a psychological burden.
In order to implement this plan, she began to show affection to her parents, moved them with reason, and played the emotional card.
"Anyway, I'm not thinking about getting married, you can't let me die alone, right? ”
It turns out that there are no parents who don't love their children.
Under Ye Haiyang's three-inch incorruptible tongue, her parents finally agreed to her plan.
In this regard, Ye Haiyang was very excited and began to prepare non-stop.
In 2017, she was fully prepared and took a plane to the American sperm bank to choose her favorite partner.
It is easy to do things with money, here, Ye Haiyang can choose.
The child's father's eye color, hair, height, personality, education, ancestry, etc., are all registered.
After selection, Ye Haiyang chose a man who graduated from an Ivy League school in the United States and has the ancestry of four countries to be the "biological father" of the child.
After choosing the child's "biological father", Ye Haiyang underwent ** surgery in the United States, and then flew back to China by plane.
For the whole process, Ye Haiyang spent 500,000 yuan, which does not include Ye Haiyang's fetal maintenance expenses during pregnancy.
Finally conceived in October, Ye Haiyang gave birth to a girl.
Counting Chinese ancestry, the child was labeled as a "mixed race of five countries" at birth.
Ye Haiyang loved this daughter very much and named her "doris", which means "beautiful gift".
Looking at this cute child, Ye Haiyang, the "tomboy", also began to soften.
Since then, she has a new identity: mother.
After the birth of the child, Ye Haiyang's life changed completely.
In the past, she liked to go shopping and party with friends, or stay up late at work in the unit.
But with "Doris", as soon as it is time to get off work, she will immediately run home, take care of her daughter, and play with her.
In the past, Ye Haiyang liked extreme sports the most.
But after having a child, Ye Haiyang completely quit exercising first.
"Safety is the most important thing, and I don't want my daughter to lose her mother one day because of my negligence! ”
For the sake of her daughter, she is willing to sacrifice everything she has, which may be the greatness of maternal love.
Like all mothers, Ye Haiyang dedicates almost all his love to his own daughter.
Although she hired a nanny, whether it was breastfeeding or changing diapers, she did it herself, and rarely let the nanny do it.
In the eyes of others, taking care of a baby is a very tiring job.
But in Ye Haiyang's opinion, being able to grow up with his daughter is sweet, even if it is hard and tired.
In this way, in the company of his mother, "doris" gradually grew up.
In the process of growing up in "doris", Ye Haiyang never concealed his love for his children, but showed it generously.
She filmed the growth of "Doris" and put it on the Internet, which soon attracted the attention of a large number of netizens.
There are many supporters, but she has also suffered a lot of criticism.
"A child's childhood will not be happy without a father in his upbringing! ”
"Giving birth to a child alone because you like it, this behavior is undoubtedly selfish! ”
The gossip on the Internet formed a huge **, which swept Ye Haiyang's social ** and had a great impact on her life.
As a last resort, Ye Haiyang could only stand up for an interview.
Faced with the doubts of netizens, Ye Haiyang only said one paragraph.
"I gave birth to a child by myself, we didn't steal or rob, we didn't harass the rest of society, and we lived our lives behind closed doors, what's wrong? ”
In addition, Ye Haiyang also expressed his understanding of his own experience from the perspective of equality between men and women.
"What would you say if I were a man? ”
"You're going to say buddy, you're so cool, it's really a matter of equality between men and women, it's not men who can dominate reproductive rights! ”
The words stunned everyone to the point of speechlessness.
In fact, in my opinion, childhood without the participation of a father is not necessarily unfortunate.
The most important thing is for the child to experience what it feels like to be loved.
For example, parents give birth to a child, but they have to work every day, and the child lives alone most of the time.
After returning home, my parents spent all their time playing with their mobile phones and brushing **.
I don't squeeze out time to take care of the children at all, and leave it all to my grandparents.
Growing up in such an environment, will the love you feel more and more comprehensive than "doris"? Not really.
As for the "selfish" argument, it is even more logically untenable.
It is true that Ye Haiyang gave birth to "Doris" and did not see the consent of the child.
But what parent has so many children agreed before having a child?
If everyone can't do it, why attack Ye Haiyang.
Fortunately, in the face of the gossip on the Internet, Ye Haiyang didn't care, and after explaining, he didn't pay attention to his personal attacks.
Facts have proved that Ye Haiyang is right, with the passage of time and the change of concepts, more and more netizens have begun to identify with Ye Haiyang.
Now under Ye Haiyang's **, you can see blessings every day, and it is rare to see negative comments.
Although there seems to be nothing wrong with a single-parent family, as the daughter grows older, some problems are exposed.
One day, while eating, "doris" asked Ye Haiyang a question.
"Mom, when are you going to give me another brother or sister? ”
This sentence made Ye Haiyang realize that because of the lack of his father's involvement, "Doris" was more lonely and longed for his family.
When she is an ancient, "doris" is alone, how should she face the world?
So, Ye Haiyang came up with the idea of having a second child.
After much consideration, she decided to choose the same sperm as "Doris's" father again to conceive a second child.
In this way, the children born are "the same father and mother" and have the same blood, which makes the relationship between the two children closer.
With previous experience, the preparation for the second child is much easier than the first child, and it has shrunk by two-thirds.
In February 2022, she was pregnant in October, and Ye Haiyang gave birth to her daughter and named her "Heidi".
After the birth of her daughter, the most excited person was not Ye Haiyang, but "Doris" as her sister.
She always rushed with her mother to take care of her sister, breastfeed her children, and put her sister to sleep, which made Ye Haiyang very moved.
It can be seen that "Doris" really longs for his family.
Once upon a time, Ye Haiyang also felt troubled, when his daughter grew up, how should he explain to them that he had no father?
For this reason, Ye Haiyang weaved a lie.
"I told them that I bought a big watermelon from the market, and when I cut it, they came out of it! ”
In order to make the story more convincing, Ye Haiyang also filmed**.
But as time passed, Ye Haiyang also figured it out, in fact, there is no need to hide it, it is best to tell her daughter the truth.
After all, in their upbringing, although there is no father's involvement, there is never a lack of love.
Ye Haiyang has put his heart and soul into them, no less than any parent, or even more than that.
In that case, why bother weaving lies?
In the traditional concept, we always think that no matter what, in the growth of children, there must be the company of parents.
Even if this companionship is not beautiful in the eyes of outsiders.
Sometimes, this kind of forcibly cobbled together family does more harm to children than single-parent families.
I have seen many children who grew up living in the quarrels of their parents, and grew up with serious mental illness.
The shadow of childhood requires them to spend their whole lives **.
As for the reason for the shadow, it turned out to be so ridiculous, just to give the child a complete "home".
Born in such a family, children cannot choose, but instead of parents separated, children will grow up healthier?
It can be seen that if you want your child to grow up healthily, parents are never the key, the most important thing is "companionship".
Only when children live in love and grow up will they know what love is and how to love.
Otherwise, no matter how many relatives there are, it will only make the child numb and embark on a sad life.