In the emotional handbook, I read this sentence: "The most painful breakup is not the break after a quarrel, but the silence of each other." ”
These words were planted in my heart like a seed of silence. I imagine that when a man decides to give up on a relationship, he may not leave behind a string of complicated words, nor do he make drastic moves, he just quietly puts away the warmth that was once full of the garden and seals all the stories.
Such silence, without a voice, is as heavy as a thousand pounds, and it is difficult to erase it in my heart. When a person gives up on you completely, it's 1 word.
Cold
The story of Xiao Li and Xiao Wang once became popular in my circle of friends, and their love is like the kind of epic that burns with a breathtaking flame.
However, the flames gradually went out, and Xiao Li felt a chill that he had never felt before. He began to notice that Xiao Wang's reply to his message was no longer a second reply, but a cold "um" and "oh". His heart, as if he had been placed in the snow, felt more and more cold.
This kind of indifference is often the first signal that a man will give up on a relationship. Sometimes, indifference is more cruel than quarrels. It has no sound, but it can swallow up the temperature of love little by little.
As the writer Zhang Xiaoxian said: "What really scares people is not the indifference of the other party, but their own habit of indifference." Behind this indifference is the gradual retreat of the other party's emotions, which is the most heart-wrenching tragedy in the love story.
Suspicion
And when apathy becomes the norm, disgust quietly takes root. Li Bai wrote arrogantly in "Will Enter the Wine": "Life must be happy, don't make the gold bottle empty to the moon." But in the world of love, when a man begins to dislike a woman, the gold bottle is often no longer facing the moon, but facing endless troubles and disappointments.
I have a friend Amin, who used to complain to me about the change in her boyfriend. The impatience in small things, the prickly words made her feel alienated like never before.
These subtle changes, like the cracks in the relationship, start small, but slowly spread, and eventually cannot be repaired. This is another sign before giving up – no longer being tolerant and understanding, but gradually magnifying the other person's shortcomings.
far
Along with apathy and disgust, a sense of distance begins to permeate the entire relationship. As Steve Jobs mentioned in his speech at Stanford University, "You have limited time, so don't waste your time living in someone else's life." ”
When a man is determined to give up, he will begin to distance himself mentally and emotionally from the woman, life trajectories and points of interest will begin to disperse, and their world will quietly fork.
Su Mang, a strong woman who was in the limelight back then, once admitted in an interview that her first marriage ended because the world of the husband and wife was getting farther and farther away.
They are busy with their respective careers, and their emotional connection gradually thins, and they finally choose their own happiness. This kind of distance is not a simple physical distance, but a wider and wider gap between two hearts.
Emotional coldness, disgust, and distance are signs of giving up, and they are also the most unspeakable pain in love. They don't have obvious flashpoints like heated arguments, but they wear out like a trickle of water, and eventually make people tired.
In this paragraph, we reveal the psychological changes and emotional cooling in this process through the stories around us, hoping to make readers think and prepare for such emotional signals.
Love is like a play without rehearsal, when a man's heart begins to be cold, disgusted, and far away, that is the signal that he ended silently.
We don't have to be too sad, because every end is a prelude to a new beginning. Don't look for warmth in the ashes that have been extinguished, rekindle the flame of life, and let yourself live like a sun, even if you are lonely, you must be brilliant.
Don't forget, even in the coldest winters, spring will come. Let's continue to move forward towards the sun.