The teaching profession is good, why are so many female teachers single? Is it because the teacher is discerning?
The teaching profession is so good, why are there still so many female teachers who are single? Are teacher expectations really high?
We all know that there are a lot of them in modern society"There are only men and women left", that is, a large number of young people of school age choose not to get married. In the eyes of many people, teaching is a good career choice, especially female teachers, and it is an ideal career in the minds of many people. However, in fact, single teachers make up a significant proportion of today's female teachers.
For example, in my municipal middle school, there are currently more than a dozen single female teachers over the age of 30, and even two are still single after the age of 40. These teachers have good academic qualifications, stable incomes, and family conditions are not bad, why do they become abandoned women? Is it because their criteria for choosing a mate are too high?
In fact, the reasons are not complicated.
First of all, female teachers are very demanding when it comes to choosing a partner and are reluctant to compromise. Female teachers generally have good personal qualities, at least a bachelor's degree and a stable income. Therefore, when looking for a partner, they naturally have some relatively high requirements. Take a female teacher in my office as an example, she once said that there are several conditions that must be met to find a partner, otherwise it will not be considered.
First of all, it is better for the other party to be a person in the system, and ideally a civil servant; secondly, the academic qualifications must be at least at the university level; Parents should have a stable pension; There is a separate matrimonial room; The height cannot be less than 175 cm. These conditions may not seem harsh, but there are not many men who fully meet these conditions. Some men have good personal conditions, but their family conditions may be average; Some men come from good families, but may not work within the system. In short, these seemingly modest requirements are quite difficult to meet.
Secondly, most female teachers are not optimistic about male teachers, but they have difficulty in accessing male teachers in other professions, so they gradually lose good interpersonal relationships. Female teachers tend to have the most contact with men, and even if female teachers are willing to choose men, it is precisely men who are most disadvantaged to them.
In fact, the overall quality of male teachers is quite high, with at least a bachelor's degree and a good income. However, male teachers have few opportunities for professional development and may remain ordinary teachers all their lives, with few opportunities to become deans or principals. In addition, male teachers have relatively narrow social networks, making it difficult to establish a wide range of social connections, and it is relatively difficult for male teachers to seek help in a society like China, which values interpersonal relationships.
Female teachers are reluctant to find male teachers, but it is difficult for them to get in touch with men in other professions, and they gradually lose good networking opportunities.
Third, there are fewer good young people in small towns, and many good men are reluctant to return to small towns. We all know that in"Leftover women"In the comparatively more good women, and in"Leftover men"There are relatively few good men. In other words, good men rarely make it"Leftover men", making it difficult for many good women to find a suitable partner.
Especially in small towns, good men are even more scarce, and most men prefer to go out to earn a living, especially men with a bachelor's degree or above, and almost none of them are willing to return to small towns. As a result, it is difficult for female teachers to find very good men.
For example, in our local area, although there are many men from good families, most of them do not have stable jobs and do not have high academic qualifications. These men may have a good income and own an RV, but many female teachers look down on them and think that these men have no knowledge and therefore do not consider them.
Girls choose to pursue a career as a teacher in order to earn a stable life, but they do not go to small places to become teachers because it delays marriage. In the current difficult employment situation, it is not easy to find a stable job, and the teaching profession has become the first choice for many girls. Some girls even went to remote mountain villages to work as village teachers. But let's be honest, it can be difficult for girls to find suitable partners when they go to work as teachers in small places, unless they are willing to lower the bar for mate selection.
It is difficult for female teachers, especially those working in municipal and rural schools, to find a partner with a bachelor's degree or higher, let alone a male with a high degree in the system. In recent years, there are not many places to recruit local civil servants, and those who can be admitted are often from relatively advantageous families, and they may not be willing to marry female teachers. Therefore, the requirements of girls should not be too high, otherwise they will delay their marriage.
In general, the reason why female teachers become fully female is because they have a relatively strong concept of mate selection. If the criteria for mate selection do not change, it is likely that the number of single female teachers will increase in the future. The key to solving this problem lies in the reflection and change of teachers themselves.
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